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First cycle trying after MC. AF/BFP due Wednesday 15th....too nervous for words!

190 replies

angelgabe · 13/01/2014 17:31

I started this same thread in December and was lucky enough (after 7 months!) to get pregnant with our first. Unfortunately I had a mc just before Christmas at 5 weeks. Cycle was a bit erratic at the start but looks like I ovulated at my normal time and BBT has risen. I'm almost certain I won't be lucky enough to get pregnant straight away after mc but I thought starting a thread like last time might help!!

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tigger8 · 05/02/2014 12:46

Ah, thanks Baxter.....nothing (yet) today. Stats: 41 (but don't feel it). MC end Dec. 10 days late!

Baxter2014 · 05/02/2014 10:12

Any news swede

I am sooooooo gassy today I am burping for England Shock.

I thought maybe we could all just post reminding us at what stage we are at....
so here we go:

Baxter (32) - TTC (why hasn't my keyboard got a hashtag key??) 1 for 9 months. 1MC at 5wks +4 in Dec. Currently on 2nd cycle post MC and Af is currently 4 days late.

Hope you are ok tigger?

Aqua78 · 04/02/2014 21:28

Really hopeful for you Swedeaway, come on BFP!

Tigger, hope your little one is recovering well. I have a 9 month old and I worry about her health and happiness every day. It certainly is a challenge as well as a great privilege to be a mummy. I'm a teacher too and really not looking forward to going back to work in a few weeks, being a mummy is far more important to me now.

babytinks89 · 04/02/2014 20:18

Oh good luck swedeaway!!!
My fingers and toes are crossed xxx

tigger8 · 04/02/2014 19:20

Hmmmm, think the witch is on her way! Slight spotting no less....this uninvited guest can .... off!!!! Know for definite tomorrow. Although I did have one brief moment today, when I watched my 18 month old being put under general anesthetic, and go all floppy like a rag doll for a hernia op, when I questioned if I could go through 'all this' again. However, that was a brief moment and, truth is, nothing has made me quite so happy as being a mum. Loved being a teacher but love being a mum more, although even straight from blinkin' trying to conceive this motherhood malarkey is soooo painful!!!

Tutti · 04/02/2014 19:14

Swedeaway ... I have everything crossed for you xxxx

Baxter2014 · 04/02/2014 17:11

OMG Swede good luck!!! I am going to do it on Saturday morning provided AF hasn't arrived!

SwedeAway · 04/02/2014 15:27

I will POAS tomorrow morning. No more willpower left and I need to know. AF was due today I think but no show yet.

babytinks89 · 04/02/2014 12:40

Haha so am i aqua! 2dpo now for me too! Im just waiting for the sore boobs and all that jazz!
Iv had a bit lower cramps though last night and today... But nothing major
1 week on sunday and we can test wooo!

Aqua78 · 04/02/2014 11:41

Baxter, Tutti, Swedeaway, English and Tigger, really hoping for your BFPs this week!! Keep us informed :-)

Angelbabe, you still around? I think you, Babytinks and I are in the same 2ww if you decided to try again this month...?

Babytinks, I know it's ridiculous but I'm already symptom spotting, at only 2dpo!! Stupid I know. Really want that BFP...

Tutti · 04/02/2014 08:33

Baxter that sounds promising!!

swedeaway..hope af soesn't come

Babystinks ..fingers crossed

everyone else good luck....sorry am tired got a poorly boy here and so had no sleep....

I am still feeling rubbish ...emotionally more than physically I think....I just want this week over with....I cried at work yesterdayBlush

I just feel like af is coming ...but have felt like that since 4dpo....trouble is I have no idea when af is due...according to ff it started out as the 6 but then somehow it changed to the 9???

I also did a test mid morning yesterday and of course it was a bfn...but it was a poundland cheapy and mid morning wee...I knew it would be bfn but I just felt soo weepy [for about a week Hmm ]

Its totally rubbish......we need some good news ..all of us ....so fingers crossed for all of us ...xxxx

Baxter2014 · 04/02/2014 08:11

Still no AF for me and boobs are still hurting. Going to try and hold off POAS until I am at least a week late Smile

EnglishGirlAbroad · 04/02/2014 08:08

Why why why did I poas! Bfn! Massive fail! Wish i'd just waited til Friday. Think I'm going to get a visit from AF regardless.

SwedeAway · 04/02/2014 05:28

Babytinks - that's great news! Welcome to the 2ww!

So my 2ww is officially coming to an end today as AF was due today. At least I think this is the case but it is hard to know given that this is my first cycle after my mc and I Ov'd 4 days later than usual. Still, I have calculated 14 days from when I Ov'd as that is usually how long my cycle is and the 14th day is today.

Was considering POAS this morning but decided against it for various reasons. Think I may hold out until tomorrow, just to make sure as I am still not completely certain how this WTF cycle would work.

Anyway, anyone ready to POAS???

babytinks89 · 03/02/2014 21:33

Thats me on my 2ww week! Opk positive yesterday! 1dpo :) ahh so exciting this time in 2 weeks i shall hopefully be seeing a BFP!!!! Grin

tigger8 · 03/02/2014 15:27

Sounds shitty, but, I guess, for a lot of us, the only way to deal with the MC a little better is to get up-duffed sooner rather than later! Stating the obvious, I know. I got pregnant the last time, after fifteen years of infertility by, basically, giving up. Although I was on a mission to get super fit and lost loads of weight. I was 9 wks gone before I realised a miracle had occurred. There are so many unknowns in this game, however, I really believe that stressing too much impedes the process. Some aspects of this are totally out of our control. And I think that I need to accept this once more. I am 8 days late today...........but refusing to test!

Baxter2014 · 03/02/2014 12:04

tigger I had a shitty WTF cycle, symptom wise. My boobs were like swollen melons that someone was attacking with a red hot poker, night sweats, cramping etc etc. i could have sworn I was PG if it wasn't for AF turning up bang on time. To be honest no one can predicit it, anything can happen including a BFP. good luck! x

EnglishGirlAbroad · 03/02/2014 11:49

I have zero symptoms, at this point with my BFP I had really sore boobs, this time, nothing!!
I really didn't bleed for long at all which I why I'm pissed off at the long cycle. I only really bled for 4 days, like a normal AF but more crampy.
Only thing goin for me is a temp dip at 8dpo and two rises yesterday and today! Hope it continues to climb and stay up but I've prob jinxed myself now!

tigger8 · 03/02/2014 11:45

Hideous isn't it, English? Clinging onto hope with dear life! My boobs are on fire and I am shattered. Last time, I just knew though. This time, if I am honest, I think it is not going to happen. I tested when AF would have been due last Mon but BFN. I am just going to hold on. Let me know how things go. Did you billed for long during MC? Mine went on for 2 weeks!!!!!

EnglishGirlAbroad · 03/02/2014 08:52

Baxter I feel weirdly calm. I'm due AF/BFP on Friday (if I did indeed ov) so as much as I'll be tempted to test, I'm also in two minds as to leave it until the following Friday. I'm so nervous of having another mc.
It sounds positive for you, but I totally get how you and your DH feel about leaving it for a while before testing, especially if you have a big exam.
This TTC after a mc is such a rollercoaster and only people in the same boat really get it.

I spoke with a friend who's pg (at the same stage I would have been) yesterday and all she's doing is moaning about how sick and tired she is. I want to feel sick and tired! She just doesn't know what to say.

Baxter2014 · 03/02/2014 08:40

Hello All,

Tigger, English these WTF cycles are so frustrating aren't they. I felt so lucky I went back to normal with my cycle quickly. Its the unknown thats the worst isn't it. If you just knew one way or the other you could get on with your life! Unfortunately only time will tell what is going on - I know thats no bloody consolation but it will honestly sort itself out soon. It took me over a month to feel 'normal' again and I mean not burst in to tears every five seconds and actually have a speck of positivity in me. And that was with a very early MC and a 27 day post MC AF so god knows how I would have been if it dragged on for longer or I had been any further along in the PG. PLease feel free to vent here. It has really helped me cope with my feelings over the past few weeks.

Aqua welcome. Sorry you have found yourself here but fx for some positive news soon Smile

baby do not worry...you have done all you can to catch the egg.

Tutti vivid dreams eh? I have been plagued with them since ovulation. Including one I had yesterday where I was PG!

So...AF was due on Sat/Sun (I usually have a very regular 27 or 28 day cycle). And no show Confused. I did a IC yesterday afternoon but it was BFN - I should say here (sorry TMI) but I suffer from an overactive bladder - I go to the loo often and only a very small amount comes out each time so I really should wait until FMU to get an accurate results, especially this early. Last time we got a BFP it was on CD31 and even then it was quite a faint line (was an evening wee too). Basically I am trying to hold out to test (part of me is still thinking AF will show).

DH does not want me to test FOR TWO WEEKS !!!!! He says even if it is BFP I will worry so much until I get further along that I wont be able to concentrate (I have big exams coming up in 2 weeks and really need to focus on revision). Plus he doesn't want the heartache of another MC and would just like to think of it as a late AF if I do start bleeding. Anyway I told him he could hide the stash of tests so I can't just do a sneaky one when he is at work Confused soooooooooooo I have no idea whats happening. I keep having very mild cramping and occasional boob pain but that is it. I have never been late before, apart from when we flew to Australia in the summer when I was a couple of days late but figured my body clock was all over the place with the timezone change. It could of course be another way the MC is messing with me (even tho I had a normal cycle last time) - I did bleed for an extra couple of days this time but seemed to OV on time.

AAAAGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!! What do you girls think? I feel I can't get my hopes up because my body has been so cruel to me recently I can't imagine suddenly I would have the best luck in the world.

EnglishGirlAbroad · 03/02/2014 07:41

Tigger - I'm the exact same. Started bleeding dec 30th at 5+2, now cd35. Never had a cycle this long either. Although ff has given me a ov date I'm unsure. Clinging into hope. But also I've resigned myself to the fact it might not happen and AF could indeed come. In which case I'll probably have a good cry. I'm just fed up of this long cycle and want to move onto the next phase! Wether that be a BFP or AF. Hope your wtf cycle is over soon x

Tutti · 03/02/2014 05:38

morning!

Well I think award for most bizarre symptom comes t me..I have not long woken up sobbing and my arm hurting ..dh came into kitchen to see if I was crying cos af started ....noo..because you left us last night and hurt my arm and said that you wouldn't see our ds until October til payment was due....cue his faceHmm Confused and him hugging me and generally like wtf...

anyway I am fine now ..ish...it was just soo vivid I woke up sobbing..but I ma guessing that October is me fretting that I will get a bfp as that would be due month...and my arm hurting must have been me sleeping on it....because my dh is a lovely man who would never do any of those horrible things in rl.

welcome aquastinks...it's a nice haven in here....

babystinks I dunno what that pink could have been ..maybe your cervix was rubbed a bit to hard..?

swedeaway...baxter and others ...how you all doing?

this is the week we all will know...I wish I could just fast forward it....my dh booked us a few days away next week ...so something to look forward too....that's if he's not leftGrin

babytinks89 · 02/02/2014 21:20

Hi girls need some advice.... Just dtd with the dp, and i was on top, then rolled over to missionary position before he ejac'd! I read to keep my legs up and hips raised afterwards which is what i done for 10 mins or so.... Then went to the loo, but when i went to the loo a clot of blood fell out me and when i wiped myself it was pinky blood all over..... I'm only cd14 had a positive opk this morning then a negative again tonight then this? Im quite worried as never happened before :-s

tigger8 · 02/02/2014 20:34

Evening folks. Why is it that you, one minute, think you have recovered emotionally from a miscarriage, then you feel crap again!!! Mine started on Dec. 30th....only just 5 wks preg. Bled for 2weeks, very light bleed, now on CD 35 and still no first period after miscarriage. I have never been this late before.......is this normal after such an early miscarriage? Haven't got a clue if I ovulated or not...Responses would be very much valued. Tried to post on main message board but it seems very cliquey on there! Thank you, in advance.