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New Year, New Hope. Jan Bus (part3)

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EnglishGirlAbroad · 15/01/2014 10:46

Hop on board thread 3 of the Jan bus! Wishing you all lots of luck for a bfp filled new year!!

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barmybunting · 20/01/2014 14:48

Sazzle, I know exactly what you mean. An image of a bunch of woman dancing in circles around a Pstick just entered my head! Desperate to test but dreading that BFN is such a pain in the neck! It must be so hard not to get your hopes up each month. One month it will be, it's just when, and the process is so mind boggling during it all! Go and hide the sticks somewhere hard to get to if you don't want to POAS tomorrow maybe?
I have everything crossed for you. I will join you in a mad lady dance if you want! Smile.

ItsChristmas, that is sounding great about your results from the gp. I have no idea what the numbers mean, but the info makes it sound very promising.

ItsChristmaass · 20/01/2014 14:40

Good luck to those still waiting to poas, Thanks to those who are out this month.
I had my day 21 blood results today and they were 93.4!! Very high my fertility nurse said. Would defo have ovulated, maybe even released 2 eggs.
Feeling very sick today though Sad and still got on off cramping. Also my boobs are sore. I'm too frightened to get my hopes up..

sazzlehopes · 20/01/2014 14:39

Barmy, I'm a mad lady. I find a bfn SO much worse than just being caught out by AF...however the thought of knowing soon is so tempting. I am so cruel to myself...I get my hopes up every month! The sane part of me wants to wait until friday. The mad lady part of me wants to poas tomorrow morning...

barmybunting · 20/01/2014 14:36

SMF - you need to buy some pee sticks, you never know when you might need them, so I reckon you need a few in the cupboard! Although I can seriously see the attraction of not having any in the house if it helps you avoid POAS.

Sazzle - do you genuinely want to avoid POAS? I totally get why you are feeling impatient, but is it worth trying to wait until Wed? I say that, and no way I could manage. I just know I feel utterly crap today after BFN this morning, so I don't want to encourage anyone else to POAS in case the same happens!

sazzlehopes · 20/01/2014 14:35

SMF - yes buy some sticks and we can poas buddies tomorrow morning? I am 12dpo today. I normally have a 12/13 lp so if i test now i'm sure the result will be real. No symptoms, but I don't remember any with my 1st dc...

Retro! HA, love that dtd is has added excitement. Go girl! Grin

RetroHippy · 20/01/2014 14:29

Yep, def back on the Jan bus Grin

OPK says yes, so going to be DTD like mad for the next few days, then fx for a bfp by the very end of Jan if it shows up early. First weekend of Feb if not. Whoop! I'm getting excited for sex tonight for more than just the usual reasons Wink

SoMuchFruit · 20/01/2014 14:27

Grin at the prevarication sazzle .. why is POAS such an ordeal!

Do you have any symptoms ? What dpo are you ?

I have to go into town now anyway so will decide whether to buy a few sticks then.

SoMuchFruit · 20/01/2014 14:25

sazzle - I think I ov'd around right time this month. I had EWCM on the days it should have been there but that doesn't guarantee OV does it. We did dtd a fair bit this month but actually only twice over days 14-18.

Otherwise the only unusual thing is I have quite a bit of EWCM-type discharge that wouldn't usually be around at this time (if cycle was to be 30 days as usual) which was a big clue for my BFP last time.. one of the only 'symptoms' actually, that an a hatred of Pesto!.

What to do..

sazzlehopes · 20/01/2014 14:25

SMF - i'm only a bad influence because i'm too chicken shit to poas myself for fear another month with a bfn. I'd much rather prattle on here about it all day whilst avoiding the fact i have 2 superdrug tests burning a whole in the bathroom cabinet that will put me out of my misery...

And you are not insane, well not on this site anyway!

SoMuchFruit · 20/01/2014 14:21

LOL - you guys are BAD influence. BAD.

I'm kinda afraid to POAS, in case it says no or incase it says yes. That's insane isn't it.

If it is not a cooperative stick (that says yes) I will be annoyed because I want AF to show up and be come and gone so when I am on holiday I don't want AF there annoying me! Grrr.

sazzlehopes · 20/01/2014 14:20

HA writer i think i've drunk too much water right now but i'll try and save up my wee for later or else i'll do it tomorrow morning i think so i can stop annoying myself about am i aren't i? and probably everyone else still left on this bus!

Writerwannabe83 · 20/01/2014 14:15

I can forgive you fruit for ruining my perfectness, lol Grin I think you and sazzle should go and POAS now Smile

sazzlehopes · 20/01/2014 14:12

SMF - because I'm a maniac and want anyone to poas as i'm very much at that stage myself and obsessing...POAS!!!!! You of course may be late because your body is settling down, but also i have only heard how fertile you can be after a mc so perhaps you have caught... did you ov around the same time this month?

SoMuchFruit · 20/01/2014 14:03

Hi Writer, only 9 weeks to go! Wow! Thanks for doing the list.

I was on the 'Please update details list' . I don't really know whats going on with my cycle post MC so that's why there is a ? after my BFP date. So sorry, will have to leave it like that. Until my cycle gets back to normal (my first AF?) I can't say Sad Sorry to wreck your perfectness Blush

It does lead you to my next question though. I asked Dr when to expect(ish) my next AF and she said go with previous cycle lengths from before MC but this is no guarantee that it's right. Can take longer for AF to reappear. Anyway, today I would be 1 day late on my usual 30day cycle. Should I POAS or just assume AF is taking her time to show up and wait a bit longer ?

sazzlehopes · 20/01/2014 12:57

Ok I know I said I'd wait until friday but the suspense is killing me and I'm clutching at straws thinking I have increased cm whereas normally nothing on pants - sorry if tmi!
So i may break and poas tomorrow morning with fmu with a superdrug test. FF (first month using it) is putting me at 12dpo today and my normal lp is 12 or 13 days. I'll kick myself if i get a bfn but i don't think i can wait til fri or wednesday even for that matter!!

barmybunting · 20/01/2014 10:51

sazzle I know what you mean about the 2ww wait being a long one! It seems to take forever. I wish a nice flashing sign just appeared on your stomach to show what was happening to put us out of this debate! Smile I hope this week goes quickly for you.

I'm fairly sure I have ov dates right this cycle, unless I actually haven't oved at all, the usual signs appeared just before we moved house so I presumed it happened that week but maybe everything going on has just confused it all. I'm also wondering if af is delayed due to chem preg last month. Time will tell I guess, I'll give it a few days and see what happens. I normally get horrendous spots in the lead up to af as my only symptom but have nothing just now so goodness knows! Today is cd35 so I'm feeling a tad impatient to be honest which I bet isn't helping things!

I had a horrible dream last night that DH was going back to Afghanistan for 6 months again, but he hadn't told me. We went to the airfield for him to leave and he told me he was going again but I hadn't told him I was pregnant either, so told him and he told me to have a nice time with it, he would meet them baby when he got home. I woke up very cross! Bizarre dreams!

Sorry, this is an essay!

mama31 · 20/01/2014 10:24

Awh sazzle I know it's so hard!! But I do think that there would be few to no symptoms so early on anyway so little point in over analysing everything....even though we all love to!!! Haha! Yes the manuka is vile...honestly thought I was going to barf this morning as I forced it down...but I will try anything! hoping in the nicest way that you are not joining me on the Feb bus!!!! Good luck! X

sazzlehopes · 20/01/2014 10:09

Hey mama nice of you to pop in! Sorry the honey is making you gag! Oh the things we do! I can't believe I'll know whether i'll be on the next bus or not in just a few days time! I don't feel anything though, absolutely zero symptoms to note, not feeling hopeful, but trying so hard not to overthink it all...i'm sure I didn't have symptoms when i found out about my first.....

mama31 · 20/01/2014 10:03

Sorry to hear of the bfn's/af arrivals this morning ladies! Hope you are all holding out ok on the 2ww!!

Sazzle! I'd love to do glastonbury so much!!!!! Get what you mean though, we always go abroad for 2 weeks in summer and would usually have it booked by now so we have something to look forward to but can't book anything as don't know what our situation will be by then! Obv won't be away on a hot sunny holiday abroad if I'm preggers! I will be at home nesting and preparing for the arrival of my little one!!!

sazzlehopes · 20/01/2014 09:35

Sleeping - it is so tough with work decisions trying to plan things but not wanting your life to completely revolve around ttc. I have missed 2 glastos becasue I thought i'd be pregnant by now (i know its not anything major, but i like a boozy music festival!!), and now I'm deciding how much work I take on in the next few months that could lead to year long projects. I work freelance and it is so hard to judge how much to say 'yes' too so I understand your dilemma. I agree with barmy though - going by your losses and the fact your pregnancies aren't straightforward I would perhaps take a quieter job maybe for 6 months to a year if possible and see if you fall pg. If not after that time see how you feel about changing jobs again.

barmy not sure what is going on with you. I never really get af symptoms so i can't help. Well I defo get pmt but no body changes. Odd to be late? Could you have got ov wrong? Maybe wait it out a few days and test again?

Spinning! Hey it has dragged! But i'm glad it went quickly for you! When you get this close it is a mixture of excitement and nerves...much like exam results i think! I'm tempted to poas wednesday as i'm away at a friends wed night and not back until late thursday.... Oh we shall see!!!!

MrsExtraOrdinary · 20/01/2014 09:26

Thanks barmy! Smile If not I'm going to focus on the fact I've had 2 pgs where heavily pg in heat of summer due sept and oct. I nearly melted as much as I love my dc and I loved every moment of them being babies I am the worst pregnant woman known to man! Wink

barmybunting · 20/01/2014 09:06

Mrsextraordinary, good luck for poas on Wed! Fingers crossed for a brilliant birthday surprise for you!

barmybunting · 20/01/2014 09:04

Sleepingstars, just reading about your work decision re over the summer. The summer is still a long way off, so if this month sadly isn't your one, there is a very good chance you would be pregnant over the summer, so are you better to base it on the fact you will ideally be pregnant and play it safe with a quieter department?

I hope that makes some sense. Basically, in my head, I would presume you would be pregnant by the summer (I realise there is no guarantee but I'm very hopeful!) so I would be playing it safe to give baby the best chance possible, whatever stage of pregnancy you would be at.

It's a hard decision. I'm sorry it was a bfn for you this morning. Fingers crossed for later in the week!!

MrsExtraOrdinary · 20/01/2014 09:01

Hello sleeping stars, I'm a newbie to this thread and in so sorry to hear of your losses. It's a tricky one. The perfect conditions for me ttc last time after mc were 18 months of banging my head on the wall waiting! Which drove me mad. I then decided to have another life and tied myself down to expanding my business with premises. Bingo I was pg but with the most stressful pg I had ever had. I have no answers but I do understand your dilemma.Confused

barmybunting · 20/01/2014 08:58

Not a good start to the morning with so many people seeing dreadful signs of af! Sorry missmrs, I hope it's not! Bingo, that's an odd one. Hopefully it isn't af appearing.

Spinning, Bath is beautiful, isn't it? Enjoy your extra day there!

Sazzle, well done on the poas avoidance for another day!

I'm confused... I poas this morning, superdrug this time, no more sainsburys in the house thankfully, and it is very much a bfn. I am confused not by yesterdays faint line, putting that down to blue dye test, but because af is now 2 days late from when I ov. My lp is usually about 10 days, but not this month. Still piles of creamy cm too. Sorry for bizarre info as well, but my nipples are still erect and have been for days and my breasts are almost hard and rather sore. I never get that before af. Maybe it's just a strange af sign this month? Does anyone else get that before af?