3 month break after 'delayed period'??

Haha oh no trust me, the positivity is just a defense mechanism I think, it's all I can do really as dwelling on it or anyone else's pregnancy would just drive me completely mad. Had a little cry though too!

Yep you are definately right, I think because it is our bodies it's more real for us. How are you feeling now? Hope youre ok.

I know the "not knowing dates" hasnt gone as planned has it?! Haha! I am taking the first day of bleeding as first day of my cycle although taking this with a pinch of salt. So am loosely expecting af around 16th. I dont track ovulation but had lots of ewcm this week and ov pain which lasted until sat so I think I ov'd at some point this weekend which would work date wise. Managed to dtd previous sun, mon, wed, twice friday (!), and sunday so i'm a bit worried I missed actual ov day which I think was sat, so I don't feel too hopeful! How about you?

Its so hard isnt it...we found out days after my cp that my dsd's mum who swore she'd never have any more dcs is pregnant and the baby is due the same month ours would have been...so my dps little girl is going to have another sibling, but not from us. Massive salt to wound!

But...have managed to remain philosophical about it and remember that other people havings babies will not have an affect on whether we do, and you just never know what other people have been through before they make that pregnancy announcement. One day it'll be our turn for that excitement too, so keep your chin up!

Youre definately not a loon though, from what ive seen on mn it is pretty common and so so disappointing and upsetting when you have been ttc. Its nice to have someone to talk to though, has really helped me too after a crappy few weeks as I think my dp is pretty disappointed too so I dont want to keep going over it with him as he isnt one for talking these things through!

No problem, glad I could help a bit! Its horrible isnt it, I was so looking forward to that doctors appointment to get the ball rolling on midwife appointments etc so it was a kick in the teeth to have to go and say that the positive result she was about to discuss was no longer positive.

I managed to accept what had happened fairly quickly even though I am still sad it didnt work out. I think the only good thing this month is that I don't really know if the first day of the bleed can be counted as the first day of my cycle so I don't really know when af is due. I'm going to wait six weeks from when I started bleeding if I haven't come on and that way I'm hoping I shouldn't be too early if we are very lucky to catch again this month. Although trying not to get too hopeful as I know that would be exceptionally lucky.

Will let you know and have my fingers crossed for you too

Hi fingerscrossed it sounds like you have suffered chemical pregnancies - sorry to hear this has happened to you twice, it is a really crappy, disheartening thing to happen. From what I understand of it it is when you conceive but implantation doesnt occur. It usually means the pregnancy isnt viable and it is sometimes described as a very early miscarriage before anything could have been picked up on ultrasound - although I have only ever read that term online and never heard it mentioned in rl.

I had a chemical pregnancy a couple of weeks ago. I got a faint positive 5 days after my period didnt show up and the same day a digital confirmed pregnant 1-2 weeks. However the next day I did another dye test and it was even fainter. I saw my gp a couple of days later to see what was going on. She did her own test which came back positive a couple more days later and I was obviously delighted. Then two days after that I started bleeding.

I had what should have been my appointnent to discuss my positive result but had to tell her I no longer was. I was lucky in a way because I had it documented as a pregnancy albeit a shortlived one, but from what i've heard, some women barely have it acknowledged which can be hard if like me it felt like a loss to you.

When I saw my GP on Monday she told me it was very very common and that it is not a sign of anything being wrong. In fact she said it is a good thing that your body recognises that something is wrong in the pregnancy and that you are able to conceive. She said that some women would never have noticed and it was only because I knew my dates.

I asked how soon I could try and she said wait three months!! I was shocked and asked why and she said to just give your body time to heal and because they would worry about anaemia and "things"...although didnt have a precise answer. I pressed her further later in the conversation and asked if I really had to wait soblong since it had happened so early and she said that the nhs are just cautious and that where she comes from (she is Indian) women lose a baby and try again straight away, get pregnant and are fine. She then ended the conversation telling me to eat an drink well, rest, and try again when I wanted to. So I think really it is just standard nhs guidelines after pregnancy loss.

I am trying again this month. Good luck whatever you decide to do