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How long to conceive number 2 (or 3, or 4)

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stripeybumpsmum · 21/08/2006 22:19

Hi all,
Bet this has been asked before but can't find it on search. Also know the question is broadly equivalent to 'how long exactly is a piece of string?' ...
How long did it take you to concieve after your firstborn, once you had decided to go for it? We are at that tricky situation of deciding when, on basis 'if it happens immediately that wouldn't be good, but then if it takes years, also not good.' Suck it and see I guess (hate that expression) but interested in your experiences.
Ta

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mygirllolipop · 23/08/2006 10:09

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Scoobydooooo · 23/08/2006 07:23

Ds our ist baby toke 3 months

Tried for 2nd which toke us 4 months which sadly ended in a miscarriage.

Dd toke us 6 months after our mc.

wannaBe1974 · 23/08/2006 07:19

ds1 11 months
ttc now for 16 months.

I agree with moomin though, everyone is different, and every pregnancy is different. So often you see posts on these boards saying things like "I fell first month with my first, and we've been trying for three months now and nothing has happened - I'm beginning to think something might be wrong". And in reality ttc is such a complicated science and there are so many factors that come into play that generally those who fall first month are generally the lucky ones, hence why most doctors will tell you the average time for conception is a year.

magicfarawaytree · 22/08/2006 23:11

dd oops
ds - 1st time ( must have ovulated late that month becase in theory 4 days after ovulation!)
dd2 1st time and only time in 12 months!

Olihan · 22/08/2006 23:01

ds - oops!
dd - 1st time
dc3 - another oops

Seriously cannot be trusted with any kind of contraception. Will be taking a vow of chastity when dc3 arrives.

louismummy · 22/08/2006 22:54

ds1 first time
ds2 first time

gemmiegoatlegs · 22/08/2006 22:34

son conceived whilst on the pill (makes my husband a real man apparently!)

took 2 months to conceive our daughter. Tried like the clappers month 1 - nothing happened, I started a new job so was slightly preoccupied month2 so did the business once and fell pregnant. Hurrah!

MaloryTowersIsSlimAndChic · 22/08/2006 22:21

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TambaTheDragonSlayer · 22/08/2006 22:20

DS1 - 18 months
DS2 - 14 months

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 22/08/2006 22:19

PS I am 39 and am going (reluctantly) on chlomid next month

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 22/08/2006 22:18

1 month no 1
1 month no 2 (sadly lost at 25 weeks)
16 months trying for 3 AND desperate

Nemo1977 · 22/08/2006 22:10

DS 1month age 24
db took 5mths age 24 but miscarried
dd took 3mths age 27
db very quickly 2wks age 28 will only be a 13mths age gap

longwaytogo · 22/08/2006 21:50

dd1 1 month aged 19
dd2 1 month aged 21
dd3 5 yrs aged 31
ds condom failure (or rahter we failed to get it out of the drawer dd was 5 months old we were a little

So I guess you can never ever tell

hollyhobbie · 22/08/2006 21:49

it took us one-and-half months to concieve number 2. I'd read on here about how it wasn't necessarily so easy, but then it was!

Gelfling · 22/08/2006 20:47

dd1 - 6 years
Trying for 2nd - 6 years (miscarriage in 2004)
Am now 40 and am on 2nd to last month of Clomid.
Refusing to give up hope

TuttiFrutti · 22/08/2006 20:26

No 1 - first time of trying - aged 37.

No 2 - second month of trying (and dh was away for 5 days during fertile period in first month) - aged 39.

This was despite being told by doctors at my first birth that I was unlikely to conceive again easily, as "we usually only see wombs like this when we're doing infertility treatment"! I think this just goes to show how little is known about fertility. I have friends who've been trying for a baby for years and the doctors can find nothing wrong with them.

cece · 22/08/2006 09:46

dd - 7 months - aged 33 (I think)

ds - 2 months - aged 36

last pg which ended in mc - wasn't ttc so an accident - aged 38

cherrypie556 · 22/08/2006 09:39

ds first time
dd1 3 months
dd2 10 days

Moomin · 22/08/2006 08:20

It didn't for me either, right up until she was actually there in my arms. but for a few hours at least i was still in shock and wondering who she belonged to! it felt like she'd been away on a very long journey and i didn't recognise her anymore! i know that sounds daft but with dd1 i 'rcognised' her straight away as if to say 'ooooh it's you!' but with dd2 she had taken such a long time coming i couldn't really get my head round it. she's 1 in oct!! i really wish you a very healthy happy pregnancy - you deserve it.

SORRY stripeybumpsmum!!! such a shameless hijack

juuule · 22/08/2006 08:20

Ds1 - first attempt.

Conceived again when ds1 10m, missed m/c 3m later. Couldn't catch for the next 11m despite nfp methods.
D&C plus appt for tests. Then week before appt found out pg with ds2.

katierocket · 22/08/2006 08:17

Thanks Moomin - really appreciate it, you were so kind to me when going through that. Sometimes it still doesn't seem real.

1Baby1Bump · 22/08/2006 08:16

ds1 age 21
ds2 age 22

1Baby1Bump · 22/08/2006 08:15

4 months ds1
4 months ds2

Moomin · 22/08/2006 08:13

dd1 - 3 months
dd2 - 2 years

it's really quite pointless looking at other people's experiences to help you make your mind up, other than to see that it really is as long as a piece of string! you never know until you try whether it will take 5 mins, 5 months or 5 years.

[btw sorry to hijack but been wanting to say this to katierocket for about a month now and haven't caught up with her HUGE CONGRATS on your pg!!!! see, I told you you'd get there in the end!! I'm so made up for you xxxxx]

LadyTophamHatt · 22/08/2006 08:07

TR, maybe that what I should get DH to do then.

A submarine will be even safer than deep sea diving gear