TTC First Time - Anyone else?

Happy half term ladies! Glad to see that many of you feel the same as I do, even though I've only been at this for a few weeks.
In my case I've been so bloody poorly the last few days. Feeling sick and dizzy and had a right temperature last night, but not sure what it is, probably a bug from school.
AF turned out to only be spotting for 3 days and was mainly when I went to the loo, so god knows what that was all about. AF is due this Wednesday (27th), so I'm going to put of POASing till then (but was naughty t'other day and it was no wonder it was a BFN!).

Good luck to all of you this Bank holiday weekend. No DTD for me as I have a friend down.

Hi Chrissie no opk experience I'm afraid, this is only cycle 1 so not sure it's yet worth it. Just dtd every other day. So many different stories out there about whether frequency to dtd,time for periods to return, whether you have to have cm to fall preg it's making my head hurt. I think it's a wonder anyone ever gets preg!

First time ttc, been trying for nearly 10 months, we have decided to go for the clearblue advanced fertility monitor to try and increase our chances naturally! AF is currently here so just waiting to start using it. I have also just found out i am diabetic which adds to the complexity as i have to be extra careful now. New to all this forum stuff but really looking for some support and advice. xxx

hope you all have success soon xx

I'm currently on cd11 although my little AF app tells me my window doesn't open until next weekend. Still gonna get busy with the hubby in the mean time if I can get rid of our friend who is staying with us for a few months from the house!! Don't think he realises he is getting in the way of a VIP task!
I think I have a good handle on my cycle etc but I would be interested in trying an opk one month just to see if I have got it right or not! Those who have tried them - Are they easy enough to do and work out? Do u have to do one everyday for most of your cycle?
Kittymama thanks for the pep talk. Exactly what I needed. In fact hubby just texted to say he is in no certain terms telling our guest to get lost tonight!

Lol katybear123 that sounds like a plan! Trying to balance all these thoughts is hard - knowing how much to share - although I wonder if my husband would be grateful for more (general) information on my cycle, as it seems to mystify him so much - especially the pre-menstrual bit!

Hi guys, nice to have some new newbies. Gemerama thanks for info on tewaks not sure if it's ovulation or a bug, I guess we will see.

Currently on cd 11 1st month ttc. It's hard not to let it get to you so greenwolf I understand charting I am using fertility friend app to track temp but mine is very erratic. Current about to hit the key ovulation time if I ovulate as this is first month of ttc and have been on pill for 17 yrs. finding the balance of telling hubbie stuff is tough want him to know but don't want it to be a conveyer belt. But it's a key time between now and Monday so maybe I'll just get him drunk!

Yes me!! I'm 35 and this will be my first. Trying CB digital dual OPK for the first time and I'm day 3 of the flashing smiley face. Anyone else had any similar experiences? Where are we all in our cycles? Also trying Balance Active conceive, seems quite good actually , hope everyone is well.

Babysalt, you are probably doomed to think about it all the time but I reckon that's normal, hence the thread! Don't think about your family past, because it will drive you up the wall and it means nothing, my husband and my mum's side of the family are all very fertile, doesn't mean I haven't got the fear. Don't do ovulation tests, don't google everything, just enjoy being newly married! And buy some sexy lingerie, because the more fun you have the less stressed you are, and stress is detrimental to TTC :) chin up, you'll be fine!

TTC first time also, Just got married and came off pill. Day 5 of cycle #1 so literally all brand new!

Hey ladies,
I'm back - but we're putting the ttc on hold until July - we're going to be traveling (proper itinerants at the moment) for all of June, so it seemed good to have one less thing to worry about. I thought I would be chilled about the whole thing, but with the symptom spotting, early or late AF, and ovulation cramps, I think I want to be more informed about what's going on, so when I'm home and stable (haha!) I'll be beginning charting - because I'm not the easy-going person I would like to be, and the charting will hopefully show me that yes I did ovulate (or not). A couple of friends have done it and said it's really useful (also easy to do). My firends recommended the book Take Charge of Your Fertility. I've not read much of it yet, but it does stress that long cycles are ok - and can get longer in times of stress. Good luck BabySalt, and everyone!

Hi everyone. I have to admit I have never writen on a forum before and I don't know what half the acronyms mean but I felt compelled to join as this is exactly sums up how I am feeling at the mo.
My hubby and I started TTC beginning of April when we got married. I'm 27, he is 28 and I wasn't on the pill. Now I wouldn't say I am completely regular but AF normally arrives between 32-37 days. But on our honeymoon I was late. On day 40 we managed to find a pharmacy and got our first BFN. After the excitement of the wedding and thinking we may have got lucky first shot it was quite a big blow to take. We took another test on day 44 when home and another BFN. AF finally arrived day 48!
To round this off AF arrived again 14 days later. I have never had such a short cycle under 30 days.
I'm so confused by everything. I went from excitement and optimism and understanding my cycles and when to out in the big effort for TTC and now I just don't know and worried we are really gonna struggle.
We always said we where going to take it easy, no stress and see what happens and I was definitely in that place but now with all the AF issues I have started worrying.
I'm trying not to let on to hubby but now I find myself researching periods, mucus etc ect and I can't work out how to relax about it. I know we are only on cycle 2 but it's got me worrying. I'm reading into every stomach twitch, every slightly queasy moment and very tiny bit of weight gained. Add to this my mum had 5 miscarriages between me and my sister. Anyone got any advice about how to relax about the whole thing or am I just doomed to think about this 24/7 until it finally happens?

Gemerama and rainbow. .. I'm so glad it's not just me!! Im on cd35 of cycle 1 and really worried I have mucked up my body with the years of abuse :( having horrible images of having to start clomid etc :( really thought my body would kick in to normal cycles! Instead I'm just obsessively checking for blood or a bfp and getting neither in between googling other people who have had negatives for ages then got their bfp :( 1

I think I do but can't be sure as I don't test for it. But last cycle and this one I had back ache on one side a bit like period pain and more of a sharp pain at the front and cm in the same day and this month it was the day the app said was OV....could just be me looking for things or could real!
But I think it can differ for everyone.

Quick q guys do any of you get ovulation pain? I'm trying to stop looking for signs but keen to know I am ovulating and dont know what one would look like so is every time I have a feel at all I wonder. Not sure if indigestion or ovulation pain. Any advice?

katybear it's surprising how quick the symptom spotting starts! This is cycle 2 for me but last month we only DTD once as DH was away and even then I started thinking, oh could it be? Lol! It was PMS symptoms and af arrived that week! Still it was good to know things were returning to 'normal' after more than 10 years on the pill! Not temping or checking for ovulation yet just going by the dates and the app, so who knows really!

Hi Gemerama ah sorry af arrived. I so understand this is month 1 for us and I am checking every sign cf, temping and we are dtd ever other day. No idea if I will ovulate this month, was hoping temp would tell me but it's up and down loads. Have all crossed I will fall ASAP but in y head I am thinking could take till oct/nov time. Praying it doesn't given I want to leave my job yest but I guess we will have to wait and see. Not symptom spotting as yet but bet that will come.xx

Hi Lizzy and Rainbow.

I am currently TTC cycle #2 and from the moment we decided to TTC it seems to be all I can think about. I really didn't want to be someone who obsessed about trying to get pregnant and thought that I would be quite laid back....but no, I've turned into a complete loon about it!

Really trying not to go over the top with my OH otherwise I think I'll put him off...thankfully this thread is a great support (has been for me so far...thanks girls!)

Hi all, been reading this for a little while now so thought I would join in the conversation!
Came off pill on 11th April after 10years + on the Pill and as DH was going overseas we decided to just wait and see what my cycle did initially.
First cycle was 23 days and pretty sure I had signs and then also had signs before Af arrived (which were much more pronouned than when on the pill - one of the disadvantages!!) earlier than i was expecting - if going by the 28 day cycle.
So if going by the app i should ovulate some time this week - unfortunately DH has not been feeling very well so have not been able to DTD yet..hoping he will feel better soon and we might time it OK this week...
Its weird - having gone from thinking we would just casually start TTC in the next few months I now really want it to happen sooner rather than later!!
Anyone else found this?

my partner and I are moving house in a couple of weeks, I plan to stop taking the pill at the end of my current packet & just use condoms while we settle in to our new pad. Then we will start TTC. I can't wait, it already takes up a vast percentage of my brain thinking about it.
I hope we are lucky & conceive quite quickly!! Its lovely to read all your stories. congratulations to those of you that have been successfull & good luck to everyone trying!!

I can understand that I have no clue on my cycles, charts my temp to establish is I ovulate this month and using an app. I am on day 7 according to my app but this is month 1 off the pill so could mean anything and my temp isn't giving any clues! I'm hoping to one of those who falls straight after coming off pill but who knows. Keep ur chin up maybe it isn't afx

Yeah it sucks. I'm so miffed about the timing though. According to my app I'm only 6dpo and still have another 8 or 9 days till af rears her ugly head. shrugs no idea.