TTC After MC: The home of hopeful nipples, ovulation eyes and the most determined Mummawannabees around. Chin up, tits out!

Hi all, wanting to join you for some hand holding and slaps where required? Feel like I'm just brave enough to put my head out of the sand again so here we go,

TTC since Dec 2012, mc at 10 weeks nov 13, mc at 11 weeks April 14. Now 1 week post op to remove 10 cm ovarian cyst and they found I only have 1 ovary! This TTC is the gift which keeps on giving!

Obviously my 1 ovary is doing is it's thing but feel a bit thrown by the last 6 months of rollercoastering. Going to jump straight into TTC in a low key way and try and pretend it's no big deal......

I'm with you there Office... cd18, no positive opk. Ran out of my cbfm sticks so having to rely on ic's. Continuing to temp and every other day of tith as per smep. Really want ovulation to hurry its arse up so i can relax a bit. I seem to be much more stressed before ov than after!!

Happy Monday everyone - I've had to post because this thread has disappeared from my "threads I'm on". I have nothing to report - cd16 but no sign of ov having happened or even being imminent. Bah. Pre mc I usually ov'd on day 12-13. Also I bled very lightly for a couple of hours yesterday - this mid cycle bleeding seems to be the theme for this month! Seriously wtf are my hormones playing at?
I'm carrying on with daily temping and ov tests but I'm running out of tests and might just stick with temping until next af. Keeping up with the alternate days tith as per SMEP too. It's bloody hard work!
seasides - random gagging sounds positive! Deffo a good sign I'm sure

Carly, I know just how you feel! DH and I have had that argument conversation once or twice or a hundred times

sebs, respect for being able to stomach the maca powder. I've got an almost full pot you're welcome to?! Had to switch to pills. I don't know about fertility as we weren't diligent enough about taking them for long enough, but I swear they prevented my jet lag when I went to Oz, I think they do give you more energy.

Sounds like you're having a lovely weekend gail! We've got the fire going here too, so cosy been a nice day up here though, even got the bike out for the first time in 2 years.

So, my symptoms aren't disappearing after all - I'm pretty sure I got my first nausea today - random gagging fit from nowhere - but it's so easy to imagine nausea, I've had it on many a 2ww when it's clearly psychosomatic.

Happy Easter all!

Happy Easter All!

Ellisisland hope the baby bumps at all these showers rub off on you!

Sebs I love a new supplement I take so many I must rattle when I walk!

Carly I feel your pain before MC my OH was really focused and drank less and DTD as much as poss but since he has seem a lot less interested but I think it all plays on his mind more than I think it does...if that makes sense!

I feel for you English my cycles and OV were like clock work before MC now I am on CD 12 and have had my positive OPK today (very early for me) and no flashing smileys (clearblues) before this one...I hope its not just today otherwise who knows when next BFP/AF is due very confused!!

Happy Easter everyone, it's been a fun but hectic one here so sorry if I've missed some important news from anyone. Just wanted to say sebs sounds like the Prof is worth investigating but absolutely get that smear done, fish slaps if you don't

gail your glamping trip sounds fabulous, fx for you.

So it's cd6 here and I'm relieved to gave had a pretty textbook first AF since the erpc. Suddenly feeling quite up for ttc again.....but dh not says his head just isn't in the right place yet. Now that's made me impatient when I wasn't before hey ho, not a lot I can do really apart from sit here silently stewing in wine

FX for you Gail

Hey guys,
Checking in from our farm glamping holiday.
Bit chilly over here so we've been cosying up in front of a roaring log fire every night with a glass of vino - so nice!
8dpo here and feeling semi optimistic!

Thanks Sebs I'm sure that's it. My hormones are a bit all over the place I'm guessing by the random desire to cry in the presence of babies so I'll attribute it to that for now and stop the worrying.

Yep, i spot now before AF, not that early in the cycle though. More three days before on cycle just gone. I think its down to hormones still being up in the air.

carly6971 thats given me the giggles. hahahaha

literally laughing out loud.

pissing it down here too (west yorkshire) pfffffffft!

xxx

Bessie he will definately be suffering...bastard lol!

Have a lovely Easter all...bloody pissing it down in berkshire at the minute .... Grrrr x

littlelady since my miscarriage, every single cycle, i have mid cycle bleeding. never ever happened before! maybe ov spotting like you say, ive had such stronger ov pains since mc too.

carly6971 my other half has done this too before, i did not speak to him for days. its not just your man, i think their all fucking simple, they dont realise what they say or do at time and go along in their man world, in their man cave. gggrrrrrrr. make him suffer today ;)

jonesschool i hope your ok, i really do. sending you huge hugs.

im 2dpo according to FF, i think 1dpo. i got peak on clearblue sticks thursday, so shiuld ov friday, but i think i ov'd yesterday. who knows. giving up this pissing about with pissy sticks now, they do my head in. dtd when we can and when we thought was right, so thats all we can do. heres to the 3ww (yep 3 weeks) fuck off long lutuel phase!

happy easter all.

im childfree this weekend (their at their dads) im de-scaling the kettle. what fooking fun! xxx

Hello ladies and happy Easter to all. A question for the wise ladies of this thread...anyone had mid cycle spotting post mc? My first AF arrived approx 30 days after ERPC and all pretty normal. Now on cd 12 with very light brown spotting. This could be pre ov spotting maybe but I've never had this before? Had stronger lines than usual on OPKs but surely it's too early for ov. Any thoughts welcome...?

Happy Easter!

Help I am so confused! CD6 my evening cb test gave me a smiley face (this is the non flashing version). Morning and evening test CD7 both negative. Today CD8 and cb test (flashing version) has given me a solid smile so peak fertility day. Never gave me a flashing. I've been using up old stock of the non flashing version and using each version once a day to ensure levels are taken with both monitors. How could it go from low fertility to peak and miss high! I never got a flashing smiley, I paid good money to be flashed ;-)

This is kind of telling me these tests are completely shit and should be a guideline only. Don't rely on them. Grrrrrr. We are going to DTD every day from CD6 to CD20. I'm so annoyed as it might mean relying on tests last few months may of made us miss our chance to catch the golden egg. We def stopped DTD early last month as the monitor said I ov'd early.

Well we missed the big peak day on the cbfm :( hubby got waaaaaay to drunk at a friends party last night that there was no way a quiet bit of tith was happening! So effffing cross with him right now...he knew how important it was! Please tell me my man is not the only one who can be. Complete tosser!!

So had a good day today gadding about with my Mothee and generally being very silly. While I was waiting for AF to arrive and praying she wouldn't I was googling fertility supplements and was reading some good things about Maca root. So went into Holland and Barrett and bought some.

They reckon 1500mg a day, three teaspoons of the powder mixed into food or drink. It's meant to balance and regulate hormones, increase sperm production and make you more horny. So OH and I had some in a smoothie and it tasted fine. He is totally up for taking it so I'm going to make a smoothie in the morning to share and keep my fingers crossed it does something good

Interesting stuff re. Prof Quenby (hope that spelling is right). I don't completely understand what tests they run and how it helps do I need to research it some more. It makes total sense though about the fertility tests making no one feel any better. That's what I was afraid of and I could see it could throw up more questions than it answered. So I'm going to take your advice and not do it.

I am going to have my smear though and talk to the nurse about my abdominal pain. I know I have a fibroid so I wonder if they might want to check it isn't causing me any problems. My periods aren't heavy or painful, it's the week before my period is due that's giving me all the problems.

Bit - but

Oh Jones that sounds really scary for you. Absolutely typical that these things happen at times when there is no one available to give any reassurance in the form of scans or advice.

Totally agree about going to the doctor and getting your miscarriages registered. I am sure I have read that two mcs does not mean you will automatically have a third, though I understand why you would think that, I would too. Does it help to say that at 31 you have time on your side? It probably doesn't, but you do and it sounds like you are very fertile to boot! Hand holding here, hoping for the best bit you know your body and if you say you think the pregnancy is not viable, I believe you.

Hi everyone, thank you for your kind words, it really means a lot.
Didn't see anyone yesterday, EPU refused to see me without a referral from a doctor, all doctors were closed so called a number of the doctor covering the area, he wouldn't give me a referral as he felt it was too early! I know I have had a MC, lots of blood all day yesterday and today, a negative test as well, just seems so unfair that this has happened again.
I'm trying to 'man up' but am actually finding it very difficult today, have only just made it downstairs. I am very afraid there is something wrong with me, both MC have been at 5 weeks, my body seems to give them no chance to get any further.
My next step is I will try and see my GP next week to check both MCs have been recorded, I will explain my fears but don't don't hold a lot of hope for getting help.
The sad thing is I think I will need to go through this again and I don't feel strong enough to do that. I am surrounded by babies, my best friend had a baby today which resulted in a massive crying fit!
I'm 31, I have been pregnant twice in the last 3 months but very afraid of what potentially my body is doing to these little beans xxx

I have no experience of cbfm english but with OPKs I had nothing until a really really faint line on cd 20 am, slightly darker pm then a positive cd21 and my cycle is usually 30-32 days so there is still time.

We had my mum staying earlier in the week looking after DD and had some tith. It felt very naughty with her in the house even though we are married and already have a child. What is that about?

We all gave those thoughts gandt when things started to go wrong this time (mc#2) I initially said not more TTC. By the time it was confirmed and had ERPC I was itching to get going. Then each time AF shows I want to give up again until a few days later and on and on it goes.

Jones how did you get on seeing someone yesterday? How are you doing? Fx for you x

We have planned to have a bash on the living room floor this evening and tomoz lol! My mum is the same sebs, just like get on with it but feel to awkward with my dad here lol!

English don't worry I went straight from low to peak today on cd25 x

Af arrived a day late this month. I'm having very mixed feelings about starting ttc again. With most of me wanting to do it, and another part of me totally against it, and all the stressed out messed upness that will follow. Not just in the ttc, but also in the 12 week madness that is just unavoidable if I am lucky enough to get pregnant.

Spoke to DH about it last night and was stunned that he is scared I will say no more DCs and that he really wants to just get on with it. It was the most forthright he has been about any of this since I lost the baby.

Feeling now like I haven't touched base with him enough and been obsessing in my own head far too much. Was trying to keep it in my head so I didn't do his head in! Argghhhh!!

See its starting already!

AF arrived this morning, bang on time after a textbook 14-day LP. I guess I should be grateful for that. Feeling a bit more positive today, I think yesterday's meltdown was partly due to pre-AF hormone crash.

So, this cycle I promised myself I will not symptom spot (as my body is clearly unreliable) and will not poas before AF is late. Someone please remind me of this in a month's time when I'm climbing the walls again...

Sorry your cylces are still messed up English. I've heard going on the pill for a few months is sometimes recommended to regulate things after mc, maybe that would be an option? But hopefully things will just sort themselves out soon.

Carly can you not just have some sneaky quiet TITH? DH and I did it once when his parents where staying and it was actually quite exciting, felt like being naughty teenagers again!

Happy Easter everyone!

Before my mc my cycles were 29/30 days. Ovulating cd16-18 ish. Since I've not had a peak on any clear blue gadget. And the lows the this cycles really are an all time low!
Had a positive OPK last cycle but temps didn't correspond with ovulation. I've kind of give up... And got my head round that this is going to need some kind of medical intervention. But will continue temping and print all my ff charts and take them with as ammunition when. I finally see a gp back home! Ho hum!

Will your gp not carry out any initial tests for you Sebs, just to give you an idea before you head down the ivf route?