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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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A year of trying

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xBlueberry88x · 04/03/2014 14:43

So ive only just joined on here, but I was in need of conversation with people in the same situation.
We've been trying to conceive for a year now, it is literally all ive ever wanted with my life and now this.
Ive been trying my hardest not to get depressed and my other half has been brilliant but every month of it not happening im getting worse and worse.
I was on the depo injection for 10 years and im so worried it has caused damage Sad

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xBlueberry88x · 06/03/2014 11:31

Morning ladies,

Doctors dont seem ever to really care to much, my doctor seems okay but shes very stuck up and formal but at least shes starting me with the tests. Just annoying having to wait for two months to have the two 21 day tests.

Other half is going today to start his side of things off fingers crossed hes okay but he has the worst diet and i hope that hasnt made his swimmers bad.

Ive got a tracker on my phone called ovia which you can input everything into and its tells you when you should be ovulating etc.

Im the same shelly555 constantly online searching and searching.

All my friends are having babies left right and centre and nothing still for me.

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nancy1984 · 06/03/2014 06:30

Aww sorry to hear that. It annoys me the gps don't care at all do they? Do you track your ovulation?
We lied to the doc when we went which is so bad but now we've found out that hubby has such low sperm count and couldn't get pregnant naturally. They still don't care tho.

maybug3 · 05/03/2014 22:01

Hi
New to mumsnet tonight after another month of no success (month 20) and feeling awful.
No gp visits yet as nurse told me 5 months ago not to worry but getting difficult not to!
Problem is with hubby with away most weeks we are not consistent with dtd...medical professionals don't seem to want to know!

nancy1984 · 05/03/2014 21:53

Ps: my gp is so useless he clearly doesn't care at all. My appointments are all of 3 minutes long.

nancy1984 · 05/03/2014 21:52

Hi it's so good to hear people are going through the same thing. I literally cry all the time!
We've just started the tests and my hub has come back with really low sperm count!!! I can't believe it!!!! They've said ivf but I've also got pcos so don't even know if I ovulate as I don't have many periods. Helppppp. Going insane

Shelly555 · 05/03/2014 21:13

Hi ladies I've just joined here too am so glad there really are others out there who understand what we are going through. 15months passed and all I see and hear are friends, family and others getting pregnant as soon as they start TTC! It's quite heartbreaking at times. Hubbies checks all good, I've been to gp and hospital doing blood tests & the scan etc go back in June but they say so far all ok just wish I knew what else I can do help conceive! Constantly scouring internet for tips and signs and so on even in middle of the night I feel like I'm a bit crazy at times! If it does ever happen I will never underestimate the miracle it really is that some people take for granted . I hope u all get lucky soon too , let us know!

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xBlueberry88x · 05/03/2014 13:16

Thank you both for commenting...
I came off the depo injection 18 months ago and we started trying 6months later...

Were currently going through the doctors to see whats wrong ive got to have 2 more blood tests on the 21st day of my cycle to find out if im ovulating (the first one came up with nothing).

My other half is going on Thursday to start his side of things.

Im a worrier and always have been but im trying to exercise more and eat healthy, ive cut down on caffeine and taking vitamins.

Im cealiac and have various problems with back and joints etc im just hoping its nothing to do with any of that.

Im glad in a way im not the only one, i havent really got anyone to talk with because i feel like a failure. Both of our families keep going on about when we are going to have kids and i cant bring myself to tell them.

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Martie1 · 04/03/2014 16:52

Hi blueberry, im in the same situation. I came off the pill at the start of feb 2013 and we've been ttc ever since. I was in a terrible state last week, very upset, and quite distressed. A very long conversation with DH helped sort it out. Plus AF was on her way and my hormones were everywhere.

Im going to go see my GP and try to take control of the situation as it seems completely out of control atm and I think that's what I am finding hardest to deal with.

gingerbread is right that men have this weird ability to remain ridiculously upbeat about it. Maybe its because they don't torture themselves with scouring every book/website/forum for answers. My dh did confess to me on Sunday night that he is also querying whether twinges he has mean his men are not doing the job, he wonders whether his years of football and accidental knocks to his manly parts have caused a problem. So maybe its not just us ladies who drive ourselves crazy!

your in the right place for support though, some of the threads on here will give you a good laugh too and remind you, you are not crazy. Lots of baby dust to you Smile

GingerbreadBabyPlease · 04/03/2014 15:59

Hello Blueberry, welcome to Mumsnet, and I'm sorry you're feeling sad.
Have you been to see the Doctor about your worries?

I can't imagine the depo injection will have harmed your fertility in any way, so try not to start blaming yourself for anything you may or may not have done.

I can sympathise with you getting depressed when you find it hasn't worked month after month. I have been trying to conceive another baby for 9 months now, and I am starting to think there is something wrong and it might never happen, my daughter was conceived in the second month of trying so it is even more perplexing for me why it is taking so long.

I could spout all the usual, 'it can take up to two years, try not to worry about it too much or try too hard', but I know it doesn't help, and it is hard to concentrate on anything else in life when all you want is a baby so badly. All I can say really is that you are not alone, and there are people on here who will share in the highs and lows and frustrations of it all with you. Great to hear that you have got a supportive other half, men seem to be able to remain annoyingly optimistic about it all!