TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :) new thread!!

So I've been reading all night last night and still only to p. 4! Sounds like most of you are at some stage of the testing and referral process. Where is everyone at exactly now? Anyone London-based?

You've been waiting so long already blueberry, I'd go luv. One of the other girls on here had an appointment on her period and it was ok.

Hi m33r! I agree with you, it must be harder to have lost after the initial hope and excitement. But we do have our form of grief too.

Ladies my af could come the day before my gynae appointment if it does do I need to cancel.

My 2nd day is usually heaviest how annoying if I do need to itll be more waiting.

just a quick drop on before I go to sleep. hi silv I just wanted to say I know someone who kept mc at 10/11/12 weeks and turned out to be folic acid deficiency. she was put on high doses for a while and eventually got pg again and now has a little boy. might be something for you to look into

Hi vic yes, I remember. How is it going? Have you had a consultation yet?

Yes, it sucks indeed... After the CP I was feeling very low for quite a while. When we decided to get back into it, we were determined to do everything right, including the acupuncture, etc. I was feeling pretty positive about our chances the last couple of months so was really disappointed when it wasn't happening. Especially given that before our problem was not getting pg but making it stick. So now I'm convinced there must be something wrong...

I hope the appointment won't be far off. The GP said that sometimes rather go through all the invasive (and expensive) tests, they just go in for assisted conception. Anyone been to the fertility clinic in St Bart's in London?

Right, I'm going to read back now. Shall I start from the beginning or around p5 enough?

Hi silverine, welcome to the group. Seen you in the buses but I left after a crap diagnosis of male factor infertility! Sorry to hear all the rubbish you've been through over the last 2 years, I can't imagine how you feel. I hope you get some answers from the docs soon. We all know how bad GP's are at getting stuff done in this group!

Blueberry, yes I'm ok thanks. Just lurking around with not a lot to say really!

Can't remember where everyone is at the moment, I think I need to write a brief list as my memory is completely terrible! Nothing personal.

Hi silverine sorry you have to join us but were all lovely in here

Hi ladies, can I join?

Been on the ttc after mc and the buses (high blueberry and mama) threads but I need to admit to myself now how long it's been.
I'm 31 now, DH and I first started ttc in May 2012, got bfp end August 2012, found out at 12 week scan in Oct 2012 development had stopped at 10 weeks.

We were very upset of course but thought it was a one-off so determined to get straight back into ttc. Got bfp#2 in early Jan 2013, very apprehensive of course. Was given early scan at 10 weeks but again it showed growth was 2 weeks behind.

So after 2 MCs, we decided to take a break and do some investigations. The GP did the basic blood tests but of course would not refer us to specialists until after 3 MCs… so we paid for some tests abroad: thrombophilia, vit D, antibodies, thyroid, sperm screening for DH… all came back negative except vit D but were prescribed some just-in-case things like baby aspirin, high-dose folic acid, vits, etc.

So we’ve been ttc again since July 2013, nothing until a BFP in march 2014, only to be followed by a bfn 2 days later… The GP wouldn’t even count it as early MC, only CP, which was upsetting, as we still wouldn’t get a referral!

We’ve been even more determined since then though and put all into it – I started acupuncture in March (before the EMC), temping, mucus watching, dtd timing, even cough syrup – and still nothing! So after last month’s bfn I went to the GP to ask for a fertility clinic referral, as we’ve been ttc for more than a year, even if you count since MC2. Waiting for the appointment letter now. Really hope this is out month and we get a bfp obviously but good to know we have this as fall-back.

Sorry all for the essay! Sorry for not name-checking, need to read back to get to know you. x

blue eyes fertilaid contain more than any of the normal ones in boots etc. I ordered them online. dh has been taking them for about 4months with no bfp, but he is pretty rubbish at remembering to take them. plus they help count and motility, there's bugger all to be done for morphology it seems, and that's his biggest issue.

Morning ladies sorry ive been awol.

Vicky hope your ok lovely??

Mama How have you changed your diet?? Glad its stopped your spotting.

Lindsay I received a second letter that stated I will have scans and internal examination not sure if yours will be the same.

Hibou The only time ive had that kind of spotting is around ovulation

Laura Sorry about the bad week, I expect I will be told to lose weight to and my doctor mentioned pcos but didnt say anything more so no idea.

Jesse Hopefully you find out more but that seems like good improvement to me.

Step glad things are getting underway now and fx for next month.

Blueeyes Sorry I can help with that.

Im still getting quite a few symptoms at the moment and have got my hopes up loads.

Light headed, pokey pains in stomach and very aware of my stomach, greasy skin and hair and various other bits

Hi blue we are taking the Pregnacare his and her conception, they are also on the 3 for 2 deal at boots. A friend said she new people who after three months of these got pregnant. Also a plus my skin and hair are amazing

My acupuncturist recommend Zita West Vitaman and fish oil (vita dha I think). Been taking them for a couple of months. Can't say how effective they are, but i have seen posts on mumsnet saying they helped. they are expensive

Can anyone tell what are the best vitamins to improve male fertility please

Hello ladies,
Been awol trying not to get overly consumed with everything. I have been keeping up to speed with you all. Interesting how we all seem to be having our visits from AF in the same week and roughly at the same place with all the investigations.
Glad to hear you're all on top of your gp's and got some results, although some are hard to hear at least you know the reason and can start to do something about it. It's amazing how that vitamin (can't remember name) can improve the motility of the sperm by such a significant amount!

I read about the IVF treatments abroad being cheaper, but the cycle takes about 3 months so wouldn't you need to take time off work and be abroad for that long? Surely it would end up costing more in lost earnings, accommodation etc?

I had my private consultation yesterday all went well. We are starting our IVF next cycle seen as we dtd on Monday and they don't like to take the chance that I could be pregnant even if it is so close to the first day of cycle and I wasn't ovulating.

We both went for blood tests today to check hep b/c and hiv before we start the process. Dh rolled his sleeve up as though he was about to have a vaccination and completely panicked as he was talked through the blood test lol. At least we were able to laugh.
Made me very grateful that in my situation there are no problems with him. If he had to do more that wank in a pot, there would be problems, he is such a scardy cat when it comes to doctors.

All is feeling very surreal, happy to have a plan and know that it's just a matter of time, sad that it has come to this and absolutely freaking out at all I have to go through!!!!!

Jesse, I would say that by going private they are assuming you want intervention and therefore are recommending which process will work for you. My doc yesterday said they only like to recommend ICSI if they absolutely have to, as eggs can be broken etc etc
xxxx

Hmmm, yes Jesse, I would be inclined to see what they say and their reasons for it. It's fab news that it is a much better result, were the other factors ok too? If so that means his sample is fine?? So why recommend ICSI? Have you also got an NHS appointment coming up?

Happy Friday ladies

Stupid phone!
This time it has gone from 12% motilty to 39%. But there is a comment on the bottom of the form saying "based on this sample we would recommend ICSI".
Can't really believe that. Surely if 39% (which is above normal level) this cant be the case.
Anyway, we have a consultation next week.
I am getting the impression that the private fertilty place is more of an IVF factory than anything else!
Oh well need to wait to spea to them xx

Mr Jesse just got his semen analysis results from the private clinic (third sample in total, 2 done nhs) and this time it has g

Thanks one! The gin is going down a treat :) with diet tonic of course....like that makes it ok..... lol

Hibou I have had this before but I am a serial spotter, the spotting has reduced a lot though over the months. But I did get it 5-6dpo a couple of times. Not certain that's what yours is but it could be a random cycle with early spotting. Who knows why this happens. I think I got it once when I was on antibiotics, not sure if that was connected or not but remember it was just after Christmas and I had a chest infection, and I started spotting really early around 5dpo.

Hey all! Was away last week and just spotted new thread...thought it had been quiet! Will go back and read what you've all been up to...

So. Yesterday I went to dr for my 2nd blood results. Suspected PCOS. Now been referred to Bedford hosp (anyone know how long I'm looking for a referral appt?) and DH has to do a test. He looked stricken.

Still had to actually convince Dr that it's pointless to keep dtd when no period now for 6 months and that she should just get the ball rolling...

Been told to lose weight too. All in all a pretty shitty week!

Hey ladies, been quiet for a while but wondering if someone more experienced than me can explain... hope not tmi! since 5dpo been getting a browny discharge when I wipe, now on 10 dpo n still getting it! I sometimes get a little bit of this the day before af, but she isn't due to arrive for another week! Anyone experienced this??