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Is 45 too old to start a family

29 replies

BigAlfie1 · 14/02/2014 12:52

Hi, I'm new to mumsnet & also to the decision of wanting to start a family. I am 45 & my husband is 55. My husband already has 3 children (24, 22 & 5!) & I don't have any. This is both our second marriage & In my first marriage I basically put having children completely out of my head as my ex-husband wanted to start a business which I supported him with. Anyway we split (phew!) & I met my gorgeous husband who I married in December. Over the last 12 months I have been constantly thinking about starting a family & agonised over the fact that we're both 'too' old & had I basically 'missed the boat'. Having my step-son staying with us has made me realise that I do want to be a mum, bring a little person into the world to love, chersih & develop. My husband is overjoyed that I want us to, hopefully, start a family & constantly tells me to not worry about our ages, we're fit & healthy & god willing there is no reason why we couldn't & most importatnly shouldn't have our own baby. Any feed back, positive or negative, would be greatly appreciated. ;)

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moralimbecile · 14/02/2014 13:08

I was 44 with dc3. Good luck ?

BigAlfie1 · 14/02/2014 13:03

Thank you for the reply, you're right with what you say & nobody can predict the future & what is going to happen. I don't ever want to be in the position in a few years time thinking 'why didn't we try'. Life is too short for regretting things you've NOT done.

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perplexedpirate · 14/02/2014 13:02

Do it! Numbers mean nothing if you have a loving, stable environment in which to bring up your child.
Just be be prepared for a bunch of ignoramuses to piss on your chips.
Fuck 'em, say I, and the absolute best of luck to you. Thanks

shallweshop · 14/02/2014 12:59

I think you should go for it. I am an older mum at nearly 50 with DC's aged 9 and 7. DH is 4 years older than me. I love being a mum, I think my children keep me younger and I don't think my younger friends find it any less tiring than I do.

I am sure some people will argue about how old you will be by the time your DC reaches teenage etc but none of us know how long we will live and age has a lot more to do with attitude than numbers!

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