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Eggsellent Egg buddies! For those having ivf during April, May and June and any others still around :-)

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starsandmoonandback · 28/04/2014 17:16

Couldn't see another thread so thought I'd make our new one Smile

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starsandmoonandback · 23/05/2014 11:01

Jodie. How are you today? I agree with cups that they only freeze good quality ones. They may have replaced better ones but that is just to give you the best chance of success as far as they can assume! To have 5/6 blastos still going and good enough to freeze is really good. I have had 7 cycles of ivf and only ever had 1 embryo to freeze!! On the cycle my DS was created, I didn't even get to blastocyst and had 2 'good' embryos, 1 6 cell and 1 8, with some fragmentation! The 6 cell was starting to compact, so reckon that was DS. But the signs weren't indicative of a successful cycle! You won't feel positive about it working again right now, quite understandably, but don't give up hun. Smile

Suck, welcome aboard. Hope your scan goes well and shows that things ARE happening in there. Some people feel side effects and others don't tho, seems very individual! Come back and tell us later. Grin

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SuckingGin · 23/05/2014 09:51

Hello, I hope it is okay if I jump on this thread too.

I'm 32, DH is 41, been TTC since early 2011 - but not so much of a sniff of a BFP in all that time, so here we are doing our first round of IVF with a 'diagnosis' of unexplained infertility.

Its early hours of the morning here (am in the US) and rather than sleeping I'm up and obsessing on the internet and wondering if the drugs just aren't working for me, because after six days of stims I don't have any side effects at all and I can't feel my ovaries doing diddly squat. I do have bloods and ultrasound scheduled for later this morning though, so hopefully the clinic will be able to reassure me and make me marginally less deranged then.

Thanks to everyone who hasn't been lucky yet, I hope you all hit the baby jackpot in your next round.

NoCupcakesOrCocktails · 22/05/2014 21:45

Jodie try not to be disheartened as they have quite strict criteria for freezing. I had 3 embryos left after my first cycle but the embryologist wouldn't freeze them as they weren't good enough quality. So they must be good embryos. Ive known lots of women get BFPs on their frozen cycles and in fact a lot of clinics have slightly higher success rated with FET.

If you want to look into the nhs side you can contact your CCG and ask for a copy of their IVF policy. It might be worth checking it out as my GP kept saying I didn't meet the criteria and it was only after someone who lived near to me on here told me he was wrong that I found out I was entitled to it. That said you can at least focus on using your frosties first which will be a lot cheaper plus everyone says it's much easier than doing a fresh cycle.

I think it's normal to feel disheartened after a BFN. After my last cycle I kept saying I wasn't doing it all again. It was only after a month or so that I changed my mind.

justjodie92 · 22/05/2014 21:01

Yes seriously it's sadly true.

I'm not sure if it does depend on where you live. I live in Hampshire. I know single people aren't funded here either.

I have got 4 embryos frozen as a result of this cycle, but I don't understand how they stand a chance of working as they were of a poorer quality than the blastocyst that was transferred.

Thank you all again for your kind words

resipsa · 22/05/2014 20:44

Jodie - seriously? Sounds like a judicially reviewable decision to me. Sorry, lawyer talk but that's against natural justice...

I'm going to research it on your behalf.

NoCupcakesOrCocktails · 22/05/2014 19:49

Jodie it's so unfair, it sounds like you had a great quality blasto. Unfortunately you have to view IVF as a 3-4 cycle process.

I can't believe you are not entitled to it on the nhs as you are not in a civil partnership. Do you know if a straight couple need to be married? If not I think you would definitely have grounds to challenge your CCG. The post code lottery really annoys me. I'm lucky as I get 3 cycles, my CCG actually funds for single people as well so they are quite forward thinking. I can't believe that if I lived 2 miles down the road I would get nothing.

How's your other half doing? Thinking of you both Thanks

NoCupcakesOrCocktails · 22/05/2014 19:49

Jodie it's so unfair, it sounds like you had a great quality blasto. Unfortunately you have to view IVF as a 3-4 cycle process.

I can't believe you are not entitled to it on the nhs as you are not in a civil partnership. Do you know if a straight couple need to be married? If not I think you would definitely have grounds to challenge your CCG. The post code lottery really annoys me. I'm lucky as I get 3 cycles, my CCG actually funds for single people as well so they are quite forward thinking. I can't believe that if I lived 2 miles down the road I would get nothing.

How's your other half doing? Thinking of you both Thanks

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starsandmoonandback · 22/05/2014 19:12

Jodie, is that true? My god, straight couples don't have to be 'married' do they to get ivf on the nhs (I don't think) - that seems very unfair!

Your blastocyst sounds great. Sometimes it is just bad luck. Or embryo quality (not so in your case) Other times, it can be the uterus environment-possible problems with implantation, and I think sometimes they just don't know why, but subsequent ones can work. So don't give up yet Smile

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justjodie92 · 22/05/2014 19:06

I'm 30 so it's not my age.

I'm gay and as we aren't in a civil partnership, we weren't entitled to IVF on the NHS.

I have no idea why it didn't work. It was a day 5 blastocyst, that she said was hatching. Does anyone know why it doesn't work sometimes?

Turquoisetamborine · 22/05/2014 18:41

Is that because of your age Jodie? Can you go again? What do you think went wrong or was it just bad luck.

justjodie92 · 22/05/2014 18:24

Thank you for your kind words everyone.

I wasn't entitled to any NHS attempts so I had to go private from the start.

I just don't understand why life is so unfair Sad

resipsa · 22/05/2014 18:13

Cups - how do you feel today?

NoCupcakesOrCocktails · 22/05/2014 16:23

Jodie I'm really sorry it was a BFN. I know how cruel it is as this is my second cycle. It's ok to feel devastated, give yourself some time and plenty of tlc x

Turquoisetamborine · 22/05/2014 15:25

So sorry Jodie it hurts so much I know. How many more NHS goes can you have?

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starsandmoonandback · 22/05/2014 14:24

So sorry Jodie. It is so heartbreaking and so bloody unfair :( I've had 5 BFN's and I'd like to say it gets easier but it still hurts. Hopefully you won't have to go through this heartbreak next time honey. Big hugs and as others have said, take care of yourself and dh and be kind to yourselves, indulge in what makes you feel better and you'll grow stronger and will be able to give it another go xxx

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cheapredwine · 22/05/2014 13:16

So sorry Jodie Sad

littleshep · 22/05/2014 07:56

Really sorry Jodie. IVF stinks. Be kind to yourself the next few days Thanks

nobeer · 22/05/2014 07:27

So sorry Jodie. It is heartbreaking, we invest so much of ourselves into the IVF process and then suddenly crash back to earth. Give yourself time, as much as you need. Most of all, be kind to yourselves. Sending a hug.

resipsa · 22/05/2014 07:09

Jodie Thanks.

It's horrible. So sorry. I remember it too vividly.

But it does get better. For now, though, be self-indulgent and as sad as you want. This stuff is so real and raw.

(((You)))

justjodie92 · 22/05/2014 06:56

BFN

How do you stop your heart from breaking?

NoCupcakesOrCocktails · 21/05/2014 21:12

Val brilliant news on your scan Smile

Turq wow you have been through the mill. Your review sounds really positive. Fingers crossed for next time.
I would like to join the secret group too, ill pm you.

Hi Shep and Mme welcome to the lovely egg buddies thread Smile

Hi Stars, yeah our embryo survived. It was 5 cells average quality and fragmented. I really felt like refusing to have the transfer to be honest. It seems so pointless. I feel so angry and disappointed. DH asked today if they had any idea what had gone wrong. Their only response was it is just the way it is. I've requested our notes and completed our referral to care. To be honest it feels a relief to know I'm not going back there for anymore treatment. Anyone got any thoughts about when I could test? OTD is 7th June which is when we are away. I'm thinking of testing on the 2nd which is 12dpd2t as it's the day before we go away. If it's negative I want to be able to drink/do what I want without worrying. If it's negative I'll still keep up the pessaries till OTD.

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starsandmoonandback · 21/05/2014 19:38

Cups. Are you ok? Not heard from you. Did you have transfer today? Hope you're ok hun xx

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cheapredwine · 21/05/2014 10:39

Would love to join FB group, still bit about posting on MN TBH

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starsandmoonandback · 21/05/2014 07:35

Can't find it Hmm

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littleshep · 20/05/2014 23:38

Res - I was surprised about the star jumps too. I'm quite gullible though so maybe they just saw me coming ;)

Tame - This would be our first baby, yes. I've never even had a positive pregnancy test before. I do like the idea of healthy, full term twins, but like you find the possible complications scarey. I'm agog at the errors you seem to have suffered on the nhs. Really hope you can get some kind of recompense.

I'd be up for the fb group to. Will PM tomorrow.