Hoping for a positive in October!

endlesslove, sorry to hear that . How long is your cycle normally? Wait till tomorrow morning to test again, you may have a better idea if af will arrive then.

Hello girls

Well CD35 today. Getting very annoyed as keeping thinking AF is going to arrive but she hasn't yet. Not getting cramps or pain, just a funny tugging feeling every now and again.

I'll be honest, I did a test this morning and it was a BFN. I cried. So fed up today. Do you think I should test again?

I have no other symptons of pregnancy and just wish I did.

Mrs, tell you FIL to mind his own business - goodness me! hope your ok though.

Any good vibes would be much appreciated as I do feel so low today. Sending you all tons and tons of babydust (and me!).

xx

Oh no FOTS - PMSL at FIL giving you that book, beards and all no doubt!! MIL sounds like a pain - it is a privilege in my view for the bride to include the MIL in her choices, not a right! My MIL is the sweetest person on earth, I am truly blessed.

Hello RachelRose.

Where's Babymad? are you out there? are you ok?

Thanks RachelRose. I've got everything thats possible to be crossed crossed!!
No Sideways-I conceived the same cycle as my Mirena came out. Which-infact a nurse friend told me was way too soon and could have had an impact on pregnancy. But no medical basis to that I don't think! Just bloody bad luck after 2 normal pregnancies.

mrs mc j. i think i'm going to get the same from my fil soon. he gave dh his 1970's copy of the joy of sex last weekend. we've been married 5 months. he's also 73 and a dif generation

however, the tactless comments are less than they might be as not seeing much of them at moment - mil ripped into our wedding (said she felt 'left out') so not really seeing them much lately! families!

Thanks spook, the ectopic sounds awful but like you say at least you know you can still conceive. You give me hope - I'm not far off 40 myself . did it take you long to conceive?

MrsMcJnr - sorry about the row with FIL. He probably had no idea how insensitive he was being, in his day that's what you did as soon as you got married. Bet he won't mention it again though

Oh dear MrsMcJ - What a rotten thing your FIL said. Age is no excuse for being so rude! . Sounds like you handled it well and I doubt he'll make the same mistake again. Its such a valuable lesson that not everyone finds it easy to have children and I cringe at some of the things I've probably said to people - nothing like you FIL, just think I may have said "So, when do you think you'll have kids?" to people - not anymore though.

Welcome Spook - We'll all be keeping our fingers crossed for you around the 15th and hope AF stays away.

Sideways - I really relate to what you said. I have a DS who is 2.6 yrs and I also worry that with every month that passes, its another month in the age gap. I know it wont really matter too much and their personalities will dictate whether siblings get on more than age, but it does play on my mind. Like you, I'm going to do some reading up and give myself the best chance over the next few months. Like you say MrsMcJ, there are still 2 more chances til Xmas!

Hi Rubyroo - fingers x'd AF stays away - its not over yet.

Thanks Sideways-sorry if your AF is coming. And what a bummer if DH is away all month
Hi MrsMcJnr. It was pretty horrific but I suppose at least it shows I can still conceive. I'm 40 in March and with a new partner (already have 2 DS's) and would truly love to have a baby with him.
Tell you FIL to keep his beak out BTW. The last thing any of us need is that kind of misguided comment.

DH goes on CD1 and comes back on CD16. I ov early though - around CD10, so that's why the whole cycle is out.

Thanks Natty. Your temps on the other hand are looking good! .

Sideways - so sorry. Don't beat yourself up. A holiday is only half a cycle (unless you are really wealthy!) and even if everything is perfect, there is still only 1/3 chance (I think that's right). Is the next cycle definatley a miss? is DH away for whole week around ov?

I was telling myself this morning that if Christmas is only 12 weeks away, that means I've got 2 more chances beforehand but as long as it does happen, will a cycle or two really make the world of difference to us then? and we will get there!! The TW book is good, I have read it and felt more in control of things having read it. Hang in there. Sending big hugs and a virtual bottle of wine for us to open a bit later in the week (can't help still hoping!)

Welcome Spook! Sorry to hear about your ectopic that must have been very scary. I know we are talking about the dark ages but my gran had an ectopic between my mum and my aunt and then had 3 more kids on the one side. Babydust to you!

Meant to tell you all yesterday but I had a massive row with DFIL on Sat night. He had had quite a lot to drink and said to me "you've been married 4 months now, best get yourself to a dr". Well, I exploded which was probably really mean, he is 73 and a totally different generation but I gave him whatfor, told him that I did not need his pressure, that he had no idea what our situation was and if we were even TTC and that in case he had not noticed, I am not a 20 year old who's never used contracpetion and that I am entitled to give my body a chance" oh dear! No offence to any 20 year olds who have never used contracpetion out there who are having trouble TTC, it is just my way of accepting that I am 32 and have had 18 years of the pill and therefore cannot expect immediate results!!

Hi spook, welcome . Fingers crossed for you.

Hi everyone. Can I join!!
I had an ectopic pregnancy in July and my cycle is back to normal-though I am one tube down!
My AF not due till around about 15th but like we all do I am waitng in hope...

AF showed definite signs yesterday afternoon, there's no way it coul dbe anything else, even though I keep wishing it away!

It's the fact that I was on holiday and so relaxed and can't even get pregnant then, plus the fact that dh is away all this month so that's it till December.

I think I may get the Toni Weschler book and get really serious and read up about it while he is away.

I'm just really conscious of the fact that I'm getting on a bit and every month increases the age gap with dd.

oh thank you Sideways, I just don't have a good feeling . How are you? was it just spotting or do you think AF will arrive tomorrow? hope you are feeling less sad today.

Hi Mrs - sorry to hear temp has dropped again fingers crossed you get a longer LP this month. x

MrsMcJnr, sorry about the temps, don't give up hope just yet though.

Morning ladies, me temp dropped down by .2C again this morning so even though I am still above my coverline, there is nothing special about my chart this month compared to previous cycles I also feel crampy so suspect that AF is on her way, I know I shouldn't give up hope yet but I feel like I need to prepare myself for the inevitable. Thanks to all sending me good vibes though, I will try my best to stay positive.

Hello Rubyroo, sorry you are hope AF stays away, some people don't get a BFP until well past 21dpo you know, the high temps are still worth hoping on. Hope it works out for you but I know what you mean about the tell tale cramping!

Hello Coggy! I agree with you and Natty, I think the progestrone does give you sore boobs. Mine have been sore since about 4dpo and they are never normally so hopefully, if I do not get my BFP (and I am not longer confident) I'll get a longer LP.

Thanks to everyone for the kind wishes about my job, think I have one for another month at least so am trying not to worry yet.

Hello Natty & hello Rubles hope you both have a better day. Hello Andi - thanks so much for all your good vibes!

Hello N&T&B - do you think the software is male?

Babydust to all, let's keep thinking positively and we will all get those BFPs!

ooo my tocof software has just predicted that i am pregnant! tee hee...

That was a little sympathetic smile BTW!!!!!

MrsMc (and any other TCOYF software fans) there is a NEW charting thread for us to collect and ponder our data!!!!!

Come join us!!!

Good.

Thanks coggy - have a big bruise on one arm now the other is not to bad.

Oh well on wards and upwards - better mood today can you tell.

Mrsmc- short and sweet - just wanted to add more good luck vibes to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry..also meant to say....

......Rubles....I hope you feel better this evening.
X

Natty...........it's the progesterone that keeps the egg implanted and womb lining nice and fat so I guess that's why we have aching boobs before AF and when first pg.

I don't....which in hind-sight........may be because my progest. is low which is why my womb lining doesn't last very long?????

Hark at expert Coggy here!!!!

Sorry you're bloods were grotty...I hate them all......needles, blood tests and the nurses who use you as a pin-cushion while they talk about about their recent Cornish holiday.
Grrrrrrr!!
Can you tell it's happened to me a few times???!!!

MrsMc.........all I'm going to say is.......
...........ooooooooooooooooooh!!!

Oh...and.....hope today went well for you.
X

hi everyone, i don't think i'm going to swell the ranks of bfp's this month. tested again today this afternoon couldn't help it but still bfn am now 14dpo no af but stomache pains like its on its way. temps still up but not sure it means anything if keep getting bfn's. am on day 29 so must have long luteal phase i think? sending hugs out to all others feeling down and remember its not all over yet this month.