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Getting pregnant tips and tricks please and a question for you.

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newbieman1978 · 05/02/2014 14:56

Hi guys,

New on here and after some advice.

Bit of out back story;
My wife and I came together in our mid 30's and have now been married 3 years. It was important to us to be settled and married before trying to start a family. Obviously during this time we were getting older!
18 months ago we started trying and got pregnant quickly although sadly we miscarried. It was a very difficult time and we decided to not try again as my wife just couldn't face the thought of another miscarriage.

Fast forward to this last Christmas and we have decided to have another try. So my wife and I are making a concerted effort to get pregnant within the next 12 months. If it doesn't happen before my wife hits 43 then we will stop trying and I will have the snip.

What I'm after is any tips and tricks on conception and the answer to one question I have.

After sex my wife always (I mean always) pops off to the toilet to do whatever it is you ladies do. Have a clean up ect. She always sits on the loo and has a wee.
Now I know wee comes from a different place to where my seed has gone but I'm sure the act of sitting there, garvity ect can't be the best for trying to keep the said seed inside.
I've talked to my wife about it and she doesn't think it makes any difference. Part of me agrees and as we got pregnant before so it is obviously not prohibitive. However I've suggested that as we really want to get pregnant asap it might be better to lie there on the bed for a while and give my seed the best chance.
She however doesn't agree and likes her routine.
Any thought?

Thanks.

OP posts:
AttilaTheMeerkat · 05/02/2014 15:24

It is not necessary to lie down on the bed post intercourse, that's another myth that has been and continues to be banded about. Enough sperm will get to the cervix from where it will not escape so what your wife is doing post sex is fine. She does not have to change any part of her routine.

I would also suggest having a chat with the GP now as well given that you have as a couple been ttc for a while now.

JuniperJones · 05/02/2014 15:17

hi newbieman - re protocols, it depends which thread you're on, tbh!

I guess firstly try to ensure you're both as healthy as possible while you're trying - eat well, exercise, cut out/down on the cigs/booze/things that aren't legal, get enough sleep.

Have sex regularly - you may want to look up the "Sperm meets egg plan" - this is a free e-book and there's also a website where you can read about it.

You might also want to consider going to the GP and seeing if they'll do any tests so you know what you're working with.

I guess it all depends how "all out" you want to go with it at this stage.

Mrsmorrison13 · 05/02/2014 15:16

Don't worry op you will get used to this I used to take offence at first but they mean no harm

Original poster
newbieman1978 · 05/02/2014 15:12

Sorry I know it's sperm. I'm new and not aware of the protocols. Are only the anatomical and scientific terms allowed?

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GingerRodgers · 05/02/2014 15:02

First of all it's sperm. Unless you're trying for a sunflower?

Yes, it will help if she lays on the bed for a while. It's advised to wee after sex To clear bacteria from the urethra but laying down for ten minutes will help the sperm on their way.

Good luck.