TTC after MC. The ups, the downs, the never ending Toad in the Hole and the relentless onslaught from the Facebook faceslaps!

I hope none of you ladies go through this cycle mess up. Either AF comes or you get BFP quickly. I doubt me getting pg before sept.. Cycles will take a few months getting back to normal

hope It is just so blumin cruel the changes in cycle after everything we have been through. To keep seeing bfn is so painful also. Let's hope that AF comes soon and things get back to normal. I have a feeling that I am going to be in the same boat as you next week.

Lou - after mc I had my first AF at cd35 and I'm waiting for my second AF currently I'm CD36 no sign of AF and I have been trying this month but I know the witch will come any day now. Just want to move on from this my cycles were usually 31 days and now they are so much longer! Got a doc appt on Thursday lets see what doc says.

Oh and smiling I am not surprised you had a meltdown, buying a house is incredibly stressful and on top of all this also - you are completely normal to be feeling down.

hope CD 36!!! How many cycle's post AF are you again - sorry - can't remember!

Cd36 no sign of AF ??

monten ive said some horrible things to dp since the mc, I dont mean any of it, im sure your dh will forgive you.

on unbaby related news, I am never buying a house again the middle of our chain are having mortgage issues so it looks like we wont be moving friday. Im trying not to stress but just had a big melt down that involved the self - pitying phrase "what have I done wrong, why is everything going wrong"

Oh monten sometimes we do just snap, I know I did on Saturday night! Don't worry in sure your DP understands.
How you doing treacle?
bythesea my cycle is always random sorry I can't help!

lou well done you! I have a similar problem with HPT and crisps- I have to have the lot.
I am weak and I POAS today, it was negative! Such a fool.
No symptoms other than randomly dark nipples and random right side pain.

monten AF is due on Sat/Sun but I am not convinced it is going to be on time and I will just keep getting BFN's. I wouldn't worry about DP, we all say things and the stress of this is just massive.

Morning all,

Hey monten thanks for that story about random cycles, I'm another with no sign of AF or BFP, nowt but waiting to be done!
Don't beat yourself up about what you said, the stress of wanting a pregnancy gets to us all, I think you just have to try and explain that and remind DP that you have the constant reminder of cramps etc to keep it all in your mind and it just made you snap.....

hope you made a drs appointment?

Hi everyone, how are we all?

Well done for not poas-ing lou! When is af due?

Any news from you treacle?

hope I'm so sorry neither af nor bfp arrived. If it provides any consolation, my cycle is normally 35 days like clockwork. One cycle, for absolutely no reason, it was 44 days. I was devastated, as I was sure I must be pregnant. I wasn't. But I did get pregnant the very next cycle. So for me, while annoying, it wasn't a sign of anything wrong.

I said something awful to dp last night and now I feel terrible. We are at my mums in France and he's been getting stuck into the wine. He also smokes, which I hate. Last night, after he polished off the wine, again, I said 'we'll that won't do your dodgy sperm any good'. He's really really upset and now I feel terrible. We've made up but he's now gone out for a really long cycle. He's been so good with me a now I feel awful. I wish I could take it back.

On the poas front, I have deliberately not brought any tests with me. We don't get back till next Thursday!! I'm getting a lot of cramps but no af. Big boobs. I'm terrified what will happen if af arrives.

Morning ladies

Marmalade I know what you mean about this new feeling being normal. I don't think that I will ever feel the same as I did before tfmr, it's changed me forever. I am starting to get my head around it now and I am sure that I won't feel sad as much as time goes by but I can't imagine that one day will go by that I don't think about no.1 that wasn't destined for this life, even if just a split second, 20 years from now, I will think about it every day.

On a more upbeat note and what I am considering somewhat of a triumph, I DID NOT POAS this morning. Hooray!

I treat biscuits like HPT's - complete in ability to save some for later.

I don't buy biscuits, I am thinking I shouldn't buy preggas tests until 7 days after missed period!

I'm so sorry dulcet that must have been really hard.
I can identify with that one boozle had similar at my school too.
I'm starting to wonder if I ever will feel anything but this again? I think this might be normal now.

Dulcet that super sucks. It's horrible isn't it? I burst in to tears the other day going back through the kids books to make sure they're all marked up to date and the only one that wasn't was done on the day I found out the baby had no heartbeat. Just super shit. Sending hugs

Hi MrsBee, sorry you find yourself here. I am only 10 days post-mc so don't have any ovulation stories I am afraid. Just hoping I do ovulate but its a bit of an unknown because any technology won't work when stupid body thinks it's pregnant!

Went back to gym classes today. Had to tell instructor I no longer had 'a condition'. That was hard. She had been giving lower impact options, as is normal if you have an injury or are pregnant. Today I was back to normal impact and it felt quite upsetting really. Just another thing that confirms I am no longer pregnant. One more instructor to tell though. Then I think that's it... everyone knows that knew before and life is back to normal.

That sucks.

Hi MrsB I bled for 2ish weeks don't seem to be OVing in this cycle- I'm 5 weeks post natural miscarriage.
The cycle is known as the WTF cycle!
So sorry for your loss, these lovely ladies have been a real source of support for me. Please feel free to rant away if you want to. I rant a lot!

boozle what a way with words you have - got me chuckling

hope trip to GP can't hurt xx

So sorry for your losses! Ttc after mc can drive you crazy. I hate google so much. I actually wish we Werent so dependant in technology and did it the old fashion way of just randomly doing it!

Another bfn.. Guess it's time to make a doctors appointment. July wasn't my month ladies.. Instead it was a deceiving month where I thought I was pg due to Af not arriving.. My cycle is definitely longer after mc. Miss te days when I knew my body so well and took it for granted...

I was the same - pretty sure I didn't ov in the three months following my mc then the ov sticks said I did last month but I'm not convinced - I had enough sex to inpregnate a convent full of nuns last month and still a bfn. This month I'm temping alongside to double/triple check that I really have.

Welcome MrsBee - I too had an anovulatory cycle imediately following mc#1, then I seemed to ovulate every other month.
I'm currently 2 weeks post erpc for mc#2 and hoping this cycle may be different. All I can tell you is, don't expect anything. Dodgy discharge, odd ovulation, weird af are all common post mc. Just look after yourself and get back to ttc when you feel ready.

HPT is getting fainter...

Fx for you Treacle.

Massive fish slaps for those rule breakers ignoring the Friday poas rule!!

Thanks treacle and Lou. Sorry you're here too! But thanks for the support, its good to have someone to ask all the stupid questions to.

Both in 2ww, really hope it's a bfp for you both.

Thanks for the info, sounds like I may not ovulate before af then anyway.
Think maybe we'll just see how it goes after bleeding stops then and maybe do opks after next af. I've been told to do a pregnancy test in a couple of weeks to make sure it goes negative.

mrsbee sorry for your loss and that you find yourself here. Ladies are lovely so you have found yourself in the right place!
I am slightly different in that I tfmr but was told it's the same as mc in terms of the body doing what it does.

I was 16wks, bled for 2.5 wks, light, AF 5 weeks after - all of this was 8 wks ago and currently on 2ww awaiting bfp or AF. Pretty sure I didn't ovulate before AF came although can't be certain, pretty sure I ovulated this month but ov sticks etc can be misleading after mc due to hormones.

Hi MrsBee,
So sorry you're here.
I didn't ovulate after I finished bleeding. Pretty sure as I was temping.

I have ovulated this cycle though and hoping to be pregnant again :)

Hello ladies.
I'm new here. Fingers crossed for those of you who are testing.

I had a miscarriage this weekend at 8+5, confirmed with a scan today. Hubs and I have had a chat and decided we want to TTC again straight away.

If anyone doesn't mind telling me their experience of ovulation after mc?

Thanks ladies xx