Fab Forty-Plus! Where are the BFPs...

htbftm, for me it isn't really about being too busy when I was young - I am just greedy for a bunch of kids I started at 24, had my second at 27, third at 30, fourth at 34 and fifth at 41. I feel I need to have another in my forties so I can say I had 2 in each decade (20's, 30's and 40's).

However, I do wish I hadn't left such a gap between my last two.Then perhaps I could have had my sixth back when I was 40 instead of having this difficult time and making it 47, still without a THB. But that's not how it worked out, so I just keep trying...

Fireflies, did you POAS yet???

I am 9 dpo, but will hold out a few more days (I hope ) before I poas.

Grizzer and Gum- I'm a teacher too! Perhaps it says something about us being too busy when we were younger lol! Thx for all the congrats! Welcome Stains - fingers crossed for u! xx

Avo all

Gum I hope you’re right and you have spotted something.

Pootle can you do both concurrently? Apply for adoption and TTC?

Grizzer sounds v dramatic. Hope your DH is ok. Fingers crossed.

Welcome Stubborn. Glad you have found Mr Right and are TTC. May your stay here be short and sweet. YY to getting to your GP and getting as much testing done asap. Hope you won’t worry about it too much though. You’re still young by many of our standards. (I’m 44).

Although I am really hoping this is my month for a BFP, I am sure AF will show up any time now. Have been feeling deeply depressed as well as super stroppy which is another standard PMT symptom for me so I am sure any second now…. If no AF by end of tomorrow I’ll be thinking about POAS.

I need to swot up on my supps list, but somehow can’t get myself to do it.

The last days before AF are the worst, aren't they Grizzer? Dearie me, hope your OH makes a full recovery.....

Welcome Stains sorry you have been through a difficult time but at least it sounds like you have no fertility problems. I also have 4 year old. She is desperate for a sibling but no luck yet!

I'm about 10 dpo I think but not much hope this month as we only managed it twice during ov week & I'm pretty sure one attempt was too early & one too late. I had my last mc on 15th April last year & that is the day AF is due. It would be amazing if I get a bfp but trying not to think about it.
So cruel to have parents night in the last week Gum but at least you then have a lovely holiday. So typical that we are off work when dh gets sick though - always happens in the holidays!
Drs have just taken him to have a camera down his throat. He is very anxious about it & in a lot of pain with the catheter (not sure if that's how you spell it!) don't think the porters have heard such colourful language as they tried to move him from one bed to another! I have taken the opportunity to slip away for a cuppa!
Fingers crossed temps are a good sign gum.

Hello, can I join you all? I'm 40 years old and trying TTc #2. I already have a lovely 4 year old DS, conceived accidentally whilst having a brief fling. Now I have finally met Mr Right, and am actually trying to conceive for the first time in my life- and so far (4 cycles) it hasn't happened.

The really really sad thing about it is that DP and I actually conceived about 18 months ago, a few weeks after we'd met (whilst using contraception!), and, keen to avoid making the same mistake twice, and not feeling that I'd known him long enough, I had a termination. You can bet I regret that now .

I really felt pregnant this cycle - had loads of symptoms, including sore boobs and nausea- but AF started this morning (properly, not just spotting). I still have sore boobs and nausea, so obviously my body is just playing cruel tricks on me.

I think it might be time to go and see the doctor and ask for tests- I might have to fib just slightly about how long we've been TTC....

P.S. Jbrd, any news? I have been thinking about you. Did they repeat the Harmony?How long til you get results?

I had a look into the test in Australia, and because no one does the analysis of the bloods in Australia, it costs $850 to have the test done here, with no rebate. Geeze, I'd better start saving (if I get pregnant this cycle) DH won't be pleased about spending that kind of money, but I would rather do that than amnio, from what I read it (the harmony) is 99% accurate?

Oh Grizzer, sorry to hear about your DH, a bit worrying for you I suppose? I hope they can fix him up in time for next time's shag fest, or perhaps you won't need it? Where are you at in your cycle? In the tww?

Something very weird happening to me this 2ww. For the first time in ages I am getting really good, high post ovulation temperatures. I didn't take my temperature last cycle until I knew I was pregnant and they were very high, but previous months they barely got above 36.7, today's is 36.92. I've also had that same metallic taste in my mouth. I would be so pleased to get a bfp this time, but I'm trying really hard to NOT get my hopes up...

I hope higher temps are a sign of progesterone and not hot flushes that would not make me happy! Though high estrogen usually produces lower basal temps I think...Deige, are you out there? You know heaps about charting, a little wisdom would be appreciated

Grizzer I am a teacher too, though I teach secondary school. It is the last week of term (hurray!!!) we will have our two week Easter break starting Friday. I am certainly ready for a holiday, I am exhausted, as is DH (also a teacher) and DS and DD's. Unfortunately we still have to get through parent's night on Wednesday. God knows I'll be spent by Thursday.

Happy Monday, everyone

Dh ambulanced to hospital this morning after vomiting & pooping blood. Looks like an ulcer but they are putting a camera down tomorrow to check. I'm already working out if he will have recovered enough in time for next ovulation!! How bad is that?? I have to add a few extra recovery days for the 'I know I'm fine now but want you to run around after me for a bit longer' phase that most men seem to go through. I am very sympathetic, honestly, but that clock has been ticking for a while now & every month counts!!

Hi Grizzer thanks, I haven't looked into reflexology or acupuncture but I am trying to reduce my stress levels through the medium of deep tissue massage (and wine) to try to help things along.

Brave person being a teacher - I used to be and gave it up. I now work in mental health doing risk assessments - which is far less stress!

I'm keen on the adopted route as it has always been my first choice, but DH wants to pass his genes on etc etc so after twenty years together we finally tried ttc but to no avail (yet).

We don't qualify for IVF as my local trust doesn't fund it. I'm not keen to try it. To me it makes more sense to offer a home to a child without one.

You never know. Looks like a few bfp's have happened on this thread in my absence! Fingers crossed for healthy, sticky babies.

Congratualtions htbftm. Wonderful news for you.

Hi Pootle, sorry to hear you've not had any luck yet. It's a bloody hard road isn't it? Just think how sweet the reward will be when you do get to hold your baby.

Have you looked into IVF, or donor eggs? It isn't for everyone,I know, but it is an alternative.

I recently read about mini IVF in over 40's here Which sounds like a good alternative to normal IVF.

None of it is for me as my DH isn't willing, but I am okay with that. I still think I have a chance.

Mozza,I am glad there were no further anomalies. I know you will be worried no matter what anyone says, but it may be that you baby won't be affected badly by the agenisis of the corpus callosum. I know you will love your little one with all your heart no matter what you find when she is born.

Fireflies, being irritable is also a symptom of pregnancy It's not over til the witch shows her face (and even then, sometimes, it isn't over )

mozzarella sending lots of positive vibes to you and your baby. Xx

Congrats hoping!!! Wish I was still as young as you!!

Suspect AF due any day now. Been mega shouty with DH, though not without cause.

Night all.

Sorry - typing on phone while in bed & pressed send too soon.
I was meant to say it seemed a very long & complicated process. Of course they have to be thorough but I was a bit put off by the intense questioning that was involved. They have shortened the process now & it can take as little as 8 months I think. I have watched a few adoption programmes on TV recently & I'm thinking about bringing it up with dh again. I was having lunch with a group of 9/10 year old girls at work the other day (I'm a teacher - I wouldn't have lunch with them through choice!) and one suddenly announced she was getting a brother! I asked a few questions and she said her parents had just been accepted for adoption. The total delight on her face made me melt & the line of 'I don't even have a cousin. I just want someone to play monopoly with' swung it for me. My dd needs that too!
Let me know if you start looking in to it. I was put off slightly by the open evening I went to but have been told to try a different area as they might be looking for different things.

Congratulations Hoping lovely news x
Pootle so was the best Flump! You've brought back memories of my younger self walking around saying 'go away spoons' with my best Pootle lisp!! (I was probably about 35 at the time....) sorry to hear of your struggle. Have you tried acupuncture or reflexology? A few of us are trying the alternative approach. I have looked in to adoption. It did seem like a long & to be h

htbftm congratulations!!!
blossom so glad to hear from you!
MRI results were good as they didn't add other brain or kidney anomalies, but there's still the issue of almost complete agenesis of the corpus callosum which was obviously confirmed.. It's really hard now to predict outcomes, but I'm a little more hopeful than before..
Please every body save some thoughts and prayers for this baby
jbrd any news? .. thinking of you!!
hugs to all the ladies on the thread..

thx Pootle! Still in shock, but trying to keep my feet on the ground as i'm not due til tomorrow, so its very early! xx

Wow Hoping congratulations! Well done you!!!

OMG - like I got a BFP this afternoon!! :-) Turned 40 in October, came off the pill in December to try for my fourth child (hence Hoping to Be Forth Time Mum), my Dad died tragically im January out of the blue, so haven't had many opportunities to dtd, but managed it earlier this month and now have a BFP!! Really cant believe it!

Hello, Pootle!

Jbrd has there been any updates? It must be hard not to worry till you know more.

CD16. Only managed to DTD 3 or 4 times since CD9. It is sad that I am unsure of the number- shows how memorable our couple time is!

Have two big spots on my chin- probably a symptom of eating too much chocolate

Afternoon ladies - I have lurked for ages following account problems, I used to be TigerseyeMum but now I am a Pootle. Thankfully I am now back not that I get much chance to post (and nothing interesting to say)

We're still trying to get upduffed - this will be our fourth year. I've had a battery of tests and seem to be ovulating, had endo lasered and in theory there's no reason why it can't happen...sigh...but it never seems to! I suspect my eggs have shrivelled up!

We're also seriously considering the adoption route but it's a long road ahead...

christmas, I have co-slept for ages. But we have two big beds in separate rooms, so we "visit" each other for conjugal stuff! I guess it just involves planning. And yes, there's been many an interruption over the years, but we laugh it off and once DS is settled, get back to it

As for orgasm - I have heard of women having the same issue and being concerned about the sperm, personally I don't think it will make that much of a difference, however, I've heard of women using other means (masturbation or vibrator) to "seal the deal" after their DH has done his bit, soley for the purpose of helping the swimmers do their thing.

Think about all those accidental pregnancies where sex happens in the back of cars, standing up against a wall etc,etc, there's no popping a pillow under the arse for 20 minutes, or legs up the wall caper. It's all "wham,bam, thankyou, ma'am", and still they get upduffed. My sister got pregnant at 40, on the pill, whilst taking anti-biotics, in the back of her boyfriend's car having a quickie...so don't stress too much.

at, not and

The SMEP had another obstacle- DS1 watched "The Orphan" and a sleep over, it "freaked" him out, now he keeps waking us up, worried, in the night, cutting into our alone time. How do people co- sleep with DC and still manage to TTC? Also, I was thinking that I almost never orgasm, which I have read makes the sperm travel better.