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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Old birds wanna join the coop???

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Gingerbreadlady1 · 26/01/2014 12:23

Allo ladies! Wondering if there are any other over 35's (apparently the age of fertility suicide, who knew?) ttc for over a year wanting to chat? If so, pour yourself some virtual wine and let the chatting commence!

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Tranquilitybaby · 21/04/2014 19:35

Brown or red spotting ginger? X

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Gingerbreadlady1 · 21/04/2014 18:55

Arghhhhh! Blood spotting started, AF due wed, was gonna test thurs if no show but....nope.... Spotting 2 days before, right on cue. Ffs!

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Tranquilitybaby · 21/04/2014 17:39

Oh and thanks for asking about my dad. His back hadn't degenerated anymore thankfully but they're still recommending a major op which he doesn't want to have.

My mum however was back at the hospital yesterday with blood in her urine. Home now though thankfully xx

Tranquilitybaby · 21/04/2014 17:38

Hi girlies hope you've had a good Easter break.

I've eaten far too much over the Easter holidays but back to strict diet from Weds (out for a friends birthday tomorrow.

On Cycle day 8 and no AF is done, we're back on it from tonight. Think i'm lucky as have a DH with a high sex drive so he'd be happy to do it every day!! So not sure whether to go for it or stick to every other day for a while. X

This is going to be our month girls, we can do this!! X

spinningirl10 · 21/04/2014 15:51

Inshock...I've tried not telling dp before but that doesn't work either! He likes to be the one initiate any fun and if I make the first move he knows its that time Grin

No Easter eggs for me.....I try and avoid chocolate unless its Lindt 90% but dp came home yesterday with a huge box of Thorntons choccies for me! I wasn't going to open them but I did and now there's only half a box left!! They were yummy though Grin

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Gingerbreadlady1 · 21/04/2014 11:58

inshock sounds like relaxing your regime has most def been the right move. Life has got to go on & most importantly be enjoyed otherwise we will all go mental (or more mental in my case!).

Think we may have had 4 as purple also got a bfp but very sadly had m/c. purple if you're lurking, how you doing girl? tawdry was gonna confirm with a digi but didn't come back, so think it's been 4. Which is 1 a month, not too shabby for the old birds!

I do feel sorry for the menfolk in this, if I had to orgasm on demand when we Dtd we'd never get preg! I worry the toll it's taking on our sex life. I used to have a very high sex drive but now we pretty much only DTdwhen ttc, not healthy....

So who of us has ate the most Easter eggs, I'm impressed with your 3, we've booked a hol for 24th may so I've only had 1.

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Inshock73 · 20/04/2014 18:34

Spinning and Ginger it's so good to hear you share your frustrations with the men folk, I thought it was just my one that gets freaked out under pressure! Performing wasn't a problem, but then as each month came and went and still no bfp OH wanted to know when we 'needed' to do it so I started telling him and it was the best contraception I could've wished for! Or as my friend put it "You'll never get pregnant if he leaves the church before the choir sings!" so I'm back to not telling him again.

Inshock73 · 20/04/2014 18:25

Hi everyone! Sending you all a wave :)

Hope everyone is having a good Easter. I've eaten 3 easter eggs in 3 days...I'm not proud I'm just confessing :)

I'm still not symptom spotting Ginger although I will be amazed if it's my month as I've gone back to coffee this month, had several alcoholic drinks and way too much chocolate..... it's been liberating! I don't feel half as stressed about it but I think it's because I don't feel like it's another month I've put my life on hold whilst waiting for a bfp. I only drink 3/4 coffees and a couple of units a week but I gave everything up.

Ginger do we now have 3 bfp's on this thread??

Kerry1708 · 20/04/2014 17:26

Happy Easter ladies!

I'm 5dpo today counting the days :)

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Gingerbreadlady1 · 20/04/2014 12:37

I've been looking over the thread. So many lovely ladies joined us then disappeared! If you're lurking please say hi. Bfp's have been wuthering mampam & poss tawdry.

tranquility have you had your dads scan results yet?

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Tranquilitybaby · 20/04/2014 11:32

Good luck spinning x

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Gingerbreadlady1 · 20/04/2014 11:19

Good morning & happy Easter everyone!

Thanks tranquility Smile, you too!

Excellent spinning I love being able to relax post shag-a-thon.

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spinningirl10 · 20/04/2014 08:36

Morning ladies, hope you're all tucking into Easter Eggs todayGrin

We managed to dtd last night and now the 2ww begins and we can relax.....and try not to look for symptomsGrin

Tranquilitybaby · 19/04/2014 23:38

I really hope it happens for you very soon xxxx

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Gingerbreadlady1 · 19/04/2014 21:56

(Mind you if it is genetically mine, it may not be waiting so patiently Easter Wink )...

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Gingerbreadlady1 · 19/04/2014 21:54

It's became a bit of a mantra for me & really does help when I get a bfn. We will do it ladies, it's just a matter of when! Xx

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Tranquilitybaby · 19/04/2014 21:34

Aww that's lovely gingerbread - very positive attitude xx

spinningirl10 · 19/04/2014 17:42

Ahh that's a really nice thought, I'll remember that Grin

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Gingerbreadlady1 · 19/04/2014 16:56

I know what you mean. I do think its a game of chance though & all we can do is improve our odds! There's so many people ttc with unexplained infertility & so many folk who beat crazy odds & get their miracle baby. I do think its just luck. Someone else said the following & I think of it all the time for comfort: there's a big conveyer belt somewhere & my future child (even if its not genetically mine) is on it. It may be near the front & about to come to us, or patiently waiting nearer the back, but sooner or later it will be with us!

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spinningirl10 · 19/04/2014 16:48

Also I'm very aware of my age and each month that af turns up I'm a little bit older!!

spinningirl10 · 19/04/2014 16:47

I agree Ginger. I try not to show my disappointment as I know it just makes it harder. And I know how much he wants a baby, every month he says, we'll nail it next month and every month we struggle! Still it only takes one little swimmer, or so they say Grin

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Gingerbreadlady1 · 19/04/2014 15:54

We never got to dtd on ov day either this month [spinning], it is sooo frustrating. But then of course you can't show your frustration as that puts them under more pressure! You wait all month for those key days as well. It's so hard. I have no idea how to make it easier. Fx you can get to it later although my fc said sex before ov is best as gives a chance for the swimmers to be in the right place so you still have a good chance.

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spinningirl10 · 19/04/2014 15:25

I got my positive opk yesterday but dp couldn't manage to dtd Hmm he always feels under pressure and then I feel crap that he can't finish and think its my fault!! We dtd on thurs night and will try again later. It's just so frustrating!!

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Gingerbreadlady1 · 19/04/2014 12:29

How's everyone doing?

[inshock] how you bearing up in 2ww?

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spinningirl10 · 18/04/2014 09:29

Tranquil, that sounds like a good planGrin