A year of trying

Blueberry,

Day 21 tests are not always accurate. It really depends on when in your cycle you ovulate. If you have regular cycles, there is a chance you actually do ovulate, but maybe earlier or later than you think.

Get your GP to refer you to a specialist. You're entitled to it, since you've been trying for over a year and the day 21 test did not show ovulation. Really put your foot down! Fertility centres are so helpful, they know so much more than your GP. If your GP doesn't want to refer, see another one. Or make a private appointment with a fertility centre, who can then send a letter to your GP for a referral.

I had hoped that having an end game like this one might have been the focus I needed to lose weight but I'm not exactly doing well with that. I have a good couple of weeks and then af arrives and I go into binge eating mode!!

To also back up Mabel, two of my friends who had trouble had acupuncture and after years fell pg within months! Been debating going but better wait until basic tests done before I waste any money if it just isn't possible!

Happy weekend all!

Blueberry - I want to echo a little bit what minxi just said above and also encourage you not to lose heart.

Have you tried acupuncture? I know it might sound silly but it worked for my friend (after TTCing for nearly 2 years) and it worked for me (after TTCing for 1 year) - I don't know how - but if you're willing to try, I definitely recommend giving it a go.

Good luck. And don't despair. You will get pregnant!

P.s.blueberry - I know it plays tricks.. Get the day 3 and also7 day after you think you ovulated test! Also get referred to check tubes etc! X

I took depo for 2 years, tried for 2 years saw consultant.. Had tests etc, showing no ovulation, gave me clomid,nothing worked..after 3 years 3 months tried accupuncture, periods became regular - 3 months later fell pregnant! Good luck!!x

Yeah b50 complex was from holland and Barrett has 50 (mgs? I think) of all the b vits. Wanted to try the smaller dose and see how I got on with that instead of the 100. The 50 had given me neon pee but that's about all the changes so far. I have a bladder issue anyway (not diagnosed) but just need to look at liquid and I need the toilet.

Will update you on any other changes. Defo worth a try though.

Hope you are ok May and feel able to talk on here about it. You are most definitely not alone.

It really helps to know there are others going through the same emotions. My hubby would be great I'm sure but I find it so difficult to explain just how much it hurts every month, so I avoid discussing it.

Did tell him just now that its time to start pushing the doc into tests and he agreed, and sounded about as anxious as me about it.

It's important to stay as positive as possible, but you just can't stop those doubts and fears creeping in...

Oh Blueberry you poor thing. Why do our bodies play tricks on us when we most need them to just be normal! Late cycles and symptom spotting is just horrible. I know it's impossible and utter rubbish but you do have to try and relax about it, that was the one thing my Dr really tried to drum into me. Someone on another thread suggested mini projects to help take your mind off of things, try out a new recipe or take up swimming. Have you considered yoga or anything to try and help you relax? I know it is so hard to not think about it though.
I have had to really stop myself from going on about it to DH all the time, it is constantly on my mind and hard to think about anything else, but he was on the verge of giving up on the whole thing as he was so sick of me being miserable all the time. They are incredible to stick by us but I do think they handle it all differently and much less neurotically!
Butler that does sound interesting, let me know how you get on with them, did you get the b50 complex from holland and barrett? I can't seem to find one anywhere with enough, but not too much, b6 in it!!

Sorry to hear that blueberry, it's really not easy to deal with it and I think we all go through a range of emotions every cycle and some days I feel better than others. The best thing to do is share your feelings if you can and talk to people who you feel comfortable talking too.
My dh is just so good and listens or reminds me that I need to be positive and relax.

I am telling myself that things happen for a reason and hoping that it will all work out in time. That's not to say I'm positive all the time cos I do still worry it will never happen. I try distract myself with other things which isn't easy when you start getting a weird discharge at 8dpo and convince yourself your pregnant but now I just keep telling myself not to get worked up about it and I don't test unless my af is late.

Hope you feel like you can come on here when you need it.

Hi gingerbread yeah funnily enough I starred taking them about 2 weeks ago after I found a big topic on another forum about how they help. Hasn't made much difference this cycle but going to keep trying with it as it's early days and see how I get on. I bought vitamin b50 complex which is meant to help.

I am positive the now but believe me I have had some horrible lows and that helped me realise that no amount of feeling bad will change this. My husband is amazing at helping me relax and realise it will happen in time! God knows how he puts up with my moods sometimes though. Poor man!

Butler you sound quite positive about the whole thing, I admire your attitude, I hope being relaxed will help you get your BFP!
Have you ever looked into using vit b6 or other supplements to extend your LP? My Dr completely waved away my concerns over having a short LP, but I am thinking of starting on b6 next cycle if it hasn't improved this month.

Drs do like to fob us off with the day21 tests too don't they, I booked mine in for day21 like the Dr said, then after reading on here they are meant to be done 7 days post ovulation, which for me would be day23, but now it's too late to change my appointment! If nothing else I hope it will show that I am ovulating and my thyroid is ok. Although sometimes I think it would be nicer if there was an obvious problem they could discover from the tests and go 'ohh that's what's wrong', give us some drugs or a mini op and hey presto we'd all be pregnant the next month! In a way I suppose their lack of interest in us suggests that they do actually think we will fall pregnant eventually, it's just a matter of patience, which doesn't help us in the slightest I know

I have heard/read a few happy ending stories, I took 8 years to arrive after my siblings! Can you imagine 8 years? My mum said she cried every month....sorry, that was meant to be a positive story!

owl congratulations, I too fell pg quickly with dc and expected the same again...congratulations to you with number two!

Hi I'm very much the same been trying now for 14 months plus and my husband works offshore so we are currently going through a 2 month period where he is away each time I ovulate. I have spent many a month worrying about if it will ever happen and I am quite relaxed just now cos I know it won't happen for a while now so can't do anything about it.

We have had tests, sperm and 21 day tests normal and waiting for referral to gynae clinic at hospital. However my cycle is regular I do get a funny brown discharge from 7/8dpo and sometimes pink spotting from 10 dpo so something's not right. Just need to wait it out.

This has certainly taught me how to be patient! Well I like to pretend it has really it's made me a raving lunatic! :)

Thanks Sandy - stories like that do help. Fingers crossed we will all have you success although nearly two years has been awful - can't imagine how you must have been feeling after 4!

Please don't get too down about this, a year isn't that long.although I agree it feels like it. We tried for four years without success, was about to look into treatment etc and fell pregnant naturally with twins.

Hope that gives you some hope.

Please don't get too down about this, a year isn't that long.although I agree it feels like it. We tried for four years without success, was about to look into treatment etc and fell pregnant naturally with twins.

Hope that gives you some hope.

Thanks
Nancy and blueberry - I'm gald its not just my GP. With hubby registered with a different doctor (he works away) we've found it difficult to lie so far and because we cannot be consistent with dtd, they have treated us so far like we aren't trying hard enough!
Have decided tonight to get hubby to register with my gp so the lies can commence!!
Have been tracking ovulation with temp and opk, and all seems to be ok and as expected (another reason the nurse just wasn't interested in helping!)
Owly - like the idea of distraction so maybe forcing the doc to put me through tests will also be the lucky charm for us.

Fell not feel!

Hi op, we feel pregnant very quickly with dd and expected the second to happen as quickly...unfortunately not!! Anyway, I was on the depo after having my dd, only had two shots as it didn't seem to agree with me! After a year of trying I went to the doc and he ran the tests you are talking about and he did say that infortunatly he sees ALOT of women who's periods/ovulation are affected by the depo for 2+ years after taking it

Luckily my tests came back positive and not sure if it was the not thinking about it that month as was concentrating on the tests but got our bfp that month after 13 months of trying, (currently 17 weeks pg) so please don't give up!! I know it's so hard and I completely get that! But just because you've been trying for over a year it doesn't mean you won't just randomly conceive. Also you're in the system for if problems are found so you're covered there to! Fingers tightly crossed for your luck to change soon!!

Hi blueberry. I've had such irregular periods and they've been fobbing me off with the 21 day cycle tests. I'm going in tomorrow to say it's impossible. Those dates are based on people that have regular cycles and I don't! Why didn't they say that in the first place.
I was so upset that hubby had rubbish sperm. I didn't think it would ever be him! But now I look at his diet and lack of exercise and understand!