TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :) new thread!!

Lil, my dh has no sex drive and very bad sa result. I wasaactually wondering if it might be linked myself. Like their bodies know they can't procreate so they don't bother trying. Interesting. I wonder if anyone has done a study on it!

hey all, just had a quick read back. hope all appointments with gps/hospitals go well, I've not looked into that yet. this is technically my tenth month so will maybe go to gp in the autumn (if no bfp by then, of course).

should ov in the next couple of days! FX for us all :)

morning all. Jesse its good that you have a plan. it makes it easier to have some dates to get to.
I've found once we got our referral things have moved quite quickly with NHS. it's my cycle that's held things up. we decided to get the initial tests done on NHS and then consider going private after seeing consultant if the wait for actual treatment is long. that decision was also partly to give us a bit longer trying "on our own" too. by the time we see a consultant we will be approaching the 2 year mark.
oh and you can choose where you go. I got offered my referral appointment at 3 different clinics in our county. we chose the closest one but if I'd known I would have had a choice I'd have done some research first!

as for telling ppl I am an open book unfortunately. a few friends know we've been referred and my mum and sil. but I don't talk about what's happening with them. my mum tends to avoid the subject but I needed her to know to stop all the "give me another grandchild" comments dB & sil are about to have their 2nd

mb 500 cals!! I'm not sure I could manage that! yesterday I ate crisps and chocolate for lunch. I think my first step needs to be to eat real food! today isn't going to go so well as we are seeing friends for takeaway!

I have a question actually. do those of you whose dhs have had bad sa results find your men have low sex drives to go with it? and does sex dry up after you've ovulated? OK that's more than one question!

Oh god lil try fasting (500 cals a day) on alternate days - you will lose weight and shrink your appetite! Thanks for the tip will get him some of that.

non we havn't told anyone - I can't cope with all the questions etc plus we are both quite private people anyway. It's good for us as we have each other and of course I've got you lot :-)

Jesse I don't blame you, you can't put a price on knowing what's going on. Once my credit cards are paid off if we still havn't got anywhere we will be going private.

Oh Jesse x x big hugs hun x x

I know how you feel about getting answers soon. The NHS is a slow old process. If you can afford to go private for some stuff go for it. I adore the NHS and its mine and dh's employer but it has its faults.

Good luck with your next steps x x

Hi non!

I had this very discussion with dh over dinner today! We've both told our parents that we are infertile and we will look into our options for treatment. But we have decided today that we will not tell people when we are actually having the treatment. I will have to probably tell my boss as I will need to take time off for appointments, I might as well tell him the truth as I will need as little stress as possible! We will not tell our folks as not to get their hopes up, and my mum worries like mad over me having 'procedures'. She came down to visit and make sure I was ok after I had my wisdom teeth out last year! Both my parents and the in laws don't live in the same city as us and we only see them every few months. It won't be hard to keep quiet unless they ask of course!

Nonconformist - it is interesting how everyone decides whether or not to tell family and friends, for various reasons. A close family member of mine chose to tell no-one while she was going through IVF (for 4 years) as she could not bear the thought of the family getting their hopes up.
I cannot stop myself from blabbing about it, I feel I need them to know what is happening, for moral support.

We had an excellent joint appointment at the GP and we have been referred to NHS jointly. However, we have made the difficult and expensive decision to get some tests done privately. I am going on Monday to a specialist private fertility only clinic near me. I am having an USS and AMH hormone blood test done with a nurse and poor mr Jesse has to do a third sample. We then meet with a consultant 2 weeks later.

I want to get these basic tests done, and then I suspect I will be offered a HSG or equivalent test to check tubes, and probably a laparoscopy (partly as I suspect I may have endometriosis).

However the first tests and appointment with consultant will cost £450. Not cheap. HSG another £450. Eyewatering. I know it is all available on NHS but it could take months and I just want some answers. I feel like time is ticking and we want to know where we stand.

Bloody hell - how much fecking hassle and some people are so blissfully unaware of how truly awful this all is. We both feel like physical failures currently. Which is really difficult when we are both quite fit an healthy.

Anyway. Enough ranting and moaning. Please someone have some good news soon. We all need it
Xxx

Hi everyone, good to see some PMA on here now, we're all at various stages but great to know we're here for each other.

AF arrived today a day late which is rare for me but boy, she is making her presence known this month!

We had our joint appt last night with GP, referral has gone ahead, expecting 2-3 month for an appointment. GP was lovely as ever and said she really hopes that next time she sees us we have a big smile on our faces which I thought was really kind.

We've both decided that we're not telling immediate family that we've gone for the next step for various reasons. Is anyone doing the same??? It makes it a little easier as we don't live near them so sometimes don't see them for several months. Also,as we don't want to get their hopes up and have to deal with all the constant questions throughout the various stages of the process. We may change our minds as we go on so will see how it goes.

mb that's great news. motility can be improved. I'd suggest that fertilaid but it clearly ain't working for us!

currently positive here. not bothered about being upduffed, no idea what CD or dpo I am. and I've been drinking lots and eating crap! diet starts next week. I gave 6 weeks to get into a figure hugging bridesmaid dress!

Hi all, not too bad in the end. He has low motility but not massively (31% and 32% is normal) so will get a proper gp appt next week then test again in 3 months - going to try and get some sleep now before back to work this eve :-(

Victoria401 a good friend of mine had been trying for 10 years, neither her or hubby after all tests were done had any issues, tried a few goes of ivf over the past years and at the moment is two months away from due date, this was there final shot (and they had even bought the dog to have to focus on) there is hope for everyone, PMA all the way. I today couldnt be prouder of my OH today, never thought he would pluck up the courage to go to his doc (his doc is in a very small village where everyone knows everyone and he has done work for her in the past) about SA but he did and we he now has app for June. next couple of months will be long ones

wasnt sosomeone else meant to be getting their sa results yesterday? Hope they were ok? Sorry bad memory and a faff to look back at posts on my mobile!

To the people who are saying I'm positive... I have been having my ups and downs the last week, believe me! But nothing has really changed, its still just me and dh as it has been since we met over 8 years ago. We do still have each other. We have infertility not a terminal illness. If ivf does not work for us we still have each other. This has made us closer and we realised we need to start spending more time together and appreciating each other and start living our lives because you only get one.

Take care of each other x

Thats great Linday81 no news is good news, how long have you been TTC? Sometimes i think maybe if they just find something and we know what to do to sort it then it would be best than everything going ok.

blueeyes DH's SA came back a week after the appointment , and all is normal :-) Right after he told me he said "but you know this doesn't mean anything about you, please don't start worrying". Awww :*)

So now we have my bloods and his SA results all back as normal, we are just waiting for the clinic appointment.... And shagging a lot! lol

Off on holiday "glamping" next week. Can't wait!

vic Such a great attitude- we were all about the positivity! Xo

Thanks ladies may sounds like the sort of stupid thing my dh would say!!!

Glad you seem a bit cheerier Vic any idea on timescales yet???

Come on someone needs a bfp soon surely!!! It's going to turn into the ivf thread at this rate!!!!

Lol mr may sounds funny.

my dp asked no questions and didnt even get a print out grrr lol

Just watched vampire diaries obsessed and cried the whole time dp does not get it lol.

AF is taking her time to bugger off this month hoping to jump on dp tomorrow cos I miss him awww.

Feels like forever until 19th and gynae app feel kinda useless this month.

Someone needs a bfp so I can live through them!!

Oh when oh when will there be some good news for some of you girls, def not fair. OH is in to doc tomorrow for a referral letter to get ball rolling on sa, can anyone tell how long it normally takes for results to come back!

Maybug, brilliant! made me chuckle :)

It is all flipping doom and gloom in here isn't it :-(

I drummed into dh what questions I wanted him to ask and, bless him, he did it all. Love him :-) but in general, yes, they are pretty bad at it. Its US girls that get obsessed and I guess in the end its our bodies going through all the monthly crap and having all the big invasive tests. The guy just needs to wank in a pot.... Although I found myself feeling sorry for dh coz if we went for ivf there might be a chance he will need sperm removed directly from his testicles. Then I thought at the amount of poking and prodding I'd have to go through...

Good news is definitely overdue on this thread!

Good luck MB. Some doctors insist on a call even if there's nothing much to day so please don't worry too much asks one way or another it will be a step forward.

DH dropped in his specimen today so when I asked if they said anything (meaning when will results be through) his answer was 'well she sniffed and licked it which I thought was odd but didn't say anything'
So in other words he has no idea when the results will be back and didn't ask! Grrr. ..men!

Thanks Vic I'm on nights too, God so I doubt I'll sleep much either - grrr!!! Why can't someone on here get a bit of good news?!?!?!? I think it's about time we all had a bit xx

Good luck with the appointment MB. We'll all be thinking of you tomorrow x

Hello all, have been trying to stay caught up with everything, had my day 21 bloods today, phoned gp to start process of getting a diff doc and the receptionist said there is a flag on dh name to get him an appointment - guessing its not good news then! Anyway got tel appointment tomorrow morning - both dreading it :-(