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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Home on the amazing and determined TTC after mc-ers. We know all about the ups and downs, trails and tribulations,, how it feels to live in the cruel world of Facebook baby bombs. Solidarity, sisters!

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Justonemoretime · 07/06/2014 06:53

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

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broodylicious · 09/06/2014 19:23

How've you got on today monten Hope you're feeling as well as can be expected. Hugs for you Thanks
Oh yes, I kicked off re that text. I'm normally incredibly placid and easy going but - as everyone on here knows from their own sad experiences - grief can make you act very differently. I did used to be a journo and I have my own PR firm now so I am a fan of the press but never normally personally, just professionally! I saw red that day and just contacted the health reporter straight away. I just hope no one else has to suffer the misfortune of an ill timed text in error.

Boozle80 · 09/06/2014 18:31

Ah, I use the digital tests and get the same thing. Lots of smiley flashy faces never turning to a solid - I've decided to ignore it or I may cry! Xx

Skippingthroughthefarm · 09/06/2014 17:34

I use a clear blue fertility monitor i have all the hormones i need its detecting them but its not detecting OV it has gone back to low today after highs since CD21

Monten · 09/06/2014 11:28

Thanks everyone. Just waiting to leave for hospital, starving.

You have all made me think though - do I need to call my midwife and tell them what's happened to cancel by 12 week scan? Or do the notes automatically get sent over from the hospital?

marshmallowpies my experience of the EPU wasn't great but my experience when I had my nuchal and subsequent CVS with other unit there was excellent. Its a research hospital so the treatment is very good, Prof Nikolaides actually invented (or as good as Smile) the nuchal test. I too am grateful to know I've got such a good hospital nearby.

Broodylicious love the image of you causing a massive stink and phoning the local press! I do believe, if men were the ones who got pregnant a lot of the sh!t we have to put up with wouldnt happen. And I'm so sorry, yesterday I forgot to reply about your horse. That's absolutely awful, poor you. So sad Sad

Just that's awesome, well done to you both. I will happily donate. I meant to say, when you talked about your outdoor swimming, you reminded me that that's another thing I love and need to do more of. I really must make sure I start doing some of these things again.

Skipping are you sure you're not ovulating? I was positive I wasn't and turned out I was

Boozle80 · 09/06/2014 11:12

Sorry Monten - predictive text strikes again! Xx

Boozle80 · 09/06/2014 11:11

I got a letter through two weeks after my second eprc congratulating me on my pregnancy and offering me free vitamins...

I'm thinking of you today Mortan, hope all goes as well as it can. Big hugs xx

marshmallowpies · 09/06/2014 10:32

Oh and I did get a text reminder about my 12 wk scan last time, but when I called the number it was an automated service so I could cancel without speaking to anyone, thankfully.

marshmallowpies · 09/06/2014 10:31

Monten I was at the Kings EPU too, it's the place no-one wants to be but they were so kind to me there. And as I already have a DD aged 2, having her bouncing round the waiting room surrounded by first-time pregnant women and partners who were all looking worried, felt very awkward. But I'm so glad to live close to Kings & know I have a really good hospital so close at hand.

My news: still no sign of period. Still haven't POAS. Can't buy pregnancy tests in my local superdrug as they all know me in there. Tomorrow maybe I can go a bit further afield and buy one on the neighbouring high st. Is it weird that I care so much about being 'seen' buying pregnancy tests?

sebsmummy1 · 09/06/2014 10:07

Skipping - how are you sure you are not ovulating?

mrsdiddlydoo · 09/06/2014 07:21

thinking of you today Monten

broodylicious · 09/06/2014 07:02

Also joining in with the shaking fists at NHS texting debacle, monten and treacle. I had an appt reminder two weeks after my mc. Called them to ask what it was for and woman said "it's a maternity....oh sorry, I can see it's been cancelled actually." Cue me getting all emotional and angry (dangerous combo) and complaining to the patient liaison people and also telling the local press. When I went in for my procedure the other week, the head of midwifery was assisting and she apologised afterwards for it all.

silverine · 09/06/2014 00:58

Ooh g&t exciting!!
Gail I'm sure they should offer early scans after mc, they did for me at 8 weeks. I remember as it was valentines last year (but was bad news again). Fx all will be fine with you, I'm sure!

Boozle80 · 09/06/2014 00:28

I found you! Hurray! Xx

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Justonemoretime · 08/06/2014 22:29

I know its not really tge place, so I'll post this once and leave it at that. My DH and I are fundraising for Tommy's, to fund research into miscarriage and stillbirth. I'm swimming 2 miles and he's cycling 100 miles. If you feel like sponsoring us, here's the link. Absolutely no expectation or pressure. Wish us luck, though! uk.virginmoneygiving.com/RossisRiding
:)

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Monten · 08/06/2014 22:25

If you've had an MC then you should get referred for an early reassurance scan on the NHS, that's my experience anyway.

Skippingthroughthefarm · 08/06/2014 22:25

anyone else been in the situation i am in of not Ovulating ? looking for people to talk to

GandTnow · 08/06/2014 22:11

I'm up North! Just been looking on the internet and it looks like there are a couple of place that do do private scans, at £100 a go! I'm really hoping that they'll offer me one on the NHS!!

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Justonemoretime · 08/06/2014 22:04

How's my pain? Its a 7.... More morphine please ;)

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Treaclepie19 · 08/06/2014 22:04

Good luck monten xxx

I had two of those texts. Grrrr.

Monten · 08/06/2014 22:00

G&T I would get yourself registered - a BFP is a BFP!

I went to Kings EPU for my early scan, its horrific but you can just self refer. You need to get there before 8am tho, otherwise the wait is hours.

Which reminds me, the day after I went for the last scan, which confirmed MMC, I got one of those 'please rate your recent experience with the NHS' texts!! Did anyone else get one of those? Unbelievable.

Just - aahhh, the drugs. Last time, as I was coming round, I banged on and on to the nurse about what a lovely man the anaesthetist was, and how he had lovely kind eyes, and insisted she said thank you to him personally from me. Love the drugs.

GandTnow · 08/06/2014 21:50

Thinking of you Monten Thanks

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Justonemoretime · 08/06/2014 21:49

Good luck tomorrow, Monten. You will be fine, enjoy the painkillers.
G&T, where abouts are you? If you have any weird spotting (which you won't), Uch Epu at Euston, London take walk in admissions for early scans. No need for GP referral. Fx you won't need it.

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broodylicious · 08/06/2014 21:47

Will be thinking of you monten Thanks

GandTnow · 08/06/2014 21:35

Thank you so much everyone. It's wonderful to be have you lot who totally understand what it's like.

Not sure what to do re Gp etc. Obviously not actually due AF til Friday (I tested early) My GP are rubbish at getting you in touch with MW until about 6 weeks. Im not even sure that they offer early scans but would like to be on their books just incase something happened. Should I get in touch now or wait until AF due?

Monten · 08/06/2014 21:32

Congrats GandT and GailLondon

Sorry you're still experiencing bleeding mrsdiddlydoo that's so frustrating. Its just agonising waiting for your body to sort itself out. All you want is for your body to get back to normal and then to be pregnant again, and days feel like weeks and weeks feel like months. I'm so sorry. Your body is not useless though and it will sort itself out. In fact the bleeding is a sign that it is trying to do just that. Really hope it stops soon.

Just logged on to Facef@ck and saw a photo of my gorgeous new nephew my SIL posted, a week old today. I always knew this would be hard, he was due a month before my first one would have been, but I always hoped I would be pregnant by the time he was born. This is even worse than not being pregnant at all Sad

And another friend commented on the picture, talking about her own newborn. I know the pregnancy was her first try. Why do some people seem to have it so easy? It seems so unfair.

Wish me luck for my erpc tomorrow