The hot new TTC after MC thread - all welcome, bring a fish and all the posifrickentivity you can muster! Prepare to overshare.

Good luck POAS people - not me for a couple of weeks! We're struggling to DTD at the minute as DH has been on a 6pm-2am shift just as I hit my fertile period! Oh well, can only do what we can!

Good luck to those POAS tomorrow. Hoping for continued run of last week.....

Normally, I totally would with you but actually not sure I could cope with seeing either bfp (for fear) and bfn (depressing) at the mo. Not sure sure what's happened but literally so scared of both scenarios so I can't win! Perhaps I need a glass of wine...whilst giggling about toad in the hole and banging brains out

fedup I was going to say I would poas. But I think you're making the right choice for you at this time. Well done! I wish I had kind of resolve. Like Handsfull, too.

Wing your post is lovely and very inspirational. We all get so wrapped up in this ttc journey that we forget all the other happy and wonderful things in our lives.

Last week I slept badly cos I was so excited to poas. I will poas tomorrow but I'm not excited this time!

Yep am def going to wait, thanks girls. I don't actually want to know even with the minute chance I am pregnant, if I am pregnant - if that makes sense. Plus no sticks in the house!

I haven't got any drinking fests coming up so can wait it out til bitch rocks up. Normally I would hate waiting for her but at the mo I feel scared of bfns and bfps so staying away from sticks. If I ever get a bfp again am petrified of blood if it appears as I've only had it in pregnancy when it's been bad news. So for the first time in 15 months of ttc am going to wait til af!

Hey triple - I had a HyCoSy last June, it was no biggie at all. Bit of discomfort when they push the dye through and some mild cramping after but nothing a paracetamol and a hot water bottle and a massive bar of dairy milk couldn't sort.
Found it really interesting to see (at the time, now I am sick of seeing scans of my barren womb ) and the consultant was very friendly and happy to explain exactly what he was seeing.

I'd been ttc for 15 months by that point, they say you're more fertile after and I got my BFP 3 cycles later. Hmm, maybe I should try to go for another one!

tripple, do you mean hysteroscopy? I've had two under general and they are no more uncomfortable than an ERPC. They tend, if they are in there looking for 'issues', to go in ready to 'do any work that needs doing' as it was put to me when I had my septum removed. Good luck with it, anyway.

fedup I would test, and its a Friday!! If its a bfn you know it may be cuz it was too early.

wingso true, definitely worth appreciating what we have in life and take for granted.

sundance don't worry. I am sure you have managed to have enough goes at it. Might be worth DDT tonight if on,y for your peace of mind.

Has anyone had a hycosy done before? Mine is booked for next week, but I have just learnt that it s really painful. Is that true? I am getting nervous.

Good luck to poasers tomorrow. handsful can't blv you have not tested as yet!

Yes to TITH!

sal show him this and he'll soon realise it's very normal Fart Facts For Sal

MrP is ill as only a man can be; lots of whinging and self-pity. After I chastised him for missing day #1 of shag week, he assured me he'd 'bang my brains out' tomorrow night. What a charmer! No wonder I fell for him with smooth lines like that.

Making the most of an extra night off with some nice red wine, my book and an early night

Oh, and I am 36 (nearly 37, eek!).

Bloody hell, I don't log on for a couple of days and there are bazillions of posts to catch up on!

Add me to the list please: champagnegoldfinch TTC#3 since Jan13; MMC at 11+4 Apr13. Trying again since Jul13, CD3 cycle 8.

wing sorry to hear about your Grandad. That letter sounds lovely and posifricitive.

To whoever asked about temping, sorry I can't remember who it was - a temperature drop a couple of days post-ovulation is pretty standard. It's called a fallback rise, I think.

I have let my VIP membership on Fertility Friend lapse this week, otherwise known as Desperate TTCers Taken For A Ride So I can no longer obsess over my charts. Definitely for the best.

Sorry for the early arrivals of The Red Tide of Doom. And keeping my fingers crossed for Tanny and Handsful

Sal chortle! Who said chivalry is dead?

wing thank you for the lovely post, you have given us all a little lift. I am already blessed in so many ways, but sadness can cloud that if you let it.

I am officially rechristening dtd toad in the hole, "tidh"? Much jollier. I am also very fond of energetic sleeping. Less so these days, snuggly jamas and a good book are much more appealing somehow.

I may or may not test tomorrow. About 5 days late maybe. 20 dpo. I can't decide. fedup in your shoes I'd wait. Be kind to yourself.

Toad in the Hole. Fnar. New thread title addition at some point?

Ramping up here to start shag week in the next couple of days, romance took a nose dive last night after DH asked me if it was normal for a girl to fart so much. Oh.

I replied with a trump and a sideways glance. Classy.

wing What you write is lovely and is a big dose of posifrickentivity for us all And something for me to really reflect on. Thank you.

fedup I'll be 11dpo and will test in the morning. It's the birthday of a close friend tomorrow and I shall be having a cocktail or two when if I get the bfn. It's such a personal decision. But I feel better knowing AF is going to show rather than her turning up without warning iyswim?

wing wow, that's really lovely and very inspirational. My gran is not here any more but now I feel like writing her a letter to see if I can engender the same positive feelings, esp. as the start of shag week has already been postponed due to Mr P going home early from work with a dodgy tum. No toad in the hole for me!

fedup I think you should wait. It's still pretty early. You can break the Friday rule and POAS mid-week next week instead? I won't fishslap you!!

Fedup - I like to think I'd wait. In reality I think I'd want to wait until AF is 2 weeks late, as that would take me past the point of the mc. But I know that would never happen!

Wing - that's a really lovely and positive post. And one I think I will try to remember on days when I'm feeling down. Which recently have been few and far between. I'm glad you found writing the letter healing.
I've started writing a diary to put down all my feelings. Just so when I do get my sticky BFP it'll remind me of how far I've come and how much I've wanted it.

fedup I think I would leave it, but it's such a personal thing. It might give you a BFP, but how will you feel if you get a BFN? Is AF a better way for you to find out? I find AF to be easier to cope with than a BFN because if I POAS I have let myself believe that I am upduffed.

Thanks for all the thoughst ladies. I didn't have a good wail last night, instead I took my new horse and threw her over the highest jumps I dared to (I think we beat our personal best) which is a wonderful way of blowing cobwebs away. We were both knackered when we'd finished but I think it did me the world of good. I sat down and wrote the letter when I got home. It was actually a really healing thing to do as I wanted it to be a fairly cheerful 'this is where my life is at and this is how I remember you best' letter. It really made me think about what I do have. A wonderful husband who will do anything for me, a lovely house, a job that I love and find endlessly interesting, a horse who gives me a huge amount of joy and freedom, and two ferrets who never fail to make me laugh even when I'm feeling my bleakest. A child would be the icing on the cake, but writing that letter made me realise that I don't need it to be happy, I already am, and that is a very important realisation to come to. I think I can now move on with a much more positive outlook and hopefully with less desperation.

sundance 10lbs in a month is impressive!

Some of those exercise regimes are making me feel tired just reading them. I'm going to stick to making the horse do all the work!

Would you POAS tomorrow if you were me? Guessing 10 or 11 dpo tomorrow. I'm thinking of holding out til next week to be honest as don't feel at all preggers and wil just see if witch features turns up.

So inspired by all this talk of exercise, I dragged my arse to the gym and bashed out 4miles! Boom!!

Interesting to see all your experience of cbfm. I've just got one off ebay for next cycle if (whispers) i don't get a bfp! I know my cycle... I dont get highs in general til at least cd12 so dont really want to waste the expensive sticks using it before at least cd10.

I use a cbfm. My cycle was 31 days so I don't start until day 5 to save sticks!! I only had a 26 day cycle last month and it's looking tge same for this month, so.I only had one day of high and then my Peak.

I tend to go by the sticks themselves also though, I know by looking at them when my last high day/peak days will be.

Thanks otters, I'm sure I can muster the strength for another bash tonight! Haha, was just resigned to the fact I had messed up my shagathon!

I'm defo going to try the running app, I was a keen runner years ago and then piled on a load of weight and gave up...I've managed to lose 10llbs this month (most of it post Xmas junk), and if I can't be preggers, I want to look healthy.

A massive, and I mean HUGE roll of bubble wrap has just been delivered...I'm off to have a squeeze

Parsley I have been using the CBFM, and yes, I get quite a few 'High' days (about 4-5), before the Peak. Although I've also had occasions where it jumped from 'Low' directly to 'Peak', which always freaks me out because it feels as if I have to jump DH immediately

I can also really recommend the Couch to 5K programme for anyone who is thinking of starting up running. I did it last year, and it really works. I am not a runner and never will be, but I can now comfortably jog for about 30min without dropping dead.
However, I've been down with various colds, infections etc since Christmas now, so my current running schedule is looking very sparse. Still going to the gym to do Bodypump a couple of times a week.

handsful If you don't test tomorrow, you will get a fish slap regardless!

Parsley I've never used one, I just use the Clearblue digital ov sticks and hundreds of cheaper internet ones too Does it just give you one peak day?

I need fishslapped. I'm bored at work today so I've just peed on a cheapy OPK (I have a stash in my desk) and it's the whitest stick I've ever seen. I actually got a positive opk before a positive hpt the month I got my BFP. So obvs I'm thinking I'm out now. I'm an idiot.

fuck a duck you lot have been chatty today! At this rate we're going to be on a new thread every week!!

sal i did a tres dignified snort at my desk at the idea of DH cracking one out in prison. Unfortunately I was eating a grape at the time, which i had to retrieve from my keyboard. ew!

otters, deus there's got to be some good vibes left from last week's bumper BFP bonanza, keeping everything crossed for you! and handsfull that is some serious restraint. Sounds promising so far...

sundance I reckon you're OK but if you can muster a quickie (assuming you're feeling better) then why not?

CBFM came out as 'high' today, so back on it like a car bonnet tonight. After hearing Chris Evans banging on about Toad in the Hole all week, Mr P asked if we could have that one evening next week. "How about tonight?" quipped I. Ha! I'm such a comedian

Have any of you lot ever used a CBFM? I used to find I got a LOT of 'high' days, like maybe 5 or 6 before 'peak' shows up. Never sure if that's normal or not or whether it's indicating that I have screwy hormones??