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Home on the amazing and determined TTC after mc-ers. We know all about the ups and downs, trails and tribulations,, how it feels to live in the cruel world of Facebook baby bombs. Solidarity, sisters!

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Justonemoretime · 07/06/2014 06:53

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

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Marchhairy · 16/06/2014 11:26

Morning.
smiling hope having a good cry helped- if people make twatty comments they deserve an un-ladylike response.

50 not long till wine o'clock. My mum is staying with me as DH is away so think I'll have to hold off.

I'm not sure whether I can face trying again yet. DH has been working away through the whole miscarriage so think we just need time together. See what happens...

Littlelady33 · 16/06/2014 11:22

Smiling you poor thing - very insensitive although it no doubt seemed harmless.

50degreesintheshade · 16/06/2014 10:44

Afternoon,

I hope your observation goes well today treacle.
I'm also feeling sorry for myself today smilingthroughgrittedteeth. It was a year ago today that I went for my second scan and it resembled a snow storm :-( I had no idea just how bad things were going to get and I will never forgot what that scan looked like :-(

Anyway had a cry and only a few hours to go before it is wine o'çlock!

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 16/06/2014 09:54

Morning, im feeling ridiculously sorry for myself this morning and im exhausted, have just done the school run and am now having a sit down because I havent got the energy to do anything.

I practically growled at one of the mums at school who made a joke about how tired I look and to wait till I had children of my own to find out what real tiredness is Angry. I was very unladylike in my response Blush got into the car and burst into tears.

Hope today goes ok treacle

Metalhead · 16/06/2014 08:39

Morning ladies, welcome to the newbies and congratulations to Friday's BFPs!

I'm mainly lurking at the moment in an unsuccessful attempt not go obsess. I'm a week into my 2ww and feeling ridiculously convinced that his is our month (mostly because my cm is more creamy than the last two months Confused; just setting myself up for an almighty crash down to earth next week... but for now I'm calling it positive thinking! Smile

sebsmummy1 · 16/06/2014 08:28

Well cd11 for me today and ....... CBFM still reading low!!! On he plus side I now have EWCM and we DTD last night as I was horny. Obviously hoping the monitor gives me a high or a peak at some point but I'm also aware it has been screwed over by my last two cycles during mc so diesnt have a clue what's normal for me at the moment.

RedBunny · 16/06/2014 08:20

Last two months I DTD every day for the whole week of my fertile time and laid down after and it still didn't work! I feel so clueless. I can't believe how little sex I had before meeting my husband as I was so worried about getting pregnant. However it's really not that easy after all....

RedBunny · 16/06/2014 08:16

Looks like AF is finished today so shall be back to ttc again. I found last month I felt really positive after ovulation because I had hope. However it was for nothing. Now I'm just scared of it not working AGAIN! My doctor on Thursday said it's a little odd as I've gotten pregnant immediately before but I'm not now, but perhaps this tissue left was acting as a sort of contraceptive. So.... I'm hoping that was the case. But I still feel very worried somehow too!

Littlelady33 · 16/06/2014 07:33

Treacle completely understand but agree with others that if you're ready it can be very comforting and make you feel normal again. My cycles are clearly still crazy but had a positive opk last night and ewcm this morning! We dtd on Sat and will tonight - ladies in your (vast!) experience we should probably try through this week?

Treaclepie19 · 16/06/2014 07:13

Thanks office. That's the thing isn't it, having no cover if you're off.

Ill let you know how it goes... not got much hope as I haven't put a lot of thought into it.

officelady · 16/06/2014 06:08

Treacle I found dtd after my miscarriage made me nervous too - wine helped. Lots of lovely fucking wine! Good luck for your lesson obs today. I work in a school too (I think there's a few of us on here) so know the pressure to be at work and functioning normally is huge, not to mention the lack of cover for your job if you are absent. But if you are not coping, get signed off again if you think it will help. I think you need to put yourself first. Screw sports day!

I have no idea where in my cycle I am. Officially on day 25 but my temps have been a bit all over the place this month. Although I've forgotten to measure it a couple of times, and had lots of really bad nights "sleep" so probably not accurate anyway. Didn't manage to get a +ve opk mid-cycle either. My last 3 cycles have been 23 days, 20 days and 26 days. Pre mc I was usually 30 days like clockwork. Who knows what the fuck is going on! I will be POAS on Friday if no af before then.

Boozle80 · 15/06/2014 23:18

Fuck, fuck, fuckity fuck and bollocks. I rather like swearing, it makes my mood slightly better...

Treaclepie19 · 15/06/2014 22:57

Thanks brummie, I'll just have to go for it and see I guess :)

Brummiegirl15 · 15/06/2014 22:42

Don't be nervous treacle

I've found DTD actually really comforting in a strange kind of way.

Treaclepie19 · 15/06/2014 22:31

Haha brummie!

Well cd3 of bleeding and it's calming slightly. Af would normally be a few days longer. Let's see what tomorrow brings.

Will be starting to dtd as soon as af goes. I'm nervous :/

marshmallowpies · 15/06/2014 22:29

Hugs to everyone today - after my MC started on Mothers Day I was dreading history repeating itself today, I didn't want Fathers Day to be ruined for DH.

We took DD to the park and she promptly drove into the back of my (bare) heel with her scooter which was agonising pain. Left me feeling exhausted and feeble so spent the afternoon on the sofa under a blanket with DD while DH had to do some work.

Not a fun Fathers Day for him...but the 'feeling exhausted and lying under a blanket' sensation is definitely 'early pregnancy' for me. Any symptom is good, even if I feel shattered.

Fingers crossed for us all there will be happy Fathers Days and Mothers Days ahead xx

Brummiegirl15 · 15/06/2014 22:20

Was about to say I love a good fuck... Which is highly inappropriate and not what I meant!! In fact what I actually meant was I love good old swearing rant.

Keeping up at the back?

I've not even had wine tonight, but I have scoffed a packet of fruit gums AND a packet of squashies. Can feel the sugar and E number high!!!

Big fat BFP's coming our way

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 15/06/2014 22:04

Now thats why I love mn, even though I feel shit youve all made me smile, big squeezy hugs to you all x

Monten · 15/06/2014 21:52

Yep there is, pour yourself a mug of fucking tea everyone and we'll all have big fat BFPs quicker than you can say fuckity fuck

Justonemoretime · 15/06/2014 21:43

Monten, there's fucking tea? Got to get me some of that...! ;)

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Treaclepie19 · 15/06/2014 21:40

I agree. It's all shit.

No wine for me either. Preparing for my lesson obs. Ugh.

Monten · 15/06/2014 21:38

Not even vino for me!!! Oh well, I'll have a large mug of fucking tea.

You're not ranting smiling it is shit.

We were pregnant and now we're not and it's fucking shit.

I'm really enjoying the swearing.

Fuck.

Brummiegirl15 · 15/06/2014 21:32

Not at all smiling , we feel your pain. That is why like a loser I POAS on a Sunday afternoon 3 wks after a mc.

What was I thinking??!!!!!

Now I just want my AF to be here, so I can get passed it, go and spend a fucking fortune on clearblue dual thingy opk's so we can DTD and try and be pregnant again.

I was pregnant and now I'm not and its so horrible and shit and unfair.

We will get through this, we will feel better, we will get our BFP and our little beans will stick.

Maybe it's because it's Fathers Day we all feel shit. Too many happy pics on fb. I love my Dad dearly (and he'd be so upset if he knew how upset I was) but I wanted to be saying to DP "it'll be your turn next year"

Big hugs and large glass of vino to everyone

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 15/06/2014 21:21

Sorry that was a bit ranty

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 15/06/2014 21:21

monten I was on those antibiotics and was really ill on them, my gp told me to take half a tablet instead of a whole one, I was fine on that.

im a big snotty, red eyed mess, I just cant stop crying its so bloody unfair.

Its the fact im 3 days early which has thrown me I was gearing myself up for wednesday, to start today when im never early has side swiped me and I feel broken.

I want my baby, I want to be pregnant, I want another baby and I want life to stop being so fucking cruel and unfair!