TTC after MC. The ups, the downs, the never ending Toad in the Hole and the relentless onslaught from the Facebook faceslaps!

Oh treacle I really hope it's not a cruel trick and the tiredness etc is a good sign. I hope the christening was ok too.

grittedteeth I know exactly what you mean withy the face ache! It's exhausting pretending everything is fine isn't it? Well done for getting through it though

Good luck tonight english! DH is back from a stag weekend tomorrow so providing this bloody bleeding (no pun intended) stops mucking me around I will be dtd. Gah! So nervous.

Only just catching up as ive had a busy couple of days.

im sooooo tired and I cant stop going to the toilet, I still have that feeling that im pregnant but af isnt due till the 14th so im probably just imagining symptoms

It was my godsons 2nd birthday today so dp and I have spent the afternoon in an indoor play centre surrounded by children, toddlers, babies and bumps, im exhausted and my face hurts from that pretend smile you do when your pretending everythings fine.

Thanks English :) it was ok. I found it hard and there were lots of babies and bumps but it's over now.

Either I'm pregnant or ill. Feeling sick again. Petty much always unless I'm eating - just like with my bfp - and sooo tired. Got up at half 7 but felt so tired I couldn't move out of bed. Just had a nap and am still tired.
I remember this feeling from being pregnant, the tiredness that is like being drunk.

I hope it's not just a cruel trick.

Hope, it is possible that perhaps you're not ovulating at the same point as before mc. Mc royally screws with AF. I didn't ovulate properly after my first mc, roughly every other month. Some ladies don't ovulate at all for a couple. Try not to stress though, it won't help.

Poas this morning... My line is getting fainter! I think by Wednesday is could have gone completely, that'll be two weeks since erpc! Going to try to DTD tonight...

Good luck today treacle. XX

Morning Ladies. I'm just getting ready for my cake based fundraiser for Tommy's, the baby charity, which my DH and I are hosting this afternoon. There will be several bumps and babies, so I'm bracing myself. This (or near enough, date wise) should have been our first's 2nd birthday party, so feeling slightly emotional about that. We're doing face painting and decorating. It may actually put us off having kids altogether...!

dulcet my ov sticks have been positive for the last few days too. Could be ov but I think they detect two different hormones whereas pg tests just detect hcg (I think)

The ladies on here pointed out that it would be a good idea to get a -ve before dtd just to avoid any confusion once we start ttc again but I wouldn't worry too much as blood tests will detect a pg if you have caught this month. Also any pg tests should get darker.

I'm really nervous about dtd incase it's uncomfortable!

I haven't done any pg tests oneday. Probably not wise? I don't have any! Will order lots of cheapies now! I did try an ov stick in the week and that was strong positive but probably pg hormones rather than ov. What a mess!

I hope so broody :)

Right, off to the christening. See you later!

And english good luck with the baby showers. Blimey, what rotten timing.

Morning all!

boozle the tent and torch incident made me chuckle!

hope is it possible that stress can delay AF, I've not heard that before. But fingers crossed that's not the case for you and it's great news!

dulcet I too am desperate to ttc again! At least I'll feel like we're actually doing something rather than just waiting for AF. My pg tests are definitely negative now. Did you also test for a -ve before dtd? I was hoping we would dtd yesterday for the first time but I chickened out even mentioning it it DH as I had a teeny bit more bleeding.

Weirdly enough though, I ended up telling myself the old 'at least you can get pregnant' line, as if it makes anything better. I find I say it more for other people more than myself - helps end the conversation easier.

FX for you tanny, so far so good and you are doing everything you can!

Good luck with the baby showers english, that's not an easy one to tackle. Keep strong!

We DTD for the first time since last night. It wasn't very comfortable but i'm not sure why really. Poor DH apologised afterwards as he thought he hurt me. It didn't hurt, just felt a bit odd. Today I feel a bit down too which I think is connected. We are TTC again straight away and yesterday being the first time - it's another step to admitting it is all over and we have to start again. Stupid body.

treacle, I felt sick pretty much from conception with dd - honestly, I thought I was going to throw up on the plane back home (she was conceived during a mini break in Germany). I never get travel sick so for me it was the earliest sign. With the dc I mc, I was sick about two weeks after conception. So, you never know...... Fx!

Ladies id say avoid alcohol, iys more harm than any good a d you dont want to be stressing over a glass of wine if something goes wrong, not worth the headache. Eat healthy and drink healthy.

Third day and No sign of AF. I had a cold sore a couple of days ago, maybe I'm stressing myself out of getting pg.. And it's delayed my second AF after mc? Could this be possible? Still waiting for pg tests to arrive..

Thanks English, good to know it's not just me. Good luck with the baby shower. I'm at a christening today.

Tanny, all the best. Glad they are looking after you!

I very nearly tested this morning. I feel so so sick. Only 8/9dpo though.

Morning you wonderful lot!

Treacle - I'm with you. Know one understands unless they've been through it. People keep telling the age old 'at least you're getting pregnant'! That's no fucking good if in any bloody keep one though is it!!! I'd rather people just say nothing. Hugs my lovely.

I think the odd glass during tww is more than acceptable and to be honest some nights it's bloody necessary! Don't feel guilty ladies, it's far to early to cause any adverse reactions. Maybe just don't get completely legless

Tanny, I'm so glad you now have a plan in place. I'll be keeping everything crossed for you. Stay positive hun.

Hope you've all got lovely weekends planned.
I have baby shower 2 of 4 to contend with tomorrow (2 more next month). Hopefully then there'll be no more for a LONG time. Will try to control my complete jealousy!

Hiya, goodness this thread is so chatty! Wow!

The to drink/ not to drink question is interesting. We're teetotal, and have been for 4 years. DH is an alcoholic and I would try to keep up in the past (like a twat), so not drinking is the only option! That said, I personally think drinking a little bit a few nights a week is not going to do any harm, as long as you don't have a problem with drink. The research into alcohol in pg suggests that it is a problem if you drink quicker than your body can process it, but if you had a glass of wine with food occasionally it wouldn't be an issue. I'm not sure about when TTC, but it can affect sperm mobility.

Well, in my bubble, I had an incredibly early scan today (probably counts as yesterday now) at 4+3. Saw a tiny blob of a sac, and have now been put on a treatment plan, as I have recurrent miscarriage issues. This involves taking steroids, shoving a pessary up my bum and injecting myself in the stomach. Amazing what you find you can put up with to have a baby!

I have another scan booked for a fortnight, and as I usually mc before 6 weeks, it will be a bit make or break.

Pg hormones and the progesterone pessaries are causing loads of symptoms, including insomnia!

I've spent the evening in a yurt, with beer and a man doing bizarre poetry I didn't really understand with a honky tonk piano! We were then caught by someone dtd in our tent when he shone a torch at us. Rather unique night all in all!

Wine is good. End of.

That, and we're watching the Alan Partridge movie

I've had the same thing marmalade. Bloody people.

Hmm I'm 7/8 dpo. Would I feel horrible having had more wine if I was pregnant?

I was thinking the same thing, I've decided to have more wine!

As am I foxtrot
My mother is sadly similar.
After she told me to have fun at a party tomorrow she then told me off because I have been grumpy for ages!
Yep, that would be because I miscarried mum! Sorry my grieving is such an inconvenience!
(More wine please)

Same foxtrot wondering whether to have another glass.
Having a really down night though. Does anyone else find that when you try and explain to people, they just don't understand and try to make you feel better.

You can't make me feel better!!! I feel shit!
Sorry... ranting.

Tonight I'm not pregnant

Tonight I'm drinking wine

And greysar, drink away!!!

It's all so shit for us all :(

Sorry to hear of the DM problems. Mine is the same :/

I'm meant to be at a christening tomorrow. Thinking of saying I'm unwell.