TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :) new thread!!

Sorry ginger, cross posts (quite literally too!) Sorry af got you hunny. Its shit. Its all shit. And doctors are shit.

Hope you get good news from your bloods, and they've actually got results to give! Its all the waiting that's so pants too. Why can't we instantly know?

I heard 80% by 1 year, 98 by 2 years. I'm in the 2%. How unlucky is that?! Mind you I'm 18months and I read somewhere that it was 94 point something, so I'm currently in the 6%. Shit.

Arggghhhhhhh! Just got dh to call the docs finally and the results aren't in yet! They said to call back in a week! A WEEK! I wanted to know whether it was worth dtd this month! Dh has ruined my plan already by getting wasted last night. Wanted to dtd EOD starting cd8 and yesterday was cd10. Today he's stupidly hungover coz he drunk himself sick last night and doesn't know if he can perform today either! Will just have to wait til cd12. Luckily my opks are neg still.

Just found a bit of sick on the bathroom floor and made him get down on his hands and knees with a cloth. Honestly. I thought he would have grown up by 36! And I wanted to make a baby with this man?! Don't want to dtd today anyway as he stinks,and the bed stinks, gonna have to change that before bedtime too and febreeze the mattress. [Angry]

Well there goes cycle 11 for me, AF arrived this morning, after all my bloody talk of whether to POAS or not serves me right really! I knew she was on her way but you can't help but feel disappointed can you. DH officially no longer wants to talk about it. I treated myself to a naughty mcdonalds for lunch and right next to me in the queue was a tiny newborn in a pram. Had to run into the toilets for a little cry. In a way it's good I'm not this month as it means I can have a fun drunken girly weekend in 2 weeks with my friends, but each additional month it doesn't work just reinforces that there must be something wrong. I am waiting for the nurse to ring me this afternoon to get the results from my blood tests, reception told me they would have rung if there were any issues, or I needed to discuss with a Dr which is utter bollocks as last time I rang to get results they told me everything was fine when it wasn't!! Grr!!

Quite a few of us making some progress on this godawful road anyway with scans and appointments. Let's hope we will be seeing plenty of BFPs soon.
Jesse I was told different stats! Something like 80% will conceive in a year, and 99% will conceive by the end of the second year?!

Is it too early to open the wine?

Welcome Hibou and Holly. Sorry to see that you have had to join us!
Onelife - I would look on this month as being a free pass to drunken debauchery and caffeine, then Back on the wagon next month. I suspect I will be getting one of these soon. Mr Jesse second sample ontuesday, then we are going to gp to get nhs referral, and simultaneously going to see someone privately (excellent if expensive private clinic 10 mins from us) just to get some info.
Cannot believe I am almost on cycle 13. Where has the last year gone.
I hate to statistics - after a year you have approx 50% chance of conceiving in second year - which also means a 50% chance of needing assisted conception.
Wine tonight I think. Still spotting AF due tomorrow x

"The procedure should ideally be planned for the first half of the menstrual cycle and with you taking measures to avoid being pregnant during the menstrual cycle in which HyCoSy will be undertaken"

This is why I was never good at exams, need to actually read what is written and not just make up what I want it to say in my head

It's bloody done it again!!! Well LIL!!

That's supposed to start with 'well ill' not 'well ill', damn autocorrect!

Well ill I think I have gone officially crackers! I swore the leaflet said it's fine to dtd after the procedure but you got me thinking and I've just reread it and it doesn't say that ANYWHERE!! No idea why that thought was in my head, may have read it on MN page somewhere as have been scouring the threads ....so looks like we're out this month anyway. Will of course check with the consultant next week but I'm taking it that if that's what you've been told it'll be the same dye I should imagine so no go cycle 13 for me. I'm presuming they will be able to tell me if I've ovulated or about to ovulate from the scan??

Lil I thought about asking if dh's results were in yesterday when I went to the docs to pick up a prescription. I thought they wouldn't tell me the results so I didn't bother. Plus there was a queue of people behind me at reception!

I gave up caffeine in my tea about 6cups a day when we started ttc. I now prefer decaff! dh won't give up caffeine so I switched his instant coffee for decaff and he still doesn't know about 6 weeks on. now I just need him to wait the lattes and Pepsi! I'd never thought about caffeine in chocolate!
my dh is 32 this year.

one im not allowed to ttc the month of my hsg as the dye "wouldn't be very nice for a baby" just wondering if you've been told the same?

Vic I hope your dh sorts himself out and gets the results today. can you phone for him? my Dr was happy to speak to me about dhs results before she even knew he was with me and she was on speaker phone!

back to work today grr. but at least I can keep my own hours and be done by 4

Blue, you are doing things right, it's out of your hands, it's out of all of our hands, the more I go through all of this the more I realise that it is down to luck/timing/fate...whatever. But you mustn't beat yourself up about it. Try and focus on the fact that we're all in the same boat so it is not so unusual, it's just no one speaks about it in RL as it's such an emotional thing. So I think that then skews it so it seems like everyone else gets pregnant easily as they're usually the only cases we hear about. We'll get there, we will, hang in there.

Oops sorry holly, hello! Always room here, welcome so sorry about your journey so far, fx for you.

Thanks Vic, hope dh surfaces soon and good luck with his results.

Morning all, The sun has his hat on here which always makes things better, hope he's playing out where you are too!

Notta, I'm 33. As for caffeine/drinking I don't drink tea or coffee and never have as don't like them so that one is an easy tick in the box for me! Caffeine in chocolate however is a different matter......Drinking I do like!! Like a few of you have said I've cut down, did stop completely for a little bit but that didn't seem to work so now I'm just treating myself if I fancy but not going mad, feels a more balanced approach. Have also stopped pillows under bum etc and just trying to be 'normal' about it all.

Lil, yes you're right a hycosy and an HSG are the same thing effectively but the hycosy uses ultrasound and the HSG uses X-ray. I'm annoyed af came so bloomin early this cycle as now means I'll be cd10/11 when it's done (and therefore may have already ovulated) whereas if she'd come when she was supposed to I'd have only been cd8 and won't have felt we stood more of a chance this month. But nevermind, c'est la vie. Hope yours goes ok, good luck and keep us posted!

Happy Frrrrrrriiiiiiiidddddddaaaaaaayyyyyyy!

Hi girls and welcome holly :-)

I've just turned 34 and dh is 36 today! He's in bed very hungover after going out with his bro last night. I didn't go as had reflexology then came home to chill with a green tea. He came home wasted claiming he wasn't but them promptly threw up. Boak. Hardly got any sleep worrying about him plus he was snoring. So got him and bro-il still in bed dying whilst I had to get up for our builders, who are late! Bloody men! Dh is meant to be calling docs for his sa results! He can't do that til bro has sloped off back home and he's got his clear head back on. Grrrrrrrrrrrrr!

M33r.... I read that if you try ivf you have to be caffeine and alcohol free, is that true? I just thought I might as well switch to de-caff now. Dh is half and half on de-caff and normal but I've made the total break! Oh, and don't poas before af!

Good luck with hyscopy one x

Im 26 next month but my family always have kids early my mum was the oldest at 20 when she had me...now ive won that hands down.

Dp is 30 in August but he never wanted kids.

I get asked where the kids are constantly it breaks my heart that I cant even do that right.

Oh lil snap I'm 28 but dh is the big 4-0. He has a 23 yo neice so I think his family think he's past it lol! Been married 3 years - am now sick of questions. At least my Mum is sensible enough not to nag! She had a mc before me and then thought she couldn't have any so she prob knows how I feel even though she doesn't know we are ttc if that makes sense?

Am gutted about the pineapple! You had my hopes up I LOVE pineapple juice lol. Not sure about the core though!

thanks ginger, I am an expert Googler! lol

hi holly sorry you've had such a rough time of it

forgot to say I'm 29+ a couple of weeks old! in the life plan I had I would have a one year old by now, instead I'm praying for a bfp before I turn 30! my 27yo dB is about to have his 2nd child so all eyebrows are raised in my direction. ppl always expected me to announce I was pg right after we got married. now the constant questions about when r we going to have kids have stopped and I feel like they are all whispering behind our backs about why we haven't yet.

Hi all and welcome new ladies!

Been hiding out after an-ov cycle last month and feeling horrible about it and then the worst af for months. Now cd 4 and she's already leaving so spar I shouldn't compatible to much but now I'm officially ttc for 2 years and that is so depressing. GP appointment Saturday to compete fertility referral and book dh sa and my bloods.

I'm 33 and don't drink alcohol or caffeine and am still having no luck so ladies my advice is keep drinking if you like it!

Good luck all those towards end of cycles. We really need some good news!

Ooh cross posts - lil sounds like she knows what she is talking about more than me when it comes to pineapple juice/core, so go with her advice!!
Welcome Holly, so sorry about your MC. Hope you get some good news from your GP, and there is plenty of room on here for you!

Notta I echo you about feeling fat and horrid (usually another good sign AF is on her way) I have eaten myself sick today on junk food and AF isn't even here yet!! What is wrong with me? Diet must start tomorrow!!
I am 27, I will be 28 in about 6 weeks though!
Right m33r me too, I will not POAS until I'm late, but then, how do I work that out!? Taking B6 to lengthen my LP means I don't actually know when I'm late! I have heard about pineapple juice, I think it's actually meant to be eat pineapple core from 5dpo, it's got to be better than grapefruit juice anyway! I wonder the same about alcohol/caffeine, some people have soooo much worse habits and get pg, some people try all the fertility tricks under the sun for years and then fall pregnant when they give up...so who knows what works!!?

Haha Blue about your sticks!!!! Must be such a funny thing to see for these men....
Also working on Sat, my weekend is a Monday and a Tuesday really! Good news about your boss Blue.

Hello ladies. Room for a little one?
I started TTC #2 since May last year. I was really lucky to get a BFP on cycle 3 but sadly it very quickly started to go wrong. Even so it took 4 very long week for MC to be confirmed and I opted for surgery. It then took 11 weeks for AF to return. AF has been pathetically light since then. As I am 39 (for another couple of months at least) GP has done tests I need for referral to fertility clinic. No issues with day 21 or day 1 results. DH SA came back as low end of normal. He needs to do a repeat. I have an apt with GP to discuss result and referral in a couple of weeks. Not sure what to expect.

one is hycosy = hsg or are they diff? I know hsg is xray not u/s so maybe that's where they differ. I'm waiting for next cd1 to book hsg as it has to be done 24hrs after you stop AF but before cd10!!

m33r pineapple is a thing but not juice. its the core and you are only supposed to eat 1/5th on days 1-5dpo. the bromelaine is supposed to help with implantation. the juices are usually heat treated which kills the bromelsine. you stop after 5dpo as it can cause mc in high doses apparently.

sounds like a few of you are coming to the end of the tww. fx at least one preferably all end in bfps!

Evening all. I feel fat and horrid. Partly because I am a bit fat, partly due to the two bars of choc today, then carrot cake after my v.healthy tea. And mostly I thinkk due to AF. The bitch.

I deal with feckless instadiffers on a daily basis sadly. My mum is a foster carer too so i get it at work and in private. Mostly its fine, i wouldn't want their lives just their fertility but sometimes it bothers me.

Good luck to you all. Fx one of you, scrap that, all of you get your bfps. Although then it would just be me.

13 is my dads fave number. It will be lucky for me I hope.

Was wondering how old we all are? I'm 36. I really had to think about tat, almost put 37.

one hope the hycosy goes well. What an odd name for a procedure!