TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :) new thread!!

Hi vic don't beat yourself up about how you feel at this stage. I understand why you feel like that - a lot of money with no guarantees. Many things can change in the meantime though - you might even have moved house. But also, you have to have every faith the first time will work - don't go into it defeatist!

Having said that - I'm absolutely shitting myself with that pg - I've booked for GP tomorrow to do the test and get the ball rolling with midwife, acupuncture on Wednesday, my regular counselling session on Thursday and I booked to go to the Homerton hospital early pg assessment unit on Friday for a check-up. Overdoing it?! But I have been getting frequent stabby pains and until someone tells me, yes things are as they should be at this stage (even if they can't see anything!) I'll keep making myself sick with worry...

Definitely making my body healthier so I have every chance. Only hope I've started early enough to make a difference! High protein low carb diet is meant to be good for embryo implantation with ivf. Doesn't bother me in the slightest as I dislike spuds and only serve myself tiny portions of potatoes/rice etc anyway. Started having salads for lunch with a meat so I'm having less bread. Goes out the window when we have a pizza though!

Just had an afterwork yoga session! Zumba on Saturday and really must get back into my salsa dancing!

Do I sound mean that I don't want to cough up for more treatments and accept my lot?

It must be hard Vicky I think the best thing you can do at the moment is concentrate on making sure your the healthiest you can be so help the chance you do have.

If my first Ivf didnt work id pay for it but I can guarantee my dp wouldnt be so keen, money doesnt mean anywhere near as much to me as him, but everyone is different.

ps my leg has actually got worse and not extending into my foot gonna have to go to docs I think. Its electric shock like pains which bloody hurt!!

Lil Im not very good at the dieting part but I eat quite healthy anyway and im working so much at the moment I deserve chocolate lol.
Im concentrating on making my portions smaller and exercising but im so tired all the time anyway this is not easy.

I just hate the fact that we only get 1 funded cycle in our area. I think I would be more hopeful if we had 2. One to fall back on. I just don't want to spend 6k on a cycle. That's a lot of money. And we might not have anything to show for it at the end of it. I just can't justify spending that amount of cash. It would take months and months to save for just to put my body through more crap. I might feel differently at the time but these are my thoughts at this moment in time.

Vic try and stay positive. there is a good chance ivf could work for you so don't torment yourself with the alternative just yet. focus on getting to that part of the journey first. not having appt dates is the worst. its certainly when I'm at my mist crazy in all of this. I'm worried that when we come out of next appointment we'll be on a waiting list for months and months just waiting for a letter and hoping they haven't forgotten us! you've had bloods and us done though right Vic? so hopefully u only have to get hsg done before you can get onto the waiting list.

hope everyone had s good weekend. I've fallen head first off the diet wagon. need to find inspiration again!

Hi girls, hope the weekend is going well for you. Having a bit of a lazy one, hardly left the house/garden!

Ginger, what appointment have you got? And why 6 months?

Blueberry, sounds like your weight loss plan is a good 'un. Hope it works and your leg gets better so you can exercise too. I went to Zumba yesterday, highly recommend it! Its fun, so not like 'real' exercise!

Silverine, stay as long as you like here! 12 weeks and beyond! Really hope this time it works for you and we don't see you back here, in the nicest possible way ;-) x

Just finished af no.2 since finding out 'the news'. I'm feeling a lot more chilled about it now. Knowing its not going to happen naturally. No timed bd-ing, no symptom spotting. I know af is just going to arrive and Ican get on with life. I'm kinda nervous about clinic appointments. Pretending its not happening at the moment as we don't yet have a date. Ivf doesn't sound the nicest thing to have to go through :-( and if it doesn't work I'll have to do all the grieving crap all over again :-(

Hi Ladies!
Been pas almost every day this week! Lines getting a bit darker, even on the ice but still nowhere near the control lines. I guess that's to be expected though, it was 4 weeks , af was due wed/thur so early days. Still nervous it might be cm and disappear any time! I guess it will be another week or 2 before I might believe I would be over this hurdle (before I start worrying about the 7-12 week me danger zone!). Did cb digi yesterday, it said pg 1-2 weeks, so DH finally believes me too! I know it will be a long time though before we both start feeling a bit more optimistic, so will you ladies bear with me for a few more weeks of this Thread?

may for supplements my acupuncturist recommended Biocare ASC for men, and biocare one a day and Mor DHA for women to, haven't had a chance to try them though.

metal enjoy your anniversary TREAT! We're planning to go see Mrs brown the movie and go out for a meal tomorrow to get our minds off things a bit.

blueberry good luck with the weight loss! It was my intention to focus on this this month if ban but will still try to eat sensibly etc and I don't pork out. Really knackered all the ti with though so exercising will be difficult.

mister sorry to see you on here. Your cycles seem like a nightmare! glad you booked app with your go, hope they offer some good advice.

ginger fx sa results come back fine. 6 months seems like a long time to wait for your appt though...

Morning ladies,

Congrats silverine

Welcome mister wow that was a long cycle! Does your midcycle bleeding coincide with ovulation?? Is it red or brown? I cant help with cycle length unfortunately my cycles are fairly regular 28 days but im not ovulating

ginger I am trying to do the same, ttc really can take over every aspect of life

metal sorry your feeling low its really not easy but staying in a hotel will be nice.

Im not really doing much this cycle still got lotsa tests to book in. Exercising as much as I can although at the moment I have a bad leg and cant walk well lol. Eating salads for lunch and down sizing my meals fx it works.

Cant wait for a day off to sleep tomorrow lol

Hi Gingerbread! I remember you from the ttc#2 thread - sorry to see you're still waiting for you BFP too.

Mister I had a really long cycle last year (I think it was over 80 days!) and I believe it was down to illness and stress. I didn't have any mid-cycle spotting though, so definitely worth talking to your GP I think.

I've been feeling really low this week as I had got my hopes up a bit last cycle (for no real reason I might add), but thankfully DH and I are going away for the night on Sunday for an early anniversary treat. We'll be staying in a nice hotel and going for a lovely meal, and hopefully dtd just for fun! (Something which we don't do very often these days as I'm usually all shagged out after my fertile window and not in the mood the rest of the month...)

Thanks Ginger and Victoria. I was charting for a couple of cycles, got a significant shift each cycle and AF about 16 days later, so I think that means I probably was ovulating - not sure if that's a foolproof test? Didn't bother for the latest cycle as I wanted a bit of a break from constantly thinking about it, but it turned out to be really long so we probably completely mis-timed our ttc efforts. Think I'll go back to charting this cycle. I have booked a gp appointment for the week after next so hopefully she/he will have some ideas.

Hi everyone, sorry I have been AWOL for a bit, just trying to get on and enjoy life without constantly thinking about babies, though as you all know that is easier said than done. Too many to reply to all but nice to see that a few of you are moving along with appointments and will hopefully start getting some answers and hopefully some BFPs soon.

vic have you got any dates yet for IVF appointments?

Special wave to Metalhead, I was on the ttc no.2 thread with you!

may glad you had a lovely holiday, but I know what you mean about the reality shock! Glad your DH is going to try and be a bit healthier too.

I still go through ups and downs with the whole thing, it was wonderful not worrying about it all the time, but have been feeling a bit down again the past few days, I think it's because I'm fairly certain AF is on her way, although to be honest it would have been a near miracle conception this month with our dismal attempt at DTD! DH went for his first SA test this week, should get the results in about 2 weeks, then I have my next appointment in 6 months so going to try and be as healthy as possible until then and also lose some weight, so I'll be joining you blue with the weight loss! Are you doing any special diets or just sensible eating and exercise?

Welcome Mister not too sure about the irregular cycles either, it's a buggar when they start messing you about right when you need them to be regular isn't it. Mine have become increasingly irregular since ttc-ing, now I never know when to expect AF. Have you started any conception vitamins or made any radical changes to your diet? Have you been using opks or temping? I do know most women have a few cycles a year that are irregular, or even non-ovulatory. I would definately pay your GP a visit though, just to get the ball rolling, it can take months if you do need any extra tests/appointments down the line.

Hopeful congratulations to you silverine really hope you get a strong BFP soon!

Hi mister welcome to the group. I'm afraid I can't help or advise with your cycles as that's not our troubles with ttc so I don't know much about it. I'm sure someone else can help though :-)

Hello, do you mind if I join? AF has arrived today after an epic 63 day cycle, we have been ttc no.2 since last July but I only really got my periods back properly in August, so now 10+ months and not a sniff of a BFP. I haven't managed to read the whole thread yet but have skimmed through and it looks like lots of you are at various stages of tests and treatments, so I was wondering if you could give me some advice?

I often had irregular cycles pre DS, but since they returned in the summer up until March they were long but fairly regular at 38-40 days. Since then I have had one 50 day and one 63 day cycle, both with mid-cycle spotting, so something is clearly not right! Have decided to bite the bullet and book an appointment with my GP (should have done it a long time ago but I'm terrible at going to the doctors, I always put it off as long as I possibly can).

However, as we've not really been ttc for 1 year yet and I am under 30 I'm not sure it will be that useful or if they'll just send me on my way. I just want to try to find out what's causing the irregular cycles and spotting really, but not sure what to expect or ask for from the doctor, does anyone have experience of this kind of thing and can give me some tips on what to ask for? Or is it a waste of time and better to wait until 12 months + ttc?

Congratulations silverine and I hope the digi tests confirm it for you this weekend!

Will now look back through the thread to get up to speed a bit!

How's your line silverine? Darker?

Thanks metal and lil and great to hear you have your appointment set and it's not too far off.

Thanks for the welcome ladies, and huge congratulations to silverine! Wishing you a healthy, uneventful pregnancy.

just got my appointment letter.... 3weeks tomorrow! at last we get to speak to the consultant!

congrats silv fx for a sticky bean and a healthy pg for you!

Thanks vic!
Still very faint lines... I hate the tests with the cross... may buy some clearblue digis for the weekend.

Fingers crossed its a sticky bean silverine x

Hi ladies, hope you're all well. blueberry did you have a good Birthday? X
Hi metal sorry to see you on this thread.
Girls, I had a faint second line on a free on Monday morning. Poas again tomorrow, please keep your fx for me...

A few kilos but I think he was just being polite id like to loose at least a stone.

Iron shouldnt make to much difference, I do think it might be stress.

Oh blue :-( how much do they expect you to lose in that time? Something realistic? Hope you had a nice bday x

I started taking iron about 4 months ago. Doc said my level was on low side of normal and to take supplements if preparing for pregnancy. Don't want to stop taking them!

Hey vicky probably stress related but yeah have you changed anything.

Vitamins changed my cycle stopped taking them straight away and cycle went back to normal.

Welcome metalhead

Last day off for birthday today then back to work.

Gotta get straight into exercise and trying to loose weight feeling a bit sorry for myself at the moment was hoping for more immediate action but have another 3 months to wait because im to fat

have you changed anything Vic like diet or amount of exercise? or vitamins?