First cycle trying after MC. AF/BFP due Wednesday 15th....too nervous for words!

I used a CBFM for a month or two and it was great for letting me know exactly when i was ovulating (without having to interpret IC OPKs). I borrowed it off a friend but even the sticks were expensive (£20 for a pack which lasted maybe 2 cycles??) I worked out that i was ovulating about the same time each month so gave up using them. I have been using IC tests for the SMEP cos they are so cheap, showed I ovulated at the same time in my cycle that i was expecting CD14, even tho my cycle was messed up. Was considering going back to the CBFM just to check i am getting it right now my cycles are strange but I really would only recommend for a few months unless your ovulation dates are all over the place.

I think realistically we should expect screwed up cycles for a few months !
I've got a cbfm ready and waiting to go if this cycle isn't successful. Got it off ebay 40 pound (got an american mac & cant find the pound symbol!). Until now though ive used the clear blue digital dual hormaone opks. I've also got some ic's to use in the afternoon! Overkill much!!

Yes, agree with everyone's opinions about rolling with it, or scheduling pregnancy. I guess, being an old bag, time is ticking for me and I would get pregnant any time NOWWWW! Agree with you English that the first period really is an odd one, having just finished mine after MC. I felt bloomin' preggers before and during AF...sore boobs, sickly, twinges. I think, for a lot of us, our bodies are still sorting themselves out post-MC. Anyone here use a CB fertility monitor? Is it worth getting one? Which OPKs do you use? Do we have a right to ask for a check-up post-MC to ensure everything is ok even though, in my case, it was an early one?

Aqua, Try not to get down. You're still testing early. Many people get a positive after due date and go on to have perfectly normal and healthy pregnancies. Its also worth noting that symptom spotting after a mc is never a good idea. From what i've heard from other ladies in our position is that pms symptoms in general have been heighten after a mc. Its a massive kick in the teeth i know. Try to keep positive, you're not out yet

I was also really not that into having a december baby, but at this point I just want a healthy baby more than i dont want a christmas baby. I couldn't stop trying now incase that month was the month it was supposed to happen.

Oh Aqua dont lose hope. whatever happens this cycle things will be ok. I think you should talk to DH about keeping going...maybe agree to not track your cycles/ovultation and just DTD when you feel like it and if it happens it happens. I know a baby born on the 25th of december is not ideal but at this stage I would take anything! My birthday is in November too but I have always said to DH that I would love a November baby (my favourite month)...even so much as when we got PG the first time I said I was surprised cos I always thought we would have one in Nov. If thats the case - this month is my month (dont want to wait another year). Just starting in DTD on the SMEP tonight!
And remember 11DPO is still early and its not over until the witch arrives.

11dpo and still BFN. Starting to give up hope. Feeling really low as I was so sure my body was gearing up for pregnancy. I still feel tenderness in my boobs as I write... what is going on?!?

Babytinks, you're sounding really optimistic about jumping on the March bus, I think I need to take a leaf out of your book.

Tigger, I'm not unhappy about dh's announcement, although I'd probably prefer to just keep trying if I'm honest. Perhaps we'll negotiate an attempt for a Nov due date and skip Dec. We'll see...

Still hoping and praying for BFPs all round soon!

Hi girlsss!
Nope nothing for me yet! 10dpo not felt anything, af sure to be coming, but because of my mucked up cycles since mc in november my af might not be here until this time next week, its murder!! Whyyy

Ordered more opks yesterday, to be prepared for joining the march bus!

Aqua .....you ok with that announcement? It would be great if 'things' happened on time and schedule. Bloomin' heck, I would not have had to wait for 15 yrs for my LO! And, to add, we would not be all sitting on this thread...LOL! If I had not been so heavily career-orientated and set time scales for everything, I may have got pregnant earlier and more easily....but this is MAY have. Hmmmmm.....

Thanks Baxter. I guess it isn't over until AF appears.

Dh has announced that he doesn't want a Nov or Dec due date (too close to my birthday and then Christmas), so if we aren't pregnant this month I'll be out for a couple of cycles :-(

I got another BFN this morning, will try again on Friday. How about you Babytinks? I'm a bit scared that I'll get the same pattern as the pregnancy that miscarried - no BFP until 4 days after AF was due. I should have realised at the time that perhaps that wasn't a good sign when I tested positive with my first and successful pregnancy 2 days before AF.

God knows what was going on with me. I had loads of symptoms and was positive I was PG. But remember everyone is different and there are so many different stories in here, anything can happen. Good luck!! X x

I done the same aqua tested this morning. Expected it to be a bfn anyways, so wasnt as dissapointed.
4 more weeks and we'll be back here :) well thats if you get a bfn of course but feeling hopeful for you

Just did a test - BFN. Stupid I know, 9dpo is too early. Just feeling so sure that I'm pregnant. I'm scared this is just working up to a big disappointment, lots of BFNs and a visit from AF. Baxter, you were really sure your body was telling you that you were pregnant, do you think the symptoms had something to do with recovering from a mc maybe?

It's sounding good for you Aqua!

I've had nothing not a jot... 9dpo today, so gutted, really don't think i have got it this month. Trying to prepare myself to try again end of feb! Ordered more opk tests lol so hppefully march is a better month for me!

Cramping, sore boobs, waking up in the night hot and sweaty, weird dreams, moments of nausea, feeling like I need to wee all the time, general bloatedness.... either I'm pregnant or my body is playing very cruel tricks on me. I've decided to do an early test tomorrow (it'll be 10dpo). I'm hoping I'll get that BFP but realise it could be too early still.

How are you doing Babytinks and Miserywaterfall? Really hoping you both get your BFPs!

I know aqua, it's so frustrating.
Well i'm the same, my cycles have been so long since mc in nov, 37 days long and then 34!!
I tested positive on sunday but again did i ov then?? I had a lot of ewcm yesterday that it felt like i had my period and i kept running to the toilet!! Could this be implabtation?? Or ovulating now?? God it's messing with my head, i don't know how to live normal anymore lol it revolves around this and another month of its going to make be go insane lol!
I shouldnt make it my job, i should let it happen naturally but i want it so bad :(
Iv got little cramps period type pains just now literally just came on, and sun/mon/tues i had cramps in tube area.... I think i'll do my first test friday too! That will be 10dpo or 11 i think! So will see then :)
Ahhh i so hope we have a positive Aquaa!!!

So sorry Tigger :-( Really hope it happens for you next month.

Babytinks, sorry to hear you're not feeling hopeful. Only a week to go and we'll find out! I'm crossing my fingers for you. I'm actually thinking of testing on Friday, so dh and I can either celebrate or commiserate for Valentines!

I think I'm feeling pretty positive... I've been getting definite boob tenderness, period like pains and lower back pain. I find it quite scary to be so hopeful though. Can I trust my body after a mc? Did I really ov when I think I did? Are my symptoms just about gearing up for a visit from AF?

I think the days may go quite slowly this week...

aw sorry to hear the big red bitch got you! :(
I may be joining you for the march bus too... im not feeling so hopeful myself!

sorry to hear that tigger lets hope next cycle is better for all of us that AF has caught (yet again!) xx

I too am on the bottle of wine this evening, it makes dtd more interesting I guess!

Sorry about AF tigger Here's to next cycle! (raises glass!)

Ladies, AF is my uninvited guest CD 40. Bottle of wine for me tonight!!!!! The one consolation - I can drink!!! Yes, I agree with you all in that we all have different bodies and should not read too much crap on the Internet. A lot of luck is involved in this game too. We were very lucky to conceive our 18 month old after 15 years. And I am so grateful for her...... Oh, BTW, the NICE guidelines suggests a glass of red wine is good for you, seriously, in terms of assisting fertility....I do not jest....check it out! At least with a glass inside us, it may make DTD more, erm....'interesting' after the 50 millionth attempt!!! LOL. Gotta laugh, ladies.

Enjoy you weekends.

Aqua78 - I had no AF between my mc in December and getting my bfp this week so it definitely can work. Fingers crossed for you.

I haven't had a visit from AF since the mc so I guess we're hoping we just conceive straight away. I have found myself reading all the discussion threads online and marvelled at the number of women who seem to conceive straight away. I suppose it's hard not to hope...

I keep feeling like I've got symptoms, but really don't know. I want to be pregnant again so badly, I'm sure it's possible to totally imagine things. Last night I felt more boob tenderness and had a really vivid dream about getting in an overcrowded lift that broke! But scary! Vivid dreams are supposed to be a symptom though right?

Tutti - I am still here. Was away on a business trip yesterday which is why I was not on mn. Feeling soo tired today but attribute this to having only slept 4 hours each of the past two nights. About to fall asleep at my desk.

Anyway, went to get a blood test done this morning so waiting for the result on that which should come this afternoon and then I will know exactly how far along I am.

Baxter and Tutti - I am sorry that AF got you but fx for this new cycle for you!

English, good news that you have now Ov'd. All systems go for you then!

Tigger just some advice as well, when i mc in november it took 37 days before my af came! then after that my cycle was 34 days, we all differ i suppose but it is normal as well for af to come later after mc because your body is adjusting back!
Still worth a poas though??
Doctor and nurses told me after mc to let my body get back to normal with a cycle or two to avoid mc again so we done that, but its taken forever!!

Did you guys try again right after mc?

The thing is everyone is different as well we all have different bodies different symptoms.

Thats one thing i have learned, stop typing in google and reading shit when i feel something or want to know something.....

P.s HAPPY FRIDAY everyone