thread maxed out!!

I don't think you were being unnecessarily harsh, Helen - you're perfectly justified to take umbrage to unfounded comments about your health and wellbeing.

This is such a stressful time for everyone here (which is why most people end up on these threads in the first place) that people need to think a little more carefully about how they reply to others. It's all well and good to give advice and to make suggestions - again, another reason why ladies are on here in the first place - but to heavy-handedly inform someone that there is clearly something wrong with them is not a positive, or appropriate, course of action.

The reason I've loved this thread from it's original incarnation is that everyone seemed really grounded and sensible when dealing with the realities of conception, and indeed the subsequent problems associated with ttc, and indeed pregnancy. We all have our hysterical moments, and even though it's pretty much impossible to imagine the difficult situations that some users of this website, and people we know in the 'real world', have been in throughout their periods of ttc, it's a saving grace that most women that I've come across on here have been generally rational and aware that there's a difference between giving gentle advice and stuffing opinions down throats - even when they've experienced tragedies I can't even bear to dwell on.

If I thought there was a problem with my body or my pregnancy I'd love to have people try and explain what the problem could be, and probably gently suggest ways of solving the issue or perhaps giving an account of their own experiences. To be honest, without you girls on here I think I would have gone stark raving mad from the beginning because it's difficult to go through any of this when you're trying so hard to keep it from those you are closest to. However, what I would never want was to be told that there was certainly something wrong with me/I hadn't acted in the correct way/that something I'd innocently done had ruined my chances of ever becoming pregnant (and unfortunately I have seen comments to this effect).

Give advice and tread gently - it's what we all want, and honestly, what we all need at times. Unhelpful comments should be left at the door.

Think I was justified or unnecessarily harsh?!

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Ooh exciting Lolly. When are you going to test?

Hey hope you are all well. So AF has not arrived I am on cd 32. Feel a bit bizarre as not got any AF cramps just feel some dull aches. Might come back though as I felt it full on a few days ago. Feeling very weird and not sure what to think. Busy days at work are keeping my mind off it x

Hope everything goes well at the doctors misskgb, let us know how you got on! Glad you didn't think I was being a b*tch and trying to scare you to death, not my intention at all!

Kiki sounds good, definitely think pregnancy is the right time to try and pamper yourself!

Nothing to report here, no positives on the OPKS, no EWCM. I had quite a lot last month at this point, but then didn't OV so don't know if it's a good thing or not. That's about it really, other than my thermometer came yesterday, not sure how good I am going to be at the temping business but it will give me something to do to pass the time and I do love a good graph haha!

Glad to hear that misskgb - I have a really irritating trapped nerve in my lower back that's come and gone for years. Annoyingly it seems to be more persistent in its attempts to thwart me as of late; I'm going to have a chat with the midwife about it when I see her in a couple of weeks - if you learn how to make it go away between now and then, please let me know! I've solved my general lower back pain issue by making sure I'm always sitting on a pile of cushions and keeping my knees as low as possible, so at least that's something!
Yay for your booking appointment being soon - it's really nice to be able to meet the midwife properly and have a chat about anything and everything.

I'm pleased the reflexology went well, Helen. I've got a few really busy weeks ahead and then I think I'll definitely be treating myself to a massage of some kind. Until then, chocolate will have to suffice as my go-to feel better cure!

Lolly the wait really is awful isn't it. The time I thought I was waiting for AF that week sent me absolutely insane. Dreading it again this month!!

misskgb Yeah I'm not a remote medical expert but it was just after hearing the story from my colleague and then hearing yours. I would probably have rung the doctor, but I worry about everything excessively!! Glad you're feeling better now though :)

Massage sounds good. It's so nice to have some me time every now and then isn't it!!

Sounds good Helen.

The witch hasn't arrived but think she is still on her way. I have an average cycle of 30 days and on day 31 so only a day late really. Would only class late as my longest cycle I have had which is prob about 33 days. If she is not here by the weekend I may have to go out and buy my first test. Or she could turn up any minute. Who knows, my body will decide that one lol. Was always never hopeful this cycle because of the lack of dtd. Away for work for the next 2 days, would be helpful for for AF to stay away. X

Yeah fingers crossed for you!

I really enjoyed my reflexology. The twice that I have had it, I have had the best nights sleep I've had in ages afterwards. Even if it does nothing for my cycles that has to be a good thing!!

Yeh true, not all over. Just feels the exact same as AF. Only difference I have had that's made me think twice is how sore my boobs have been. I will update as soon as I know xx

Sorry Lolly your message only came up when I posted mine. That's awful, I'd be so mad if I was that woman!

Well it's not over until af properly arrives! Plenty of people say they get af like cramps and then get their bfp!

Dtd. Not expecting to OV for at least another week (if I'm lucky anyways!)

Aw I bet it's nice to see a bump! Has the sickness totally gone now?

Yeah I'm just here now. My appointment is at 6.30. Have got another one next week as well. I have a health care scheme thing through work so I can claim some stuff like this back so thought it was worth a shot! Cant do any harm and it is very relaxing!

Yeah that's really good to have 24 hour lines. Sure it'll be absolutely fine, but worth getting everything checked out I think. Especially when it's your first and you dont quite know what to expect!

Oh no misskgb that's not good.

Thanks ladies for letting me rant. I have had period cramps all day with no blood (sorry tmi) every time I go to the toilet I am expecting my little visitor. I usually come on at night. She is on her way as I am feeling the normal period pain.

I swear people can't drive where I live, I was a witness to a crash tonight and the lady was 14 weeks pregnant. She was very much ok but very shaken up, what a shame to be put through the stress.

Where you upto Helen 2ww?? Or still dtd?

Hi Helen,

I'm well thank you. Did I read correctly that you've got reflexology coming up? (Phone playing up and can't scroll back!)

I've got a definite bump, which is weird because after feeling so sick for such a long time, the sudden 'ok-ness' of life makes you feel a bit less pregnant (apart from the tiredness and the sudden ravenous hunger!)

misskgb - you can definitely call someone to speak to about any symptoms you're unhappy with. My midwife gave me the mobile numbers of the three community midwives for the area, plus a number I can call 24 hours a day with any concerns I have. I'd always call someone if I was really worried - that's what all these phone numbers are for, after all!

misskgb I'm sure it's absolutely nothing to worry about but a colleague was telling me earlier today how she had an ectopic pregnancy a while back and she was getting shooting pains all down one side before it eventually ruptured and she found out what had happened. Don't want to scare you or look like I'm being excessively negative, but might be worth speaking to a doctor just in case? Like Kiki said I'm sure pregnancy does all sorts of weird things to your body but I'd feel bad if I didn't say anything and it turned out to be something. On plus side if you mention it and they give you a scan you might be able to see little rice krispie early too!

Lolly feel free to have a big vent, sometimes needs to be done doesn't it!! Any sign of AF for you?

Nice to hear from you Kiki, I'm fine, just plodding along! How are you? Any signs of a bump yet?

Hello all,

Just checking in after being away! Fantastic to see you've had your bfp, Gennz! Congratulations

How's everyone else doing?

misskgb - that pain sounds horrendous! Any idea what could have caused it? I suppose part of the problem is that pregnancy is full of weird and horrible twinges/long periods of discomfort that you're not expecting, but nobody can blame anyone for getting scared or upset at even the slightest moment of pain, and certainly not if you have an experience like you had last night! I'm just about getting used to certain ligaments pulling if I move too quickly - I freaked out the first time it happened!

Hey Helen hope the opk's and thermometer help you get to know your body better. Oh that's great you are having reflexology I have heard great things about it.

I don't have much to report apart from AF is due tomorrow. Feeling very crampy. Had sore boobs all month this time but they are at their sorest now ouch. Wish it was the start of the weekend tomorrow so didn't have to face start if AF at work. Normally don't bother but this feels like it's going to be a sore one. Sorry to go on.

Also a bit frustrated at mo but as trying to lose a few lbs to get back to wedding weight which is only half a stone. The up and down emotions of ttc are not helping and finding myself comfort eating a lot. This week will be different though as I am fully prepared food wise so I don't stray. Hubby also wants to shift a few lbs so hopefully he will help.

Wow I needed to vent lol x

Hey everyone, hope you've all had a good weekend. Not much to report here. Started dtd, no positives on the OPKs yet though, not surprising though because I've not seen any ewcm yet! Decided to order a bbt thermometer. Not sure if I'll manage all the temping stuff but thought it will give me something else to observe whilst I painfully wait!! Got reflexology tomorrow and next Monday so hoping that will help and looking forward to relaxing :)

Oops last line was meant to say everyone but there was an extra gennz in there. Stupid phone!!!

Morning ladies. Hope you're all well and enjoying dtd, pregnancy or glasses of wine (oh wine... I'm missing you!)

misskjb one thing I've learnt from weeks of morning sickness. Eat whatever you can! On the pregnancy thread junk food and carbs seem to be the most popular ways to stop feeling queasy. For me its bacin, fish fingers and potatoes in any form although it changes on a day to day basis!

gennz your weekend sounds amazing. Apart from being pregnant in a vinyard, that sounds a bit like torture!

Have a great weekend
gennz