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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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The hot new TTC after MC thread - all welcome, bring a fish and all the posifrickentivity you can muster! Prepare to overshare.

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Seasides · 28/01/2014 17:52

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

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Triplespin · 10/02/2014 17:47

sebs well done in getting through it. As you say you can now start again and who knows you may be the lucky few to get upduffed soon after. How many cycles did it taje for you to get pg before?

sundance you must be in agony. Have you been temping? That could give some sort of indication? Which sticks are you using? Maybe try with a diff brand? Is it possible you may have ovulated later? Two cycles ago, I ovulated one week late.

DoctorDonnaNoble · 10/02/2014 17:06

With you on the knicker checking. I'm determined to hold out until at least Friday for POAS though. Not going to waste more money than I need to on stupid sticks!

Sundance2007 · 10/02/2014 16:58

14 days po today, but I've had af arrive on 8's and 9's since mc in oct, my cycle is 30 days as of today when it's 23 or 24 on average. Just want af to arrive so i can get this over with.

I can't exactly panic as on paper the dates and numbers are probably normal, and it doesn't help that I've been cramping for about 4 days. Talk about knicker checking too, I'm in the toilet every half an hour.

HollyBen · 10/02/2014 15:42

Glad it wasn't too bad sebs fx you are one of these mythical super fertile after mcers and get a sticky bfp soon.

I feel your frustration sundance. How mant dpo are you? The doc could do a blood test. Not sure how late af needs to be before they will though. Really hoping for good news for you. It has been a little while since we have gad a bfp

EnglishGirlAbroad · 10/02/2014 14:01

Glad it went as well as can be expected Sebs, enjoy some wine tonight and good luck with your ttc journey!

Sundance2007 · 10/02/2014 12:37

Well done on getting through it sebs, never nice. Have some Wine and Cake, you've earned it!

sebsmummy1 · 10/02/2014 11:26

I'm back at home. It was fine, I didn't cry!! Lady was so lovely and funny. She said the miscarriage was complete and I should get back TTC again. She said forget the pregnancy tests. Long as I have stopped bleeding just to carry on. If I don't get any bleeding by 6 weeks to do a pregnancy test, if i do get bleeding before then that's my period.

I did ask why I never got cramping or big tissue loss and she said everyone is different. Back in the day I wouldn't have even known I was pregnant and just thought it was a weird period. Not sure how true that is really as in hindsight the ton of mucus really isn't normal but anyhow, it's all over and psychologically I feel pretty robust.

So now I've just got to get pregnant again. And that's easy yes?

Penguin13 · 10/02/2014 11:11

Thinking of you today Sebs. I hope it all goes ok. There's nothing wrong with a good cry.

Sundance2007 · 10/02/2014 10:42

Thanks seasides, I presumed it might be a constant pain if it were ectopic and it isn't - just the occasional dull ache like af pains. My luteal phase is clearly still just messed up so going to wait a few more days and see what happens

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Seasides · 10/02/2014 10:31

sundance i got a BFFP with my ectopic, immediate dark line - obviously everyone's different, but I'm pretty certain you'd get one if it were. Also, my pain was straight down the middle (though aware that's not always the case) and very severe from the very start. It began feeling like bad wind, but quickly became unbearable - within 20 mins. You would not be able to ignore it. Also I spotted from the start - knew things weren't right with the pg immediately. Had one very big bleed before AF was due, then constant spotting.

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sebsmummy1 · 10/02/2014 10:22

Wish we could add sigs on here as I'm playing catch up on where everyone is post mc as I've only just joined the thread. Don't want to keep asking the same questions of people.

I know cycles can take a time to normalise which is tucking annoying as I'd just got mine sorted after breast feeding for a year and now I feel I'm going to be taking a massive step back again.

I always planned to do SMEP but my OH always managed to be out of he country on key days. In the end we just shagged a lot in the fertile window and I used soft cups and eventually one decrepit sperm met one less than sprightly egg.

Sundance2007 · 10/02/2014 09:58

Yep, 5 days late and bfn. Help!

HollyBen · 10/02/2014 09:42

Thinking of you sebs

sundance was today test bfn then? There is still hope. Don't worry about having had a drink.

I can't get into the groove this month. Was determined to do smep, but couldn't muster any enthusiasm. I also keen forgetting to take my pregnacare and do opks. Maybe this is part of the just relax and it'll happen we hear so much about Wink

Sundance2007 · 10/02/2014 09:34

Hope all goes as well as can be expected sebs, it's the end of a shitty chapter but hope you have someone that can give you plenty of hugs later. Thinking of you.

So, naturally I'm now paranoid that this could be an ectopic pg, pain on one side, negative tests etc. Has anyone had an ectopic that can give me better info that Dr google? Had a big cry this morning, cleverly masked by the sound of the hair dryer.

Sal1977 · 10/02/2014 09:31

Oops, got my smear date a whole year out so it's not due until next Feb/March!!
At least I won't be taking on water when I go swimming today!!

Clearly my fanjo is having withdrawal symptoms as it hasn't been prodded, probed, scanned, vacuumed or fiddled around with by medical staff for over 4 weeks!!

EnglishGirlAbroad · 10/02/2014 09:17

I'll be thinking of you today Sebs, allow yourself a good cry and a massive bar of chocolate!
Just and Donna, hope the week passes quickly and delivers some good news at the end of it.

TeaRex · 10/02/2014 09:09

Good luck for today sebs x

Baxter2014 · 10/02/2014 08:42

Oh sebs Its so rubbish isnt it? I hope it goes quickly without any issues. Cry away, I'll be thinking of you today.

AF definitely over for me now. Its my 2nd AF post MC - thats why I am so frustrated. I just wish every cycle could go back to being the same so I felt I was starting again with a clean slate. At the moment it feels like an uphill struggle. Still, must stay positive!

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Seasides · 10/02/2014 08:29

Hope you get through today ok sebs. Ain't nothing wrong with a good cry Thanks

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Parsley2506 · 10/02/2014 08:09

Thinking of you sebs, be kind to yourself today.
donna and just distraction sounds like a good plan.

Just starting 2ww here and already symptom spotting like a complete idiot. Luckily I start jury service today so that should keep me distracted!

DoctorDonnaNoble · 10/02/2014 07:58

Hope it goes as well as it can.

sebsmummy1 · 10/02/2014 07:55

So have scan this morning to see if miscarriage is complete.

Am going on my own and suspect I will cry. Least if there is nothing left in there (the bleeding has stopped) I can close this chapter and try again.

Sundance2007 · 10/02/2014 07:38

Sorry for the delay missp, busy weekend.
Still no af, but I've been getting loads of cramps in what feels like my left ovary area. I've just taken another test this morning as today makes it a 30 day cycle and normally I'm on about 23/24 so I really have no idea what is going on!

Worried as I had a few drinks on sat after getting negative pg test on Friday, also pissed off that if af is late, it's now likely to ruin my valentines plans!!!

Penguin13 · 10/02/2014 07:32

Hope you make it to the POAS party Donna and Just. Try to keep busy this week.

Penguin13 · 10/02/2014 07:29

That's rubbish Baxter but don't lose hope. Seasides is right, your body has been through a lot and needs time to recover.

Feel like I'm on a rather disappointing ovulation stake-out. Day 15....still no sign of the suspect. Someone go and get some doughnuts.....Maybe it sneaked past while we were having TITH?