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What not to say to a woman who has miscarried....

28 replies

broodylicious · 10/03/2014 17:44

Having suffered my first miscarriage a few weeks back and therefore been on the receiving end of various comments from well meaning friends and family, I thought it may be helpful to those who have not had the heartache of going through it to know what not to say to those unfortunate souls who are/have. Please add your thoughts and suggestions too!

  1. "you've got a daughter already, at least you know you can get pregnant"

  2. "you've got a child, she'll help you take your mind off it"

OP posts:
17leftfeet · 10/03/2014 18:00

'Sometimes it's god's way of saying it wasn't meant to be'

I hate that one with a passion!

WeeClype · 10/03/2014 17:55

It wasn't meant to be!

Or you can try again......that was after mine in 2012, I'm now sat bouncing my DD age 3 months in her chairSmile, doesn't stop me thinking about the one I lost tho.

Minnieisthedevilmouse · 10/03/2014 17:48

It would have been dc2. Lost at 11wks. Female GP said "well just a couple of years ago this would have been a missed period. Now we have to treat it as miscarriage..."

The best people just said it was so sad. It was/is. There really wasn't more I felt could be said.

A year later we had a successful p. still think of that bloody woman tho (and wish her ill...)