TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :) new thread!!

thanks Laura

Chin up Lil it'll be your turn soon.

sil had her baby today, a day earlier than planned. obviously happy for them but feeling a bit raw about it.

m33r so lovely to see you! Hope you're feeling well and pregnancy is suiting you!

It's been a lovely saturday minus being on call for work! Feeling very appreciative of the life I have at the moment and feeling positive about stuff which is a relief! Keep thinking the hospital will know by now how DH's sa result is and how much that could affect us...just got to make it to Wednesday now (hey at least it's a lay in and a day off work!!)

Morning ladies,

Had a letter yesterday from gynae changing my app to late September how annoying but I spose it gives me more time to loose weight.

Im only 26 but it doesnt make you feel any better I can tell you that!!

Lindsay I vote taking tests with you and only doing if AF doesnt turn up!!

Vicky Im sorry your having a hard time with your DH it does sound like hes depressed it might be worth getting him to go to docs and seeing if they can help him. If they can itll be a bonus for you because hopefully he start to understand that dtd might help.

May it really does fly, itll be three month in september since my first appointment and its going really fast!!

Hope everyone is okay!!

Hiya! Happy Friday!

How dare they do that to you Lindsay! Where did the room go exactly?! That sucks you have to wait even longer. At least you have your hol to look forward to, sounds amazing! Because my last 2 cycles have been a few days longer, I'm likely to be getting my af after next the week we are on hol :-( if they had been my average 29 I was due 5 days before and it was going to be over, now I'll have to pack tampons!

Laura I'm 34 and a half so feel your pain on the old crusty dinosaur thing! Wish I was 33 again, didn't sound so bad!

Seems a few of us have appointments next month. Good luck to us all!

Glad to hear some good news on a Friday ladies :)

I'm on cd9 now, so the week and a bit of shagging will commence tonight.. Sick of timed dtd now but never mind...

Have a great Friday night all!

Lindsey definitely don't test. Enjoy your holiday and the best bit will be the excitement building if still no af when you get to the end of your holiday and can then test!

Good luck for all appointments and let me know what to expect for mine. Already feel nervous.

Laura I'm 33 too as are quite a few on this thread so quite a bunch of dinosaurs! Still we're the right side of 35 which is all important.

Lindsay - I vote don't test! Go and eat, do mad jetski things and enjoy yourselves! This is the only instance where a +ve is not good - if you test and it's not then you'll be down on your hols and if you are then you'll not want to eat and drink!!! Thinking positive thoughts!

Glad you've all got your appts at last! Ours is next week having waited since July which I don't think is too bad and I only had 2 drs appts and got referred on the second. I'm 33 though now and feel like an ageing dinosaur with time running out!!

Brilliant news maybug! I've felt a bit more positive since my first fertility appointment, I think because it's as if it is in someone else's hands now. Pressure is off a little. It will fly in :)

Hi girls! Hope everyone is OK. Crossing my fingers for your DH vic that there is some improvement.
hibou I hope AF doesn't come and that your time here is non-existent! If not, we're an OK bunch to hang around with for a while :)

Well, surprise surprise the NHS buggered up my HSG, which was meant to be this Monday, and called me at 4:30PM on the Friday so cancel it because "the room didn't exist anymore". Umm, okaaayyyy... Can't call until my next day 1 and I will be on holidays then so I've probably got a 2 month wait now. Grrrrr!!!

On a happier note, remember my 12 day LP last month after over a year of sub 10 days? Well, that was ov-ing on day 16 of a 27 day cycle. CBFM says I ovulate today, day 15! Maybe it is creeping back to a "normal" cycle!!! So far DTD has only been cd10, 13 and tonight (likely, as we are going out for dinner and stuff). That's pretty good going for us, tbh Work is just insane. I'm hopeful that O-2 and O-day itself would be good enough though?

Here's a wee poll question (keeping positivity in mind!): AF will be due the day we go on holiday. It is a big, exotic holiday that we have spent lots on and saved hard for. It also involves vineyards, wine, jet skis, wine, seafood, wine(LOL) and all sorts of non-baby friendly activities... Part of me thinks if i was to be late, I just don't test til I get home? What would you do?

I've just chased our next appointment. sounds like it will be end of sept/early Oct so at least I can stop rushing to the doormat like a mad thing when the post arrives for a few weeks now!

Those weeks will fly by May x at least its only a month away not 6 months! Less than 2 weeks wait for me now! and I'm used to those by now! been waiting since June for this!

Got my first fertility appointment through but have to wait until 16th September. At least I know the referral has gone in OK now.

Good luck for his results Laura and the appointment.

Victoria he could just have a w*nk some of the times ;) maybe a happyish medium!?

Thanks Lil - he did his stuff earlier and dropped it off at hosp, managed to forget his paperwork so had the added humiliation of filling in another form with someone telling them all the gory details of when etc hahaha that'll learn him!! My DH is incredibly lazy but understands what he has to do and what I may have to do are worlds apart. He has a terrible diet so am wondering what the result will be. We think we'll get them in our first fertility appt on Weds 20th which I'm weirdly looking forward to!

Hope all you girls are well tonight! Xx

Vic does your dh suffer depression? Some of what you've said makes it sound like it. It can make it impossible to act even when you know the impact of not acting (if that makes sense)
Some CBT might help him if so although it does take some hard work from him.

In the meantime wine is definitely a good solution for you and at least he's trying even if it's not the way he should be!

Welcome shan. Sorry to see you here. My dh is incredibly healthy and his only vice was a few drinks which he has now stopped but still ended up with 0 swimmers! Don't read too much into the lifestyle stuff as Lil says it doesn't seem to matter!

Laura well done for keeping laughing and fx for both test and appointment.

I'm still very up and mostly down. Trying hard to focus on my health and get myself as healthy as possible whilst I wait for contact from the hospital. Just wish I knew what I the process was or even should be. Feel in complete limbo now the referral is in. At least with the gp bit I knew Thanks to everyone here What should happen and when!

oh Vic I wish I lived closer so I could take you out for a meal and a bottle or 3 of wine and put the world to rights.

I'm sure he knows lil he's just too lazy to shag me

Vic does he actually realise what ivf means for you? I think my dh assumed he'd just wank in a pot and they'd put it in me and poof there'd be s baby. it wasn't until I explained all the drugs, injecting myself, regular hospital spots for monitoring scans etc that he began to realise what I'm going to have to go through compared to him.

About the sex thing, I've read that regular eod type sex throughout the month can improve his sperm. 100% were antibody bound at his sa. Regular sex is meant to prevent the antibodies binding so much giving us a chance. A girl on my fb page said her dh had 100% and they went for it big time for a few months and got it down to 95% and she's now preg! All we were doing at the height of ttc was 4 times in fertile week and nothin rest of month! Dh isn't interested in tryin it though. Seems he'd rather put me through ivf :-(

Hi everyone

Hubby has his 2nd sa on the 20th then we have our first clinic appointment on Sept 2nd. No rest for the wicked! After our massive argument dh has been extra clingy again and I even got home to find the hoovering done yesterday! I've banned him from computer games unless I'm out without him. We need to fuss over each other in the build up to appointments and treatment. And yes our clinic offers counselling :-)

Laura its good that you can be light hearted about it and take the Micky a bit. how long until you get sa results? fx you are one of those who gets their bfp right before the appt.

welcome shan. sorry you find yourself on this long road with us but at least you will find yourself in good company now . will certainly be interesting to see how your dhs results are. we have male factor issues here and my dh is very healthy, eats very well, has never smoked, hasn't drunk alcohol for about 12 years other than the odd glass at crimbo so it just goes to show even if you do everything right or wrong sometimes nature has different ideas!

vic I think you definitely need to take a ttc break and try and rediscover each other. its easy to see why these things break so many couples apart, but you can get through it. if you can get through this you two will be fearless against the world together. when you have your appointment I'd ask if your clinic offer counselling, a lot do. it might help your dh to talk about it to someone other than you. maybe he could start a thread on mn to find some other men going through the same? I'm sure I've seen some men around here somewhere i know my dh has turned to the internet alot fir rhings he can do to improve things. i know you xan change the sperm meets blood thing, but i imagine he can still be doing things to get them to their best for retrieval. chances are they will obtain them from the source rather than "manually" to give you the best chance fir ivf. I hope you're OK

Oh Victoria sorry to hear you had an extra shitty couple of days :( I think the stress of 'this' all is getting on top of everyone now. I really hope you manage to work through things - I think the suggestions from Cooper are great - making a nice dinner or having a couple of months off would give you the breathing space and head space you need? Infertility holds life hostage really doesn't it.

I also hate how the monthly window is so small and then we have a row - makes me not want to dtd and then i feel like we've majorly put ourselves out till next month. So frustrating.

Welcome Shan we're all on roughly the same path and it's great to have the mutual support needed to get through it.

Lil I don't think i ov'd this month and it started on CD21. TMI but was only watery red when i wiped no need even for a pad. It's all cleared up again now leaving cm but not ewcm. Got a really tense back too. We've got our first fertility appt at hospital next Wednesday so I think i'll do a cheapie test the night before just to rule it out when we go. DH has his first sa tomorrow which i'm ribbing him mercilessly about tonight :) got to laugh at some things hey?! Cheers to PMA!!!

My husband is having SA on Friday. He's a smoker and does not eat well, so I'm interested to see what it says.