Fab Forty-Plus! Where are the BFPs...

Actually, *Grizzer, there could be symptoms this early, even if implantation only just happened. A lot of people say it isn't possible, but I know I get symptoms quite early (and I am basing this on the 10 pregnancies I've had). I often get small waves of nausea before a bfp. And it isn't necessarily after implantation. Also, implantation spotting can occur a day or two after implantation.

It is exciting, and I do hope this is it for you.

Sorry for your loss Annie. Glad you've come back though & hope you get your bfp soon.
I'm about 11dpo I think. Went to the loo earlier & there was a spot of blood in my knickers. Nothing since. Have quite a strong feeling in my left groin, kind of an ache. Also had a strong wave of nausea when I had my breakfast this morning. I'm adding all these things together & coming up with a whole load of madness! If by some small miracle that spot was implantation, there's no way there would be any other symptoms yet would there?
Here I go again, setting myself up for the crash! Lots of weird signs this month though. I have hope x

Sorry, that thanks was from the other day! It was sitting in my iPad when I just went in to it again, so sent it then before reading posts..

AnnieHoo really sorry to hear about your mmc. That must have been tough. Glad to hear you are shagging again though!

Linda, I hope your pregnancy is proceeding well now.
It is interesting about the soft cups. I investigated DIY AI as sex was so painful for so long after ds was born (think 13 months....) but happily things are back to normal now I have totally stopped bf. ( though would have loved to conceive whilst bf, sigh). Anyway one DIY method I read about was to use a diaphragm to hold sperm in place. I imagine we will resort to this as I am back at work soo and will be knackered working and looking after ds!
Grizzle, that would be a great story!
And Grinch, there is no hope for any of our brains, I think! Obsession is the name of the game!

Thanks lindamagoo!

Linda, a story at least for the 18th birthday!! I do hope your pregnancy is settling down so you can really enjoy it.
I don't think this is my month - think we missed the window, actually. I managed to acquire a herniated disc which isn't particularly conducive to DTD! Fortunately it was a mild one, so we should be back on track now. Doesn't stop me obsessing slightly through the 2WW though... Only 7 days to go before I would be officially late...
See, there is no hope for my brain!!

Hello again ladies! I joined back in March and my stay was very short-lived as I got a BFP that month. But it resulted in a mmc so I'm back again. I took a month off and now I'm ready to jump on my DH and shag him every other night again!!

Gum here's a little bit more TMI for you! We only actually dtd twice in April the rest of the time oh just, ahem, wanked into the softcup, came up and woke me, I added conceive plus, popped the cup in and went back to sleep, lol. He was working dodgy hours and we have 2 little ones who don't sleep very well so hardly get a chance to shag

Ah, Grizzer, sometimes these bairns have a sixth sense and coupled with your hopes...I am feeling excited for you

Linda, you've inspired me - I am going to get the cough syrup out and start taking it tomorrow (day 5), then I am going to shag my husband every second day...or...pee on some opk's and when it is getting close to positive, start the regular shagging. Just don't know if I can manage the every second day plan with so much going on at work. If my fertile time could be a week later, that might work. I am glad your scan showed all is well, bleeding in early pregnancy is so common.

Nice to hear from you Irish. It is very heartening to hear that us older ladies need contraception.

Calibee, are you out there in virtual land? We haven't heard from you in a while. I hope all is well.Are you having the IUI treatment?

Have a good day everyone.

Oh grizzer I so know that at some point in the future, and probably infront of dc's friends, when I'm full of wine I will merrily tell this story, lol

I have a gp appointment next week so I'll say to him then, hopefully it'll help

Congratulations Linda quite a hilarious conception story for you to pass on when your baby is all grown up (jumping ahead a bit there!) lube, cough medicine & soft cups!! I've never heard of them but will definitely look into it! I hope everything is ok & it's just your body adapting. Glad the scan was positive & everything seems fine x
Jass well done on the half marathon. Running has never been my thing but I must get the motivation to go back to the gym.
Just pick & grinch dd is lucky she has 4 cousins between the ages of 6 and 10 who all mother her so she is not alone but is still desperate for a sibling, well a sister if she's feeling particularly demanding!!
Actually, she sat on the sofa this morning & said 'you're going to have a baby soon.' I know it's just wishful thinking but wouldn't that be a great story to tell. I have to confess I'm getting my hopes up this month & I'm really not sure why....

I hope, Linda, that the bleeding episodes ars over! have you demanded progesterone support? it should stop the bleeding and give you some peace of mind. I would go to GP and insist, honestly.

Thank you jassS if I'm honest it hasn't been any easy couple of weeks since getting my BFP, been bleeding on and off with some pains but had an early scan and baby seems ok, just have to try and relax. I'm convinced because it happened so quick that something will go wrong

Congratulations, Linda, on your pregnancy! i think that is exactly what justpick needed to hear -'we said there are many who briefly join and go missing due to getting their bfp and settling for uneventful pregnancy. The bunch of us longtimers hence give the false impression it is really difficult. It is for us, but not necessarily for others!

irish, neve mind contraception discussion, how is your baby doing? i guess you both were checked up?

7dpo here. bad cold, business trip tomorrow, but thereafter 3 long days of weekend. Bliss! Luxembourg has a habit of giving every religious reason for days off - it is whit Monday next week, so sunshine and freedom for us:-)

The cough bottle just helps to loosen the cervical mucus if you are usually quite dry around ovulation time. Chesty cough bottle with the only active ingredient being Gauifensin I think it's called, lol. I took it twice a day from cd5 until ov

Grizzer and the grinch, I do know what you are saying. The fact that I have to persuade myself of the positives of ds being an only shows how much I would like another. He won't have any cousins so once we are gone he'll have no family. So I would like him to have a sibling.

I have never heard of cough medicine for conception?! What is this strange magic?

Hi everyone!

I've not read back over the whole thread, but am coming back on to say hello to the original cast and welcome to the newbies!
For those who don't know me, I recently had DD3 (DC4) at the age of 46.
We've just been for our 6 week postnatal check at the doctors and the subject of contraception came up. My GP stressed the importance of contraception,she said the oldest natural conception she knew of was at 56 and that conception in your mid to late 40's is a definite possibility! Just thought that might offer some encouragement.

Linda ,congratulations!
Jass well done on the half marathon, wow!
Gum hope you're feeling better soon,glad the problem at work was resolved.
JBrd it must be a very difficult time for you. I wonder if your DH is trying to be positive,put on a brave face and make the most of things to provide support for you in a way.Men and women seem to react to pregnancy loss in different ways. My DH felt our losses very keenly but his way of coping after a while was to put it out of his mind and move on,I think it's harder for the woman to do that.I think he also didn't want to open us up to the possibility of further heartache.
I hope counselling helps and that you get a chance to relax with your family on holiday.Thinking of you x

Sorry not to namecheck more people,good luck to everyone ttc!

Thank you Gumblossom Softcups are used for af, you insert it instead of a tampon, I read people used them to aid conception and thought what the hell I'll give it a go. Are you ready for the TMI part? lol. Instead of putting it in after dtd I got my OH to deposit his little swimmers into it, mixed in a little conceive plus (yes it's a sperm friendly lube) rubbed it all around the inside of the cup and the rim, inserted and left it in all night, you can leave them in for up to 12 hours so it keeps the little swimmers right up where they need to be

Oh Linda that is wonderful news. I knew it was time for some good news. I hope the pregnancy continues to go well.

What are "softcups', I can't say I've ever heard of them. Perhaps I should "google"???

I've done the cough medicine, and the sperm friendly lubricant (is that what "conceiveplus" is?) and a myriad of other things. Unfortunately none of them did the magic. However, perhaps I left it a bit late.

Not sure what I'll do after this AF is done. I'm running out of steam. I can't even seem to manage to remember my vitamins lately...

Thank you for the welcome. I have been fighting major sleep deprivation (think BabyGrinch is teething) so couldn't string two words together coherently before now. There seem to be a few teachers here? I commiserate...
I am impressed with the half marathon too. Wow. And congratulations lindamagoo on your pregnancy.
Grizzer I have the same thoughts about BabyGrinch (henceforth BG). I can give him lots of time and attention (and buy him things!) that he would have to share with another, but he just loves little babies, it's so cute watching him be careful with them, give them gentle hugs. And there is literally no one else in the family for him - at 40 DH is his next youngest relative!! I would like him to have someone else to share a history and a life story with even if the thought of organising four of us panics me completely .

JBrd I am so so sorry for all that you are going through and I'm just as sorry for my totally self indulgent post without taking time to read back, I do apologise

Hi ladies, you probably won't remember me, I joined the bus back in February, haven't really posted much. Anyway I came off the pill in February, started ttc #3 in March, in April I started using cough medicine for my lack of cm, used clearblue digi opk's and thought I'd give softcups and conceive plus a go as I'd read good things about them and TADA!!! It worked, got my BFP on May 3rd, I'm 8 weeks and 2 days now. Just thought I would share my story, especially about the softcups as it had to be them that helped because I was 37 before I ever managed to fall pregnant with ds1, then it took a year with ds2 and only 2 months with dc3 and I'm now 43. Can't praise the softcups and conceive plus enough

Wow! Jass Congratulations on running a half marathon. What an amazing woman!

So where are you in your cycle? Perhaps your body is doing just as you said - 'regulating down". I have to admit that when I am in the tww and if I have hayfever, I always think it's my body doing the wrong thing and trying to reject an emby. Then if I get sick at all I think - that's ok, my body will be too busy fighting the illness to reject a baby...Oh the way our minds work...

Yes - I will hang in there, but it is bloody hard. I can't help being a bit self indulgent at times, thinking, 'If Louis had been born, I'd be a stay at home mum with him...", of course the reality might be less than perfect : struggling to pay the bills, which would cause a lot of marital stress. Anyway, after the next couple of weeks, work won't be quite so frantic, and soon after that, I'll have a 2 week break. Hurray!

As it turns out, my head of department is very, very supportive, told the behaviour management guy that we need to suspend the student, and it happened. It really bugs me that it had to come from HoD instead of me, but the end result is good and I'll go with that.

So, who will have the next BFP on this thread? I think it might be time for another...

I am 5dpo, the dsys are flying by and i have run a half marathon in Luxembourg night run last Saturday. Also participated in team run and handed my first leg over at 32 place out of over 300 teams, so top 10 percent result. then slowed down and finished half marathon just in time to see marathonwinner come in to the finish! But am now fighting a vold and imagining it is my immune system regulating down to accommodate pregpnancy. Thank you very much my obsessed brain:-)

Hope grizzer your twinges are there for the good reason! And Gum, hang on there with all the home/workstruggles! Life has its habits, dammit, to throw us stuff into face....

Thanks Grizzer. I am now on antibiotics, and already feel much better. My dentist thinks the tooth is fine and the problem is my sinus, which I think is probably right as I've had an awful head cold for a couple of weeks now. Hopefully the antibiotics will do the trick.

...And right on cue, AF turned up yesterday...not at all surprised, I knew this wasn't my month. Anyway, it is ok. I am so busy and stressed at work at the moment, that I am probably better off without the distraction of early pregnancy 9but would take it in a heartbeat )

Work is really a bit of a challenge of late - can I have a whinge on here? Apart from the huge marking load from exams last week (thanks to a colleague who decided to take stress leave during that week and got a drs note saying she couldn't do any marking at all, we had to pick up her slack ), we also have to have reports done by Tuesday, and now this week we are giving the year tens their exam, which will have to be marked too! On top of that I have an ongoing problem with a particular student in year 10. He is clearly a misogynist who cannot respect me, and the behaviour management coordinator (who is also a misogynist) will not follow the porcedure with this boy. He keeps telling me how the boy will do what he says, implying the problem behaviour is mine! It means he keeps getting sent back to me, with nothing done and he continues the same behaviours. It's doing my head in. And it is more frustrating that the behaviour management guy isn't doing his job. I am going in to work early today just to sit down with my head of English to see if he can do something about it. ARGH!

And to top all that off my DD and DS are both sick with the same cold I had. Winter has only just started here and I am worried it will be long and full of illness....Silly, I know, I need to get into a more positive head-space.

Anyway, Grizzer, I hope your early twinges mean something Those early twinges can be a sign.