About to start / Just started TTC no.2 (part 4)

Welcome Zara.

Lucy I was the same as Swede, climbing the walls by the end of ml (Ds was 4mo when I went back for 2 days). I now work 3 days and even though my job is stressful (teacher) I love it and I need it to keep me sane. DS loves his 2 days of nursery and it's good that he also gets a day with Dh. We could definitely not scrape by if one of us didn't work (low mortgage) and the other one went full time, but neither of us wants that and I woupd go loopy (not sahm material).

I even enjoy the drive to work by myself! Work is my time to be a grown up and I think I would feel quite isolated here without work and all the social contact it gives (expat, do speak language but not easy!).

However, if you really hate it and you can do without it, then I would leave. Life's too short.

Have just been to supermarket and spent twice as much as was planning to! They had my tavourite wine on offer half price and since I'm not ttc for the next month I figured I may as well stock up (lady at checkout must have thought I had a drink problem!). Lots of soft cheese as well as once we're trying I'll lay off.

Hi swede, I'm sorry that everything is frustrating for you right now. Your mind must be going crazy.

Lucy, I too would be reluctant to sever ties completely with an income, I guess because I've just seen too many cases of it going very wrong. So I would be in the 'look for something closer to home while you're still employed' camp. I completely understand that 'I hate my job and need to get out' feeling though. I really do.

I'm working part-time at the moment and it works for me - like swede I was climbing the walls by 4 months in! That said, I don't love my job at all, but it's fine for now. Even part-time often feels like way too much though... It's a very difficult situation for mothers to be in. The answers aren't clear, and it's so hard to know what to do or feel sometimes.

Hi Zara1984 :)

Hello, can I join in?? Am currently cycle 2 of TTC#2. DS is nearly15 months.

AF due 9 Feb, but that may change depending on when CBFM and OPKs say i ovulate! Had a bit of a weird first cycle with AF late - just like when we were TTC DS!

Hoping to be pregnant by June. Obviously this month would be great too

Hopefully it'll be the biggest, best egg ever once it decides to make an appearance. :-)

I'm sorry it's all gone WTF on you.

Swede, did you get a smiley? How're you feeling?

I didn't even get a positive OPK the day I got my smiley on the digi, so although you can get a strong positive like Metalhead, don't rely on it happening! They are hit and miss.

Lucy, if you're miserable and can afford it, leave. There really is no point making yourself miserable.

Flight I agree don't worry about room temp wee with the opks. However with regards to the lines I have to say that I used to faff about trying to decide whether the line was dark enough to be a positive or not, until I got my first real positive - it was very obvious, darker than the control line and came up immediately!

Lucy I really sympathise with you. I too hate my job and had started looking for something else as I just couldn't stand the thought of doing it for another year or more (though now I will stick it out of course until ML at least). If you could get by financially without your salary then I'd say pack it in, it's not worth wasting so much of your life on something that makes you miserable!

Yey Donna very exciting! Sorry you have to go back Hungry, what will you do with DD do you know yet? Hope you get some sort of resolution and an apology from it all too eventually!
Swede sorry you are feeling down. Try to pick yourself back up though, this cycle isn't a total no-hoper. Just keep dtd as much as you feel you can and we are all hoping for the best for you. How did you end up in SA if you don't mind me asking?
I could do with some lifestyle advice ladies and also somewhere to have a moan. I went back to work today in my main job in an office, I only work there 2 days a week but it takes 45-60minutes to drive there each way. I absolutely hate it, I have been dreading going back as have just had 4 weeks off from it. So I went back today and it was just the same. Boring, soul destroying and confusing! The company and my job has changed so much since I came back from mat leave I'm not entirely sure what my job entails anymore and I don't enjoy in the slightest what I end up doing each day, I feel like I am going backwards and like I am a newbie constantly having to ask what needs doing and what is going on in the general scheme, I suppose this isn't helped by only being there 2 days/week. I had only been hanging onto the job in the hope I would be preggers soon and could leave anyway once I'd taken my mat leave. But I don't think I can keep working there if there is no end in sight. I really missed my daughter today, and if it ends up I don't have anymore children I want to spend this time with her while she is still so young. There aren't many job opportunities in my area, I would like to retrain in a career one day, but DH is currently at college full time as well as working full time, so we don't have any spare time or money for that! Do you think I should leave a job that is depressing me to spend more time with my daughter whilst looking for something I would enjoy more a bit closer to home, or do you think I should just get on with it and appreciate that I at least I do have a job and we can manage financially ok for the time being.....
Sorry for the long post but I was just so fed up when I got home today, and this has been going round in my head for weeks so it would be nice to get an outsiders perspective!!

That could've been it, Flight. Those cheapies are notorious for being hard to interpret, and if you catch your surge on the way up or down, I'm not sure you'd get a very strong line.

Ignore the room temp bit though!

You've still a chance from Sunday if OV was Tuesday. :-)

And how exciting, Donna. I finish on 18th April, or something like that, I think. :-)

Hi all. How exciting to get a BFP on the thread already.
Swede, sorry you're feeling rubbish - fingers crossed everything sorts itself out for you.

Can you wise people talk to me about OPK please. Didn't use them with DS as got pregnant 3rd cycle. Having read about people here using them have bought some, but just the cheapie ones. Wasnt sure about timings as have been having odd cycles since coming off the pill at the end August - short but period happening almost in 2 bits, a few days spotting, a day off and then a couple of days of proper bleeding. Anyway, from no line at all on opk stick, got a faint line on Monday, then stronger on tues but still definitely not positive, but then yesterday and today back to no line. Is this it? Possible am not doing test properly as don't have time to faff around waiting for wee to be room temp etc. Timings fit with what app suggests for ov.

Dtd on Sunday but haven't since ashas been crappy week for work etc. so guess if that was it have missed out this month as next chance to dtd will be Saturday...

Starting to get a bit downhearted as was so easy last time that had false expectations!

Ah Swede sorry your feeling down should help xx
I handed in my notice today to start mat leave leaving easter weekend so 13 weeks to go! Finishing at 32&1/2 weeks can't wait!
How's everyone doing wjos next to poas? xx

Ah, Swede. :-(

How strange. :-/ I know the first cycle post-MC is often referred to as a WTF cycle, for good reason by the look of it.

All you can do is keep going and see what happens, but I know that that's easier said than done.

I've never had what the packet calls a positive with an IC OPK. I've had a few smiley faces though. :-)

Fx for tomorrow!

I paid £60 for 40, which was from Amazon. In the shops they're £16 for 7, so dearer than SA. That surprises me a bit.

I think it's worth the money too. Can't misread a smiley!

Yay! Hopefully tomorrow morning you'll get a smiley :-)

My aching used to ramp up the day before my smiley. Fingers crossed!

Are the digi tests hideously expensive for you?

Metalhead, I go back on 6th March, for 31.5 days, of which I'll be on leave for 5 days.

So it's not for long, but it's the principle of the thing. They're being arses. But as they've got the procedure wrong I'll be going to ACAS at the end and making their lives awkward!

Utopian, fx for you now O is fully weaned. Good luck! Are you using OPKs or just going for it?