Home on the amazing and determined TTC after mc-ers. We know all about the ups and downs, trails and tribulations,, how it feels to live in the cruel world of Facebook baby bombs. Solidarity, sisters!

Thanks boozle. I really hope next month it's your month to celebrate! I think I just want it so bad that I'm convinced I am lol but will be disappointed in the end.

Patience patience patience !

Oh Hope, keeping everything crossed for you - I was gutted when AF showed her ugly head this month. Thinking positive thoughts in your general direction xx

Ladies this thread has kept me laughing all day!

Ooooh hope really keeping everything crossed for you x

Ladies I feel really tired and I keep needing to pee and I get slight cramps. I hope it's not all in my head. With my previous pregnancy I had cramps way before AF and I never ever got cramps before AF. No sore boobs either.. That happened couple of days before AF which was a big indicator AF was going to come.

Maybe it's all in my head. I'd be so upset if I don't get bfp this month as next month I won't be able to try

Haha boozle you're funny!

Oh my goodness, you guys make me smile! I realised I was putting on the performance of my life the other night - a porn star would have been proud, and then realised I was thinking about clearing out the PE shed at work and I was completely detached from the whole thing - DP seemed to think he was being a complete stud though - I would never have done that before all this! Think I'm getting too old too shag all the time - you're right though, I do panic a bit when I'm ovulating and he needs to 'finish off'! And the more we dtd the longer he blooming takes as well! Genius!

Evening, all.
I'm chuckling at bike!
I'm glad we are all in the same boat, I'm freaking out I will never ovulate again. I have had no signs at all.

Had a shocker of a day at work- I am so tired!

We have been DTD not every 2 days tbh we probably should but we just aren't that kind of couple!

I just wish I would either ovulate or AF would come.
I also thought I would catch in the cycle. I just don't feel it happening.

I feel obsessed already :(

Don't do it until you miss your AF!! I refuse to test again.

Hugs from me hope x

I have to say I havent been tempted to poas, not even last month, I think im to scared too.

I feel upset I'm 7dpo and I Poas! I don't know why and it negative... Gosh why did I do this

Bikes and syringes. The mind boggles....

Any of us that were having a crap day must be having a little smile reading all of this!!

I just laughed out loud at my desk. I thought you meant to say bike, which is even funnier.

Sorry just realised it was brummie who wrote the original post, not sebs.

PMSL @ bike - BLOKE!!!

After my first mc we were DTD every day, sometimes twice a day as I was desperate to catch the eggy. Unfortunately I didn't even ovulate before AF came but it did teach me not to try and have sex so often. First of all if your bike is older (say late thirties, early forties) his little fellas aren't as healthy as they were in his twenties. So it's actually better to allow his sperm 24 hours between ejaculating to replenish stores again. This theory goes out the window if you're in your twenties and early thirties I think so feel free to shag as often as you like!!

Thank you so much ladies - you've made me feel so much better. And I'm sniggering at syringes.

I know I've turned into a mad obsessive TTC woman which is soooo unfair and I don't want to be, I need to chill the fuck out. Another acronym CTFO...

Sex should be wonderful and fun - not an means to end

And breathe. It's his birthday this weekend so will be giving him lots of attention.

But thank you so much for sharing your TMI's - it just makes this crazy journey a little bit less lonely.

On another note, I saw my works occupational health this morning and she said she didn't need to see me anymore as she felt I'd recovered from the mc. Which is true, I feel physically I have. But she also said right as soon as you are pregnant again, come and tell me and we can let your manager know (confidentially) that you are pregnant so we can keep an eye on you and look after you.

I said I felt a bit weird work knowing I was trying for a baby and she said "why? You shouldn't. Every single person is entitled to a happy and fulfilling personal life and that includes a family. Happy people are happy employees"

I felt very touched by that and I realise I'm very very lucky to have such an understanding employer.

Oh my god, I love this thread. Literally, where else can you talk about shiz like this?

sebs I think its totally normal for things to get a little tense some times when ttc. I know me and my do have had arguments about it in the past – he does not like to feel like a baby making machine. I know some couples are quite open about it, for me and him I need to keep it subtle.

And yes I will admit to faking orgasms and positions that I don’t particularly like but he certainly does! Also, I’ve learnt that if he doesn’t want to have s@x one evening, then its much more productive to just accept that, and grab him the next day, rather than get in a massive strop and fall out with him and then not have s@x for days. This I have learnt from bitter experience.

Remember, those swimmers last ages so as long as you are dtd every couple of days from a few days before your fertile period to a few days after, you will be fine.

Ok now im going to share, tmi alert and im so so sorry dp!

I am currently in crazy ttc woman mode and as I mentioned we are doing it morning and evening, yesterday morning dp was really struggling to ejaculate, he was getting really upset and I was panicking, thinking what if he cant do it, in the end I decided to change to a position he likes but I dont particularly, it worked!

the moral of this tmi story is that Its too easy to get wrapped up in the ttc bubble and forget that dtd is supposed to be fun; poor dp must feel like I just want his sperm and not him.

He is entirely in agreement with dtd as much as possible but ive decided to take the pressure off of him im going to take things back to before we were ttc and when we first met, so that means sexy underwear, sex in every room of the house and texting him the rudest things I can think of to get him in the mood.

yesi might be thinking about ttc the whole time but he doesnt need to know that

OMG I read that 'take a syringe ' comment far too literally in my mind and thought you meant actually stick a needle in his balls lol. Moments later my sun addled brain actually realised you meant Turkey baster type thing

brummie take hopes advice not mine!!!! Mine was just information!!! Giggling out loud at myself. Sex is soooo much more enjoyable when there's no ov pressure!

Brummie it is frustrating if you are trying and for some reason it doesn't happen! Don't panic maybe you need to seduce him, wear sexy lingerie and dress up! Spice it up a little..

It does happen where when the fertile window comes we all turn into obsessive women trying to have a baby and the fun out of dtd disappears and becomes a chore. Spice it up and relax and enjoy it

brummie confession time.
The hub HATES sex on demand for baby making purposes. I googled this and found done people get a syringe and, well you know the rest. We only do it when he is working shifts and passing ships. Oh and I get stressed at the thought of him not doing his thing when I am on 2 bars or peak. Total meltdown one month.

I'm breaking out quite a lot.. is this normal after mc?

Morning all
Hope we are ok today. So random Tmi question.
DP and I DTD this morning... Sharing lots here - and anyway DP could not climax - and it's happened a couple of times (maybe it's his age - who knows. He's 44)

Anyway the heartless bitch in me thinks "oh my god, how can I get pregnant if he doesn't climax??"

I'm worried the pressure is putting him off. It's probably not and I am reading waaayyy too much in to it. And this morning my ov stick was still on low fertility.

But I know if I was on peak fertility and it happened I'd be really stressed and convinced I'd missed my window.

I do not want DP to feel like a baby making machine but I also really worry...

I'm a bad person. Please slap me with a fish!!!!

sebs as for the weigh in, pop to loo moments before you get on scales and wear something lighter than a sarong