Fab Forty-Plus! Where are the BFPs...

Sorry, posted mid sentence yet again. Hope he gets well soon, I meant to say.
I am going through my monthly 'am I aren't I?' stage. I thought I was due AF tues possibly weds. My first day last month was fairly brownish & although it filled a pad, I don't know if I count that day or start on the next when it was redder. Even so, Tuesday would have been either cd 30 or 31. I had a small brown spot that day & thought AF would start weds. Nothing. A lot of twinges but nothing else. Was going to test when I got home from work but when I wiped I think I saw a little bit of gloopy discharge (sorry) so assume again that AF is still coming so I didn't bother wasting a test.I hate it when it's late - it's just so cruel.
Gone back through diary & I had a 33 day cycle in March so that's probably what I'm doing again. I'm annoyed because on Tuesday I was sure AF was coming, on Wednesday, I was still being realistic & thought she'd show. Today hope has crept in. Tomorrow disappointment. Oh well, Friday night wine then I guess.

Welcome to the hospital club mumalah! I've got a named parking space & waiting room seat in our local hosp ha ha. Hope dh is ok though, it's exhausting & stressful when men are ill - if he's anything like my dh they are not the easiest patients (& I am not a patient nurse!) hope he gets well so

ps or rather I have spent a year or so coming to terms with the fact that it MIGHT not happen.

JBrd - forgot to say that I think adoption is a great idea. I have a friend who is doing the same (she also has one child, but can't conceive a second). I would only not go down that route myself because I am very happy with one child and I think would be ok with that if a second one is not meant to be ... (though I hope it is!)

Hi everyone! Dh been in hospital for a week suspected, inflamed colon ? So not been able to update Gum ! A WTF cycle I think, af didn't come in its usual way, as I said earlier started spotting 8dpo and it didn't stop until 25 dpo? Dp said he didn't think its gonna happen now. I agreed, and i havent bothered temping. But this morning when i awoke I was feeling for my thermometer ! Took too long to find so i didn't start today, however it is in position for the morning ! New chart new start !
Congratulations! Mozza- great timing , lifting my hopes!
Welcome new ladies !

BIG that was meant to say ...

Thanks Irishmammy and wow - yes, congratulations at your new baby at 46. That is very inspiring to hear! And bug congratulations to Mozarella too

Ooo, Irishmammy, congratulations on having a baby at 46! How wonderful.

Jass, the consultant agrees with you that women in their forties have little problem getting pregnant, but I think his point was (and research agrees) only a small number of eggs will result in a baby. Science puts the figure at 1-in-6 for women of 43 and 1-in-10 over 45. The rest, I suppose, would result in chemicals or miscarriage (if they were fertilised at all)

I think I will pay for an antral follicle count, which is supposed to be the best indicator of ovarian reserve. Would you agree? At least then I can be more informed and not allow myself to get my hopes up each month if the count shows a rubbish number of eggs..

Congratulations Mozza on the safe arrival of little Alice! I hope you make a quick recovery from your caesarian. I know you'll never forget Sophia, our little lost babies will stay in our hearts forever.
Hi "Rita" and "Zest" ,you'll find this thread is very supportive through the good times and the bad! It's certainly possible to have a baby in your mid forties, though the chances of miscarriage are higher. I found I was pregnant unexpectedly at 44 but sadly miscarried at 11 weeks. We then decided to actively ttc, not to replace what we'd lost ,but we now felt our family was incomplete and there was definitely room in our lives for another child. My AMH level was over 6 . I was told though that at my age any pregnancy had a 50% chance of success. I went on to have several more losses , one after seeing a heartbeat a couple of times on early scans. We decided to give up as it's heart breaking losing baby after baby so had I stopped using OPKs,temping etc when we found out I was pregnant again, and this one stuck. DD3(DC4) was born a few weeks ago, a few months after I turned 46!
We're doing fine,thank you for asking Gum and Jass, our littlest girl is a joy though DH is feeling very outnumbered, even our dogs are female!
Sorry about your BFN Jass.
Hope your DS's cough settles quickly Gum ,did you manage to stay home?
Grizzer ,you've really been going through it, hope your DH is better soon!
Green how exciting that the IVF is going ahead so quickly you could be pregnant very soon!
JBrd I've been thinking about you. It is a difficult decision to make whether to take a break or continue to ttc straight away after all you've been through and while everything is so raw. It sounds like testing for NK cells could be worthwhile though, and your upcoming test results may give you some answers too xxx
Hi to CaliBee , Diege and everyone else

Mozarella, congratulations and so far, so good - all the best to little Alice! I can imagine how good it feels to hold the newborn.....

Welcome, newcomers, and may you move on quickly! I am 44 and between 41 and 44 have fallen pregnant more than 10 times, so I do n ot buy the 1 egg in six is OK to fertilise. Good luck!

I must have immune issues, as I have lost all these pregnancies before getting to heartbeat, either empty sacs or just chemicals. My immune issue,s however, have not shown up on rather complex palette of immune testing (this for you, JBrd - unfortunately these tests being clear does not say you have no immune issues....but I almost hope NKcells are your answer, they are treatable).

This month, Gum, I have tested and it is bfn. Am 11DPO and tested today, so I feel its over for this month.

Congratulations Mozza what lovely news. A healthy weight & it sounds like all seems well. Health & development are unknown quantities for all babies is some ways so just enjoy every moment. My advice would be to try not to compare Alice to anyone else - all babies are different & will do things in their own time. My dd barely lifted her head up during tummy time & didn't walk til she was almost 2!! It's easy to look at other children & start to worry but they all do it when they're ready. I very much believe our lost babies look out for their siblings so I'm sure Sophia will be with her little sister every step of her life journey x

Thank you, Gumblossom and Greenlizard, for your comments and sharing; I wish you both much success in your quest for a baby.

Mozzarellamummy, congratulations on the birth of your daughter and how dreadful to read about your loss. Wishing you every happiness..

I really don't have any confidence this will work; I have been told by my consultant that, at the age of 43, only 1-in-6 eggs are viable. What if that viable egg is released from the 'wrong' side and doesn't get picked up by my one functional tube? Would it take another six months for a viable egg to come around?

the Newbies I lost Sophia at 24 wks through TFMR.. she is my much loved angel baby..

Hello ladies!
Alice was born yesterday through caesarean section, she weights 3.210 kg and as to now is doing fine and likes mummy's milk!..As some of you know this was a very difficult pregnancy due to some issues related to her health and development with still unknown outcomes.. However we are overwhelmed by the joy of havinhg her with us and will try to take life day by day..
I want to thank especially all thethe old friends on this thread lovely and understand who helped me through the difficult time after Sofia's loss and during this pregnancy.. I am really grateful.
Sofia will be always in my heart and I hope she will protect in some special way her little sister.. as well as his whole little family..
Many hugs to everybody here :-)
Xx Ale

ps and best of luck with your paths - sound very wise choices ...

Thank you Green and Gumblossom for your comments.
Gumblossom: I do have one other child, yes. I conceived him within two months of trying (aged 38) and was a v healthy pregnancy etc. I then started trying again at 42 (I would have started earlier but my partner was not ready for a second soon after first!). And it has taken well over a year. However I got my FSH results a few weeks ago and they are very good - so doc says I have every chance. But I wonder why it would have been so easy at 38 and so difficult now. I feel like the clock has almost ticked, but will give it a few more months ...

Oh - meant send my sympathies to Grizzer, gosh, you've had a bad trot haven't you? Surely it can be all peace,quiet and bfp for you now?

Any news jass, I am sure you have tested by now? As you were saying, your last successful pregnancy, you didn't get a bfp til 16dpo, so there is always a possibility of a late implanter, isn't there? Anyway, have you had a pos+ ?

Don't worry, there's no way I'd go for the vegan option, I am a true carnivore. I have a friend who is vegetarian and is having awful trouble with low iron. I do wish she'd eat a steak, but I would never say that too her. I respect her choices, but it is a bummer that she isn't feeling well as a result. Anyway, I am not even sure that the meat would help?

calibee, how are you? What's going on for you?

irish, how is your little darling going?

Diege, I've missed you - can you drop in and just let us know how you are? I know you are super busy. How is your littlest man doing?

My DS has a barking cough, I should probably stay home today, but I have to be off work tomorrow for professional learning, then I'm off on Friday to be helper at DS's school. I suppose in a family of four, almost five (DD is 17) adults, one of us can swing staying home.

Have a nice day everyone

Welcome to the newbies.

Rita, your numbers are very good. I wish I had an AMH like that.Mine is very low. However, having said that, I don't like to put too much store into the numbers. Many women have babies after bad numbers, but in your case, the amh and fsh are excellent. I am sure the one fallopian tube won't stop you getting pregnant, it may take longer, but I have heard that the tube can "swing" over to the other ovary if it is the one ovulating, to catch the egg. Though I am not sure how scientific it is - I just read it somewhere.

zest, 44 is not too old, and there have been successes at your age. I guess it depends how patient you are and how far you are willing to go. Do you have other children? If you do, when was your last pregnancy? If you've not had other children, I would get some fertility tests to see where you are at, as it may be worth getting some help sooner rather than later.

I am in a very different boat - already a mum to 5,still want one last bub to even up the number, but I am 47 and do not have DH on board for any kind of intervention. If I had my way, I'd be doing what Green is doing and going for donor egg. That's not to say I think you should, you may find it easy to get pregnant and stay pregnant. I've now had 4 miscarriages and I'm jolly sick of them, but still going to keep fingers crossed that I have one more healthy egg worth fertilising in there.

Whatever your journey, we are here to cheer you on.

Green, I am SOOOO excited for you!!! I want to hear all about it.

Mumalah, if you are reading, will you please pop in just to appease my curiosity. I've been watching your chart and you've not put anything on there for a week. What's going on woman???

So exciting Green. Excuse my ignorance but does this mean a definite pregnancy? I'm feeling a little research coming on..... 2 good friends have just had baby boys in the last 2 days. I'm so jealous & am sure AF is coming tomorrow. Definitely getting odd twinges but trying to convince myself otherwise. Can't see it happening next month either unless dh makes a very speedy recovery.
Welcome Zest & Rita. I can't help with the stats & medical info but this is the best place for advice & general ranting is always accepted.
I'm tempted to go to bed early in preparation for my very long day of knicker checking tomorrow! If the old witch has to show she'd better be nice & early before I build my hopes up!

Hi ZEST99 and RitaAura and welcome to the thread You will find a lot of
support and knowledge here in our quest for a baby (or another baby) in our
forties. One thing is for sure is that it isn't 'hopeless' - we have had
many of the thread who have had successful pregnancies! It is a sad truth
though that TTC in your forties is not without its challenges and isn't for
the fainthearted but if it is what you want you are in the right place!

I am 44 (as is my DP) with an FSH of 8 and and AMH of 1.3 and have been
trying for our 1st (DP's third). I have conceived twice in the last 12
months but sadly both ended in miscarriage. Tests revealed no other reason
for the miscarriages other than the fact that my eggs are a bit old and
knackered. The risk is that subsuqent pregnancies would also have a high chance
of ending in miscarriage too. So my DP and I are going down the donor egg
route and have just started the IVF cycle. Where there is a will there is
a way....

I wish all the very best of luck in your journey. Rita - your stats sound
good to me - concieving with one tube isn't impossible but might be a
little bit more of challenge in terms of time?

Hello, I am looking for some advice, please. I am almost 43 and TTC with only one working fallopian tube. Is this hopeless? What are my chances of conceiving with only one tube at my age? My AMH is 6.0 and FSH 4.5. Do any of you know of anyone my age who conceived with only one tube?

I wish you all the very best of luck with your longed-for pregnancies and thank you for any opinions or advice you may have

Great to see this thread. Anyone else 44 and ttc? Any great stories that it worked!? Thanks

grizzer you definitely have had your three now - the only way is up! . Sounds very painful - have the anti biotics started to work if they are via IVF?

Happy Mother's Day gum - hope you managed your 1 hour of peace

Hope you are okay jbrd still thinking of you.

Hello to everyone else - lovely to see so many previous thread dwellers

Quick update from me. We decided to accept our donor and it is all systems go. Today is CD1 (sadly didn't get my ironic pre DEIVF BFP...boo!) so I start injecting tonight (I am not looking forward to this...). our donor will start down regging on the 16th and I will keep going until I can be scanned on the 10th June.

I am away from 27th to the 6th june so can't be scanned until the following week. If all okay at that point (ie. my ovaries are "quiet") I will start with oestrogen to build my womb lining and our donor will start stimming. Could be looking at ET around the 19/20th June time if all goes according to plan. It is all happening so quickly but somehow not quickly enough.

Ladies, I have just spent yet another evening in a & e! I kid you not. I have my own named parking space & chair! Dh came back from a 4 day school trip with a slight pain in foot. Yesterday it was a bit swollen & hurt to walk. Today he can't walk at all & it is huge. As we were waiting to see the dr the redness spread up his leg. He has cellulitis from a suspected insect bite. They are keeping him in to give him iv antibiotics. That is surely it for bad luck isn't it? That is our 3 things I hope although I'm fairly sure AF is preparing to show her ugly face in the next couple of days so my misery isn't over yet!!