About to start / Just started TTC no.2 (part 4)

Thanks for all the support ladies, it means a lot!
Well I have just got back from my app, she was so lovely, but I burst into tears as soon as I sat down, I didn't think I was going to do that, I was feeling fine until she asked me how I was! She said she wasn't worried or concerned for us, the fact that we already have a child shows all the plumbing is working, and she mentioned the statistics of conceiving within 1 or 2 years. She has referred me for the day 21 tests, not sure how they will work with my short cycles, but I booked them in for day 21 anyway. I mentioned to her about my short LP but she didn't seem concerned, so now I'm wondering whether or not to bother taking the Bvitamins. Oh and she referred me to the counsellor to have a chat with about dealing with anxiety from it all! There is a 3 month waiting list for it though, but she said hopefully I will have conceived within that period anyway. Basically, she said I know it sounds like an old wives tale, but stop trying, because the stress of it isn't helping, so I think I just need to get a grip!

Hope you're having a nice day Metal, and DD is behaving!

Thank you for the cake Loves! Any sign of AF yet?

Good luck today Ginger, thinking of you!

Great news about your work Hungry, I'm glad you got the option you wanted in the end.

I've finished work for the week, just hope that DD will be good for me today and not have one of her whingey days.

Good luck today, Gingerbread. What time is your appt?

Cake, all of the trainees have to go on secondment as otherwise our training contract isn't good enough to qualify as we've not worked on enough areas of law.

I've essentially swapped places with somebody else because it's more convenient to send me now. So, I have kind of stolen it! Except it was given to me. :-)

Still not feeling very pregnant and I'm 16 weeks today! One day I'll have consistent pregnancy feelings!

Metal, I hope you're resting today.

Swede, how're you doing?

No time this morning to post properly, just a quick one to say thinking about you at your appt this morning ginger will post more later, hope everyones ok today (hope youre feeling abit better metal)

gingerelle sorry to hear about your BFN's we can sit around and wait for AF together! (secretly hoping they don't turn up)

Just had to google secondment it sounds exciting surely you can't of 'stolen' it, as wouldn't it be a case of finding the right person for it? skill sets and all that? Interesting hearing about everyone work changes makes me think I could one day manage to go PT somehow.

I'm feeling strangely positive today guess it's realising I didn't fall to pieces like I thought I would, what's that quote ' there is nothing to fear but fear itself' seems quite apt for me today.

FX your appointment goes well today ginger and metal hope today is a better day for you, I baked last night so a slice of for you both.

hi all, sorry to hear about the bfns. ive been poas crazy this month (got a cheap job lot on anazon and first month of trying and crazy cycle = no idea what's happening when!) so far all negative. I think AF is due any time from monday just gone to next Monday so maybe (hopefully) just testing too early. we'll see. hope u r all ok xx

Kt, make sure work pays for your eye test. It's a legal requirement that they do if you use computers for work.

Cake, sorry about your BFN. It could just be a shy one. Fx.

I will finish on 5th or 6th June. I have a half day to take at some point, so may take it during the secondment and finish on the Friday. See how it goes. But you can't have a half day for mat leave purposes! My annual leave will take me almost to 38 weeks, I think.

I'm looking forward to going back now, kind of.

The person whose secondment I've 'stolen' is gutted, apparently! Oops.

toothpaste ive missed your work saga! my works arw a bunch of pricks too and its all down to jealousy! big hugs to you xx
im thinking of giving up earlier wasnonl staying to prove a point but wjy should I exhaust myself for them! will have a proper read through this one dd goes to bed X

Loves me too, I am feeling far more philosophical than anything else recently. I still have a few 'why me/so unfair' moments, but I'm trying to just concentrate on the bigger picture. I thought about crying this morning, but then thought I just can't be bothered, I'm fed up of crying! Sorry you got a bfn, but it's not over til AF turns up, and did you do it this afternoon, so not using FMU?
Hungry, yey, so glad you got the option you wanted, must make going back to work a little less awful. What date will you be all done by then? Wow, 3 litres is impressive, I'm lucky if I manage 3 pints.
Kt how strange about your eyes! Definately get it checked out though, that could be what is causing your headaches also. I remember I had headaches nearly all the way through my pg with DD, they are no fun.

Well ginger seems like we will be cycle buddies after all just POAS and its a BFN.

Surpisingly I'm not as upset as I thought I would be, just philosophical.

At least time will go back to normal speed and I can enjoy a

Thanks for the welcome guys :-)

Gingerbread, sorry AF got you. I hope your GP is useful tomorrow. :-) Enjoy your wine etc.

FWIW, I got pregnant the cycle I went to the GP for tips!

Metal, thank goodness for an understanding boss. You need to stay off til next week now please. That's an order! Look after yourself.

Swede, my weeks go quickly as I'm going back to work in 2 weeks. Boo!

How annoying about your work, Kt. How rude of whoever overheard and spread it about too.

Better, I drink about 3 litres already. I'll float if I have more. Though I think I drank 4 litres a day last time!

What is your course? I'm already too bloody qualified for my own good, it has to be said. I don't think I can change career again. :-/

On the up side, I got the option I wanted from work. Yay!

Means I'll barely go back to my normal office in between mat leaves. :-)

First of all hello to the newbies :) good luck to you all this thread has been quite lucky.
Sorry AF got you gingerbread :( hope the drs apt will help tomorrow, and you get your BFP soon. Enjoy your wine tonight!
Sorry your still feeling rubbish metal rest as much as you can, good your work are being understanding :)
I am well and truly knackered, I've been getting headaches too hungry how are yours today? I put it down to being on the computer a lot without much of a break at work though, also we had our systems updated, and its not easy to see unless you go closer to the screen to read things so could be that. I think I've got an eye infection again though, only had one last month, so I might book opticians as I used to wear glasses for work in my old job before I went on mat leave with DS, but eye sight got better when i finished mat leave strangely! so could need them again.
How's everyone else doing? Sorry you've got people gossiping at your work toothpaste mines just the same, it got round that I was pregnant cause someone overheard something I had said and now everyone knows! Think I will be re thinking about my job too!

Sorry about AF ginger. My cycle is 28 days normally but haven't been keeping track for long so 'normally' might be stretching it a little bit. Would be good to have someone to keep me company in the waiting game! Good luck for tomo

Metal yay to understanding bosses mine were brilliant when I had my mc's it's such a tiring and emotional time you need all the support you can get.

I agree that this is indeed the longest week in history...............

Ah Ginger I'm so sorry AF got you again! Hope your GP is helpful tomorrow. Definitely enjoy the coffee and vino today!

My boss has been very understanding thankfully, and I did manage to get all my work for this week finished this morning so not feeling too bad about putting my feet up again this afternoon. I started bleeding again too so I guess recovery wasn't as quick as I first thought...

Metal sorry you're feeling rubbish again, definately get back to the sofa, and get the kettle on!! Hope work are understanding at least about you taking the time off you need?
That is a big profession jump for you! My job is the same in that it has completely changed since I got back from mat leave and it is totally unfulfilling, I would love to do a meaningful, worthwhile job, I did consider midwifery but can't decide if that would be a terrible or brilliant idea when potentially faced with secondary infertility.....

Hi all,
Well AF arrived this morning, just as I was thinking of peeing in a cup. That was my last chance to have an age gap of less than 3 years. It does put my cycle back to 26 days, and LP 10 days so a bit more like it used to be. Off to the doctors I go tomorrow then, appointment is at 9.20. I hope it is a short LP that's the problem, seems like that could be a straightforward thing to fix with vitamins etc, and doesn't seem too serious a problem when put against crap sperm or no ovulation. I have had lots of coffee and half a pack of biscuits this morning, and looking forward to some red wine when I get home.
Hungry how are you feeling? Will you be upping your water intake? Hope you manage to get some extra rest!! (ha). Does DD nap regularly during the day?
Good luck with your course Better! How long does it last? Will you be able to take a break when baby is born?
I signed up to do a teaching assistant course last october, haven't actually found the time to start it yet It needs to be done by october though so I better get cracking!

Good luck this cycle loves, hope AF keeps away for you, if not maybe we can be cycle buddies!! How long are your cycles normally?

I don't think it's patience just me being a scaredy cat!

You're a more patient woman than me loves! Fx AF will stay away for you, and for you Gingerbread.

What course are you doing Better, if you don't mind me asking? I've looked into OU but not sure I'd have the discipline to stick with it.

Urgh, I felt fine this morning so went back to work, but I'm actually feeling really exhausted now so I think I'll have to take the afternoon off again. Guess sitting on the sofa watching telly isn't as taxing as sitting in front of a computer and actually using your brain after all...

Glad the mw tested your wee n bp thoigh hungry. Put your mind at rest abit. Ive had the awful headaches since about 10 weeks but if it helps heu just stopped last week so hopefully you'll be similar and not long left of them. I always thought I drank plenty & I was a bit stubborn at fiest thinking it couldnt be dehydration but to be fair when I did make a conscious effort to drink more, it did help. It didnt stop them, but did lessen the intensity.

Hoping no af for you this morning gingerbread. Will this be 10dpo? At least, even if af does show after today (which hopefully you'll get your bfp and it wont!) But at least of it does your LP has been longer this time, thats got to be a good thing. What time is your doc appt tomorrow?

toothpaste im jumping on the new job bandwagon too, as we're planning on me staying at home until all children are at least at nursery, I've just started an open university degree part time so I'll hopefully be able to start a new career once children are all older.

loves welcome! I was exactly the same, I would rather find out I wasnt pregnant by af arriving rather than seeing a bfn!! Good luck for tomorrow.

Metal I'm really not sure whether to POAS, which I know is completely ridiculous? Not knowing seems easier at the moment then a BFN which is stupid because not knowing is horrible as well. Guess my head is a bit muddled at the mo.

So sorry to hear about your mc too. Sometimes this whole process seems so unnecessarily hard.

Hi Cake! Great name :-)

Gingerbread, any news?

We are going through crappy nights with teething at the moment. Yawn

Toothpaste, we need to set something up together to avoid idiots!

Welcome loves! Are you going to poas tomorrow if AF doesn't show up?

Sorry to hear about your past losses, I've just had a mc myself so know how hard it is.

hmm

Hello, Was wondering if I can join? TTC#2 cycle 5. Had two miscarriages before DS was born he is 16 months.

AF due tomo I am sympton spotting like crazy and have convinced myself I'm def not PG and can't concentrate on work at all!!

You all seem like a very positive bunch, guess I'm hoping for some of that positivity to rub off on me (smile)