April TTC girls onwards to July! BFP's galore!

Just had a big nap. Woke up and AF IS HERE!!! bloody typical.

Why does he doubt lil?

I'd be surprised if you weren't!!!!

lilla least you will get an answer but I know what you mean you find out the answer to one thing then its waiting to find out about af

Hi me nice to have you back I totally feel your frustration - when we first started ttc DP reeeeeally couldn't be arsed and didn't like to 'perform on demand'!!! It's always been a bit like that though since we started living together anyway, because he's got a much lower sex drive and often prefers to stay up later than me and play some FIFA or GTA!! Strangely though, it's got much easier and actually over the last month and a bit I think the extra dtd has made us closer. I definitely recommend using some conception lube too, it's much more fun and it stops you from getting sore so you can dtd more
Do you think it might be worth not telling him when you're due to ov and just try to seduce him pretending it's all just for fun?!

Well I've had my blood taken and can phone up tomorrow late afternoon for results. Doc said he very much doubts I'm pregnant I just don't know any more, but if I'm not I really hope AF isn't late because of some serious problem.
Poas superdrug one this morning and thought I could see a faint line but was sooooooo hard to spot I could very well have been imagining it!!!
Anyone else imminently due a bfp??

Any pregnant ladies find they are having really vivid dreams ?! Omg they're so real !!

me your very level headed about it !! Maybe a month of not stressing about would help anyway and it does only take once !!

It's good to hear my DH isn't the only weird one! I honestly thought he was going to love the more regular dtd!

Ah well we'll just see how it goes. I'm not really in any hurry it's only cycle 3. The only thing is I really would like to get a bfp before my holiday at the end of September, otherwise AF will be due when I'm away - but that still gives us next month and September itself to try if I don't get it this month.

Sorry to hear that ducky adds more complication . I was in a relationship where he LOVED to drink it didnt end well I hope yours has a happier ending !!

S

Yeah to be honest I tried opks for one month (because I could feel tension rising about dtd) I never got a positive and found it all a bit confusing and got stressed only to fall pg that month !! Like cupcake DH was working late so I needed to stay up !! We started to use preseed which made it fun and I believe helped the swimmers ! I would use it again . Maybe try something new ? Feels bit silly I know esp if you've been together awhile . Sounds like you've got a good approach to it allthough !!

Hi poppet! No not using opks as we thought we should keep it low key at first. Tbh I think opks would make him even worse as then he really would have to do it that day and that's the bit he says he doesn't like, having to do it, like if someone said you have to eat only chocolate all day you wouldn't want it anymore!

I told him to man up and just do it and that's what caused the argument at the weekend, oops! I'm not really in a hurry, I'm only 27 and doing so so well at work so if it takes a while that's ok in theory, but as soon as we started ttc I just wanted it to happen straight away and I see babies and pregnant people everywhere!

me I remember that feeling !! We up'ed dtd from twice a week to 4/5 times. Bless dh he was onboard but it did take a lot of effort . Are you using opks ? Help target it and he can have the rest of the month off ?!

Ah me! Hope you can whip DH into shape once a week would take ages. I really don't think men understand all the TTC/pregnancy business and tbh I don't think they're bothered about it! Fingers crossed for you when you do test.

And sorry just catching up on everyone else! lilia I really hope they work out what's going on with you today! cupcake I'll be joining you on the 2ww shortly! ducky sorry to hear about your problems with DH :-(

Hi girls, I've been staying away from the thread for a while but could really do with some support. DH is being such a nightmare! Neither of us has a huge sex drive and before ttc our usual was about once a week. When we started ttc we both agreed that for the first six months at least we'd just keep it low key with no opks, temperature tracking etc. So the only thing I've been doing is using an app to track my cycle.

I'm only on cycle 3 and it's been a bit weird after coming off the pill, cycle 1 was 37 days and cycle 2 was 32. So this month we've been dtd for quite a whole trying to make sure we get ov.

Getting him to dtd though is starting to be a real nightmare! He said he didn't feel like it over the weekend and we had a bit of an argument and he said that he hates all this 'must do it today' mentality and we agreed we'd keep it low key to begin with. I said we are keeping it low key but that doing it at the right time is just common sense and that if we stuck to our usual once a week it could take us years! He reluctantly agreed to dtd last night but it was basically him trying to get it over and done with as fast as possible. I don't really mind that, I quite like a quickie, but I just don't understand why he's being so difficult about it - if anything out of the two of us he was the one who was more eager to start ttc!

Grr ... So I'm not feeling too hopeful for this month but we'll see ... AF will be due for me sometime between 19th and 23rd I think.

Well done cupcake! And good luck :)

Good luck today lil!!!

Cupcake fingers crossed for you

H's dad passed away last night now I'm hoping he doesn't turn to drink

That's great Cupcake. Well done you!
FX Lilla

Omg cupcake just read your post! Soooo chuffed for you!!!!!!

Cupcake and Ducky you deserve much better DHs
Ducky I really hope you and your H work things out. If you do decide to separate for a while maybe it will be better for you and the baby. It sounds like he's got some issues he needs to work out re drinking before he's ready to be a dad. My mum left her horrible husband when my sisters were babies and she did a perfectly good job of bringing them up by herself. My sister has also just got rid of her alcoholic partner and is so much happier and enjoying bringing up her two little ones. We women don't need men, especially when they don't appreciate us and just cause us more stress.

Lulu I think I get the results the same day - so fx that I get some sort of answer tomorrow. If it's still a bfn with the blood test I guess I just didn't ov this month/AF forgot to come!

Yaaayyyy so happy for you cupcake x

cupcake that's amazing well done !! Good to you for sticking to your guns as well !!