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Old birds wanna join the coop???

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Gingerbreadlady1 · 26/01/2014 12:23

Allo ladies! Wondering if there are any other over 35's (apparently the age of fertility suicide, who knew?) ttc for over a year wanting to chat? If so, pour yourself some virtual wine and let the chatting commence!

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maybefaraway · 10/03/2014 11:16

Thanks tranquility - have to much work to do unfortunately! DCs both in school, so paperwork time! Joys. Feels like an eternity ago I had my babies - ttc #3 a few years ago and gave up after six months, so feels quite hopeless trying again. Am not very good at ttc and staying positive, almost easier to convince myself I dont want more dcs - but I really really really do!!!!

Katnisscupcake · 10/03/2014 11:05

Oooh Mampam, I'm in South Devon aswell!!! Near Torquay, where are you?

As for your symptoms question, I thought I got symptoms but since TTC Number 2 I've had exactly the same symptoms every month and not been PG!! So no, the symptoms, I find, are pretty much the same whether AF or PG...

mampam · 10/03/2014 11:04

Sorry for typo's, I'm not with it this morn.

mampam · 10/03/2014 11:00

Paula your wedding sounds like it's going to be wonderful and your wedding dress sounds very sophisticated and beautiful. It's so lovely that you have found your Mr right, I did too and couldn't be happier. I was young and foolish when I got married the first time and the second time around is great. DH and I have nearly been married now for 7 years.

Ginger I've training to work with children for the last 18 months and am currently a student on a work placement, this job, if I get it, would be my first paid employment in this sector. Eeek. I'm really struggling with the section that says why do I want the job and list any hobbies or volunteering? Hobbies! I've got 3 DC I have no time for a hobby Wink I'll work it out I'm sure.

We live at opposite ends of the uk, I live almost at the most southerly point of Devon! So not as cold as Scotland perhaps?

Katniss no other symptoms, still getting belly ache, nipples quite sensitive but that could be a sign of AF and I feel like poop but that isn't really a sign of anything. Think AF due tomorrow or Weds.

Don't give up hope Katniss you never know. Do you gdt any specific symptoms when first pg? I only really had symptoms with dc3.

Tranquilitybaby · 10/03/2014 10:59

maybefaraway sorry to hear you're having a tough time at the moment, but it's totally understandable.

If you've conceived quickly twice before, hopefully it won't take too much longer this time round.

Try and get out for a bit of fresh air today and it might perk you up a bit. Hugs x

maybefaraway · 10/03/2014 10:53

Hi everyone, have been lurking for a while now - well, since December. Aged 36 (yesterday - so still 35 really?!?!) ttc #3, cycle 4 - but having 40 day cycles so feels like much longer. Was diagnosed PCOS aged 18, and underactive thyroid post dc1, so am worried as I got pregnant first time with dcs1&2. I take 150mcg levythyroxine. Overemotional and tired anyway, so heartbreaking everytime AF arrives and madly symptom spotting given that she takes sooo long to show up! Had really thought I'd get a bfp yest, and then got AF this morning instead. Also finding it impossible to predict ovulation or even work out when I'm ovulating. Sorry - having a bad day!!!!

Tranquilitybaby · 10/03/2014 10:50

Ah brilliant thank you katnisscupcake

Keeping everything crossed for you. Keep positive and hope you get good news soon! Xxx

Katnisscupcake · 10/03/2014 10:25

Tranquility, if you put asterisks around the name, it will put it in bold Smile.

You could be right, but unfortunately I had implantation bleeding with two of my 3 pgs and both of them ended in MC Sad, so I don't have a very good track record with implantation bleeding... Who knows, it could be different this time though, if it does end up as a BFP...

It's lovely being part of a group, nice to be able to chat to people going through the same thing as you. Smile

Tranquilitybaby · 10/03/2014 09:12

How do I get the names to highlight? I'm on my phone if that makes a difference? X

Tranquilitybaby · 10/03/2014 09:11

Katnisscupcake, I had that with my last pregnabxy so don't rule it out yet!! :) good luck

Could well be implantation bleeding x

Tranquilitybaby · 10/03/2014 09:10

Hello again, sorry here's a little info about me.

I'm 36 have two children, 11 & 9 and after years of do we don't we, we've decided to go for no. 3. I suffer from health anxiety which I didn't so much with our other two so this is going to be a test for me that's for sure!

We want to just be relaxed about TTC at the moment so I'm not planning on using opk etc at the moment. I think I ovulate around cd10-11 most months though as have twinges and lots of EWCM.

Good luck to everyone else, it's nice to be part of a community. :)

Katnisscupcake · 10/03/2014 08:47

Morning all,

Well, I think I'm out this month even though it's only 9DPO. Had first (sorry about TMI) coloured CM yesterday which for me always indicates the start of AF, even though it may still be a few days away. Plus woke up with a horrid hot flush last night which is another sure sign for me.

Just hope that my cycle returns to normal next month because I used to have terrible LP which meant that I would start spotting as early as 7 or 8DPO, thus not giving any egg time to implant. Even progesterone pessaries didn't sort it out, but since the lap and dye that seemed to have improved. So I hope it's not reverting back otherwise there's no chance Sad.

Mampam, any signs hun? Where are you at in your cycle now?

Hi Tranquility!! Lovely name!! x

Gingerbreadlady1 · 09/03/2014 23:40

Count down to, not too, bloody iPhones ....

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Gingerbreadlady1 · 09/03/2014 20:26

Oooo, sounds lovely! You can post pictures on your profile but not sure how. So nice to have something exciting to count down too, we're renovating an old house so every penny goes to that ('& possible ivf fund), so no holidays for us this year. Missing having that something nice to count down too.

mampam don't envy you, hate filling in applications. Is it a move, change of direction, ft/pt. fx for you. Can imagine armeggedon over broadband lol! I'm in Scotland, sounds like weather down south in much nicer.

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PaulaFletch14 · 09/03/2014 19:46

That should say straps off the shoulder

PaulaFletch14 · 09/03/2014 19:44

Manpam and ginger bread I'm getting married on bank holiday Monday 25 august (2 days before my 40th birthday) to my gorgeous welsh bloke Steve. Getting married in Llandudno register office a grade 2 listed building and theme a meal in a hotel. Very intimate only about 20 people. My dress is ivory and States off the shoulder abit of bling but not much. Wish I could post a pic. Our second time, more excited this time as I'm so in love and I've finally found my mr right.

Gingerbreadlady1 · 09/03/2014 19:30

Hi tranquility, welcome to our little thread. Tell us a little bit about yourself, we're all 34+, ttc #1 to #4 and are a friendly lot.

fankle, the piece that earhat recommended has made me feel alot more positive. Please read it if your down. Also statistically we must be near our bfp! That's what I'm telling myself anyway Smile

paula sounds like you've had a lovely day. When you getting married, details please!

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mampam · 09/03/2014 19:30

I'm still here too!

Ginger fx it will be your turn soon

Welcome Tranquility how old are your dc?

Paula when are you getting married? Very exciting, what is your dress like?

DH started world war 3 in this house today by switching the broadband off and making teenage dd go outside for some sun and fresh air Grin as you can imagine it went down like a lead balloon! Apart from that, had a lovely day spent in the garden. Back to normality tomorrow and I'm still filling in the blimmin application form for a new job....... find it so hard trying to sell myself.

PaulaFletch14 · 09/03/2014 18:18

Hi gingerbread

This old bird still here. Had a busy weekend been wedding dress shopping in Liverpool and found the most beautiful perfect dress. Took my mind off miscarriage and TTC.

Tranquilitybaby · 09/03/2014 16:45

Joining! I'm 36 and about to start TTC no. 3!

Fankletastic · 09/03/2014 16:41

Hello all
Glad to hear of the bfp wuthering. Congrats. How long have you been ttc? Let's hope that this is the start of a trend but I personally don't have a track record that inspires particular hope. Statically, I wonder if my chances are actually getting lower each month.

But enough of that negativity! Have been having a delightful busy weekend so not had chance to keep up to date. How lovely is this spring sunshine?! Makes me feel rather cheery Smile

Am trying to get my head in a more sane more chilled out place this cycle. We shall see how that goes....

Gingerbreadlady1 · 09/03/2014 11:21

katniss you're life sounds lovely, very darling buds of may!

mampam friends baby is a wee stunner but pathetically made me quite sad. Soooo want it to be my turn Sad

Where have all the other old birds got to? You alive ladies?

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mampam · 08/03/2014 20:41

Ooooh Katniss I hope you are right Grin. Probably should'nt be sat here with a HUGEglass of red wine in my hand then!

Hope your dd has a fab riding lesson tomorrow and enjoy your sisters pub! And the sunshine x

Katnisscupcake · 08/03/2014 20:10

Evening all!!

We've had a busy day! Dd and I went to a 2nd birthday party this morning and then met up with a load of her friends from school and their mums this afternoon at a local pub with a big outside play area. We all sat outside and enjoyed the sunshine - it was lovely!!

Tomorrow dd has another horse-riding lesson followed by lunch at my sister's pub. Dd is really excited because her childminder and her daughter are coming to watch her and come to lunch with us.

No real ttc news. I think I'm only 7dpo so wouldn't expect anything yet.

Mampam, I've got a funny feeling that might be your month... fingers crossed!!

mampam · 08/03/2014 19:36

Hi Gingerbread camel toe never a good look! [Grin] Sorry to have made you hungry with my list of naughties.....haha. Have just had a feta and olive salad for my dinner so getting back on track.

I think my AF is due on Tues/Wed but as it has been irregular since November I'm not really sure. Have bought 30 cheapy tests from ebay, POAS this morn but bfn will test again on Wed unless AF shows up beforehand.

How did it go meeting your friends baby? We've not done anything exciting so far this weekend just enjoyed the sunshine in the garden Smile