TTC After MC: The home of hopeful nipples, ovulation eyes and the most determined Mummawannabees around. Chin up, tits out!

Jeez, not sure what happened to my spelling there! No one had baby showers, and I think I might join you...

Penguin I think you need to do what's right for you, and if that means not helping with the organising then that doesn't make your selfish. I'm sure it'll be hard enough attending the bloody baby shower (is this now compulsory? No one behalf these when I was pregnant with DD), so give yourself a break.

sebs that is totally insensitive and out of order of your hygienist! Why on earth did the she think that was an appropriate response to you telling her about your mc?! I really wonder what goes on in people's heads sometimes...

I think my join you in the carp dunk. I'm getting a fair bit of blobby white cm too, and have felt just a bit achey and 'full' in my pelvic region for the last few days. Trying hard not to read anything into it though as 7dpo is still so early.

Penguin that sounds absolutely reasonable and I'm sure she will be understanding. I assume she doesn't know you are expecting again? I think at this stage we just have to be as kind to ourselves as possible and not potentially set ourselves up for upset.

It's difficult for non-pregnant/non-mc people to get it, and hopefully they won't ever have to, but there's a chance in the future they may experience similar themselves and then it will be a lightbulb moment for them.

I had similar in the week whilst keeping a dental appointment with my hygienist who I have known a long time and knew I was TTC without much luck. No sooner had I told her that I unfortunately miscarried in February she said 'Oh dear. Well Tracy here is pregnant' and of course that led onto a ten minute conversation about her pregnancy, how excited she was, baby stuff etc. Lovely, and I made sure I congratulated her on the way out, just felt like a kick in the teeth as she wasn't showing any signs of a bump yet or anything, so I probably didn't need to know.

Perhaps she was trying to make sure my news didn't worry the pregnant assistant, like it might have been catching or something. All I know is it felt quite insensitive.

7dpo here. Have been having quite thick creamy CM since 5dpo, hoping it's a good sign but dunking my head in a pond full of carp because no doubt it won't be.

Tany it's a date x

Carly that must have been really hard. I hope that although today will be bitter-sweet that it's not too painful. Thinking of you.

I've been asked by a friend who knows about my mc to help organise a baby shower for my SIL whose edd is a week before mine would have been. She has been sweet and said no pressure but would I be an awful person if I said I'll come along but would rather not help organise? I don't think it would be quite as hard if the scan on Mon goes well but staying pg this time wont erase the baby we lost. I just feel selfish thinking that I want to say no.

Viper sounds eminently sensible. We are still in sync with our cycles I think. AF due on Tuesday here.

Obvs hoping yours won't arrive, but if it does we can share a hot water bottle and a bar of dairy milk...

Ladies I've been thinking about this all day as I felt proper shite after bfn this morning, I'm not going to test until the day after AF is due, which will be Wednesday. It's just so heartbreaking having an inanimate object tell you no you can't have it yet. It is much less a let down when it's via AF, I think it's because it's doing something, rather than some stupid stick.
Bad stick!!

I was out with friends I haven't seen since before mc tonight, was so nice to catch. I was naughty and a glass of red wine with my dinner and a rum&coke after. Invoking law of sod?

I'm sorry you're feeling down Carly, it must be so hard for you. Life's a right b*h sometimes! I hope your baby snuggles tomorrow will bring you some joy, even if it is bitter-sweet. In the meantime, have some or chocolate and maybe try and distract yourself with a Friday night movie. x

So I have just majorly over spent in next for my visit to see my besties baby tomorrow :/ and then ended up in tears in the car on the way home as I really thought that I would never have to buy stuff for anyone else's baby, without having my own, ever, ever again :( life's so cruel :( oh well still can't wait for a snuggle with her :) x

Welcome newbies sorry your losses and hope your time here brings you BFPs!

OMG to that thread penguin I'm 30 and still acknowledge I know very little about TTC I knew nothing when I was 20! English your message about it made me LOL

I can def see a line Meryl congrats :)

I can never wait for AF I always POAS with a little hope which is silly because when I did get my BFP I even got a BFN the day before my due on date but still I like that little bit of hope and anticipation whilst waiting for the line ... or lack of!

Zah. Mine is acceptably short at 12 days. Average is 14. Anything under 10 days could cause a problem from what I understand however doctors won't acknowledge luteal phase defects for some reason.

sebs, how short is your LP? I keep on reading different accounts on whether or not a short LP is really a problem.
My doctor didn't seem concerned at all, as he says I got pg, but as it ended in mc, I wonder if it's linked..

It's funny as it's sort of exciting to POAS at 9dpo because you can kind of pretend-see-a-line and kid yourself that tomorrow there might be a squinter. For me with a short LP it was always fucking depressing to not see a line at 10/11 dpo as I knew that that really was a negative test and of course AF would arrive two days later.

So whilst I enjoyed the drama of it on the one hand, the kick later when I realised I wasn't pregnant was horrible. PLUS I drive my OH mental thinking there is a line at 6pm and by 7 pm saying there isn't, then I can hardly sleep overnight to test again in the morn to say there isn't a line, then in another light ooooooh maybe there is. You can imagine three days of this gets very very wearing. So I promised him no more.

cake, just saw your post: I completely agree, I think I'd rather have AF arrive than poas and get a BFN... Hence me trying to be patient until Tuesday morning (when I will definitely poas if no AF)

Hi everyone,
Congrats meryl - very exciting for you, and exciting for the thread to keep on having BFPs!

I think someone was asking about going on bc after mc (maybe triple?)... Well, I took the pill for one month after mc, got withdrawal bleed as expected after the three weeks, and then, according to my temp chat, I ovulate on CD18 or CD20. This is about normal for me, as I have a short luteal phase in a 28 day cycle. So, although it was intially frustating to take bc, I think it was probably the right choice for me.

AF is due on Monday for me, trying very hard to be patient and not poas. With my late ovulation is definitely too soon to see anything anyway.

Tbh, no real symptoms, apart from phelgm in my throat (but probably just a cold)...

sebs brilliant I'm hoping my horny cow feeling will return soon! Yippee for new wheels to accommodate 2 children, go for it. Xxx

Welcome fergie, may your stay be short and sweet. I had an mmc in March, had erpc 3 weeks ago, bled for 2 weeks and we haven't dtd since. Both feeling a bit scared of it at the mo but hoping to get the courage up again soon as we do want to try again, just still working through the emotional stuff. As other wise folks on this thread have said, everyone's experience very different so try not to worry if things seem a bit all over the place, that's why it's called the wtf cycle

viper not sure about you, but in a weird way I'd rather wait a bit to see if AF turns up than poas again and get bfn, felt weirdly more miserable after a bfn than when AF arrived when we were trying last time if that makes any sense at all. Then hopefully if you just wait for AF to arrive and it doesn't then you'll never see a bfn and get a big fat bfp if you test a bit later....positive thinking for you

Oh don't worry I always come but that has more to do with me being a horny cow and knowing my buttons well. I think we've got ourselves into a groove currently where he is very happy with me going a lot all of the work and that is not the future I'm afraid.

In exciting news I have decided to release an ISA and update my 07 Punto. I don't know why I suddenly decided I should to be able to comfortably fit two car seats and a tandem pram obviously but it would be great to have some more boot space and something a little newer.

Going to have a looksie online and see what's out there.

Sebs you can always tell your oh that your orgasm will help move it up there!

To be honest Gail with TTC sex I feel like a Geisha girl half the time as I focus all my attention on OHs needs. He is going to get a right old shock in the future when we go back to 'fun' sex. I am going to expect MUCH more foreplay, he is going to have to w o r k

Wowsers on that thread link penguin, thanks for sharing it!

TITH update, i pounced on hubby last night straight after we'd put DS to bed, it was a pretty dire shag to be honest but did the job! I'd wee'd on an OPK just before pouncing, and when hubby went to the bathroom he said 'ooh your stick's got a dark second line!' so i'm glad we did persevere.
Congrats on the BFP Meryl :)

Sorry it's a BFN Viper keeping everything crossed that it's just too early for you.

Sorry Viper for your bfn, so bloody annoying.

I say it every time but it ain't over till the fat bird starts warbling. So hang on in there and hope you get your BFP in a few days xxx

Hi Fergie welcome to our gang. Everyone has a different experience of mc and it's after effects here, but I would think some will chime with yours.

Viper sorry it's a bfn for now. Try again Monday maybe? I've found FRER to be better than internet dipstick cheapies, but so expensive that I start with the cheapies and if I think I see a shadow, crack open a big boy poas nutjob. I've got them all in ready for June.