TTC after MC. The ups, the downs, the never ending Toad in the Hole and the relentless onslaught from the Facebook faceslaps!

Those who told friends and family about miscarriage, had you told them you were pregnant?

We only told my sister I was pregnant so I have only told my sister about the miscarriage.

I'm finding all this harder to deal with than i imagined. The miscarriage itself I have dealt with, but I find my anxiety has worsened. I worry that now the age gap between children will be too large and they won't bond. I worry I may never be able to have another child. I worry something is going to happen to my darling daughter.
I know I am so lucky to already have a child but I am so scared i won't have another healthy pregnancy.

Thank you Lou that is so sweet of you to say. Honestly I'm sure even if we all get bfp's we will always have that fear of it happening again. It does suck the excitement out of pregnancy so girls even though you get your bfp there is a long road ahead but we all need to stick together and support each other. Don't give up and keep going, I do think after mc you are very fertile.. Make the most of this opportunity.

I do feel sorry for our hubby's, they have pressure to perform but it's all worth it in the end if you get blessed with a child.. Have to keep reminding them!

It's been a long day, striking!!! I'm off to bed xxx

So pleased for you brummie I hope you find the strength to enjoy your pregnancy like you deserve to.

I read something that really resonated with me on another thread just now:

'Let's not lie, it's the lowest you're ever likely to feel, especially as it's so fresh. It is so normal and okay for you to feel this way, I felt miserable but (not sure if it will work for you) I focussed on the fact that 1 in 4 pregnancies ends badly, but because of you 3 babies made it. They'll never know it but YOU DID THAT, next time it will be your time.'

lou has the witch arrived or do you have a feeling?

brummie hope can I just say the way you are encouraging us to stay positive and reminding us you feel lucky us completely inspiring. I feel like two lovely people are leaving the gang and I am hoping everything goes to plan! It's been a pleasure virtually acquainting you both and in the nicest way although it would be great of you to check in, I hope you are only here with reminders of good news in the future xx

These bfp's are proof there is hope for us all. I know I am bfn for this cycle but I truly pray for each of us to get pregnant soon and have healthy babies xxx

Thank you so much all.

I guess with me the only thing that kept me sane was talking to other people and not hiding my mc away. I was open and honest with people and as a result people were saying "I'm so sorry, but look before I had x or y I had one too"

One colleague even had 3 mc's before her little one.

But they all said " you can get pregnant and you WILL get pregnant again"

I just kept chanting those words to keep myself positive, plus used preseed and Clearblue opk.

But the pressure on DP was awful - he hasn't orgasmed probably since the time we conceived. The pressure has really got to him and I was really starting to worry.

But I'm bricking it - everytime I go to the loo I expect to see blood. I guess if i do see blood I need to remind myself it's not always bad.

I'm v aware I'm v lucky to get a BFP so quickly and I wish for you all to get BFP's very very soon.

Oh and Treacle yes my first AF post mc was quite painful and v heavy

Sorry to hear you're struggling boozle

Tomorrow is a new day x

Congratulations brummie & Hope fantastic news xx

Boozle of course I will. I really think prayer has the answers and asking God for a baby and asking for forgiveness has really helped me. I think I was put in this situation to help me grow more wise and I took a lot of blessings for granted. This time I'm a lot more sensible and grateful for everything God has provided me. Even if this doesn't work out, God always has better plans for us.

Today has been a good day, my DH got a new job.. After the hardship there is ease

Lovely to see some bfps!!! Congratulations ladies xx

Thanks Hope can you throw one of those prayers my way? I don't know what's wrong with me - I'm an emotional wreck at the moment! Even picking up horse poo hasn't sorted my head out!

One day I know it's very hard, I would've done the same to be honest but my husband said no to dtd before my AF arrives and I can't thank him enough as it stopped me from going crazy from day 1 after mc.

I honestly prayed so much, and I will pray you all receive bfp's soon

english hope you speak so much sense but I'm such a control freak I just feel like I have to try to take some control back of the situation. We've dtd twice this week and it's set me off in my obsession with trying to track symptoms, downloading the fertility app again etc.

treacle after my tfmr in Jan my first af was very heavy and painful. Hope it's not too bad, take lots of painkillers.

oneday as English says I think it really does depend, how far along you were and how long hormones take to go down. First time i was 13 weeks and didnt get a period till 7 weeks later. My cycle is 5 weeks so i reckon my body took 2weeks to cotton on. This time i had a negative hpt 5 days after erpc so am hoping it will be sooner. I would be inclined to take first day of negative test as Cd1.

Thank you ladies. Oneday I really advice you not to go crazy with the testing etc after mc, wait for your first AF so you know your body has recovered and then ttc. I know it's hard waiting but it will save you a lot of headache and heart ache.

Don't give up hope keep at it ladies and the ovk sticks really do help of you have a busy lifestyle

Oneday, I really wouldn't try to chart this cycle. You could ovulate within days of negative hpt or weeks, or not at all. But good luck with it xx

Congrats ladies :)
So happy for you!

Has anyone found their periods after mc have been worse? Ouch :( was up in the night with the pain.

Your erpc was cd1 oneday :)

Hope the Drs appt went well hope I found it very strange that they just believed me and didn't do any tests! Hopefully you'll get an early scan for some reassurance too?

Ladies, can you help me? I've tire googling but I'm going round in circles. Do I treat the day of my ERPC as cycle day one or the day I first got a negative poas. I'm trying to approximately calculate when I might ovulate. I got a smiley face from opk on Saturday but I have no idea if that was because of left over hormones as I've had ewcm the last few days?! So confused and just want my body back!!!

brummie I was told after my miscarraige by the EPU that I would get a reassurance scan at 8 weeks the next time.

I also went to a private clinic in Hinkley which did a scan for £50 so may be worth considering depending where in bham you are.

Congratulations

Ah marmalade it truly sucks, the ups and downs of it all. We have had some good news today. Let's hope it's not long for your turn. Er, and mine!

Congratulations bfp gang!

Wishing you a wonderful wedding River
And FC!

Today is the first day I haven't POAS!
I just cannot face it today. Had a really low point last night.
Can't pick myself up today. Very teary, so I reckon AF must be on the cards.

hope and brummie that's amazing news!! Awesome.

hope and brummie congratulations ladies.
What wonderful news. Just what I needed to hear today!! Especially to hear it happened so quickly for you both after mc. You give me hope.
Wishing you a very healthy 9 months ladies xx

Thank you ladies. I had a D&C end if April, waited for once cycle, for my first AF cd35, then used clear blue ovulation sticks with dual hormone indicator and got a smiley cd16. I dtd a few days before that, on the day of ovulation and a day after and 1 day the following week. I tested like a crazy woman since 10dpo still getting bfn and then cd37 got bfp with clear blue digital. I just told my family and in laws today. They are excited but still keeping calm due to what happened last time. They went crazy with excitement last time so everyone is just being more careful.

For my doc app in 2 hours.. I don't think I'll get an early scan. Just want to go with the flow and not think about it.

The nurse advised me to wait until6/7weeks as at that point try should def see a baby and heartbeat. Going before can cause unnecessary worry.
See if your doctor and see if he'll refer you.