About to start / Just started TTC no.2 (part 4)

I'm really sorry Better hope there is someone looking after you right now and there is an EPU maybe you could attend?

ATruth, I'm feeling crap actually, tired and a nasty taste all the time. Could've done with a PJ day myself! DD was car sick as we were circuiting the amazing one way system too. Lovely. :-/

Oh better how awful. Sending you hugs. x

Oh better I'm so sorry. Is there not an epu near you? Take it easy x

hungry - I'd forgotten you were up this weekend. I'm actually still in pjs as I feel so rotten so wouldn't have been good company anyway. Hope you're enjoying it.

better im so sorry I hope your not alone right now make sure you have some support xxx

Oh no, Better. That's such sad news.

Make sure you get looked after this weekend and maybe a scan on Monday if they can fit you in? But see how you feel.

I hope your DD's birthday went well.

Swede, maybe you didn't ovulate so your body's going onto the next cycle. And, if so, sooner rather than later really.

Oh god Better, I'm so sorry to hear that! I really hope you're wrong and it's not as bad as you think. Are you bleeding quite a lot? Maybe go to A&E for a blood test at least? Hope you've got someone with you to support you xx

Hi everyone.

Havent had time to read back, busy week this weed with dds birthday.

Not good news here, 12 weeks yesterday but looks like I may be miscarrying today. Rang maternity unit who said a&e would be they only option as my 12 week scans not till tuesday so I'm not the responsibility of the maternity unit. She said the problem is a&e wouldnt be able to scan on a weekend so not much point in going unless the pain becomes unbearable, which its not. So looks like waiting until tuesday for confirmation. But I think its pretty inevitable based on symptoms.

Not a huge shock as lots of you know I've had a bad feeling since getting bfp, but still not nice.

Hope everyone else is ok.

Wasn't sure whether to post as don't want to make any of you panic about yourselves, sorry for the downer.

I have woke up with a dead leg and pelvic pain. hope its the way ive been sleeping and not pgp or whatever irs called!
swede hope you are ok? Xx
lucy id look for something else closer to home if your job is making you unhappy nothing worse hhan sitting fretting about your work when you are not even there!
happy weekend folks xxx

That's good news, Noyou. :-) Fx for this cycle.

Swede, how are you doing today?

We are off to ATruth's town today for the night. Should be nice, though it was raining when I got up for a wee a while ago. Hope it's not going to do it all day!

How is everyone else today?

I've been to see GP, bloods were all entirely normal . He said if my cycle continues to be irregular to go back and he would do Ultrasound or refer me to gyne. Now on cd6 so will see how it goes this month.
Glad all the scans are getting sorted. Hope they all go well. I know what you mean about broodiness. DD (2.8) has been potty training for 2 days and is more and more independent every day. She even insists she is a big girl.

lucyjojo I was going to say to stick it out until you find something you enjoy more as it's often easier to get a job when you're already working. I work full time, mostly because I have to for the money - would rather work part time but definitely couldn't do sahm. By the end of mat leave i had a multi worksheet spreadsheet going for our house budget with all sorts of links and formula going on - and that's not even my sort of work! Luckily i mostly enjoy my job and work for a sort of charity.

As for the opk, I've been doing at roughly same time each day - around 7.30pm as I'm out all day. After possible line earlier in week i then had a bit of bleeding period-style yesterday evening, more than just spotting, so who knows wtf is going on. To be fair, were of on a long haul holiday to visit family in march so would be ideal not to be pregnant but then time is running out as said wed only try for a year - and won't 'investigate' if it didn't happen.

Very excited for those of you going for scans soon!

Yay for the scan dates!

Welcome Zara, I hope the thread is lucky for you.

Swede, I don't know if it helps but I never got a positive on an opk, yet I ovulate regularly every month. I don't know if I was doing it wrong (how hard can it be to POAS?), but please don't be disheartened, you might have just missed it.

On the work topic, I couldn't be a sahm either, i'm not cut out for it I'm afraid. I really admire those that do though, hardest job in the world. I work full time, not by choice but because I'm the main breadwinner and we need my salary. I hope this will change one day, because I would like to retrain and do something different once the children are at school and we're not forking out so much in childcare. I don't hate my job as such (well some days I do), but I'm not happy in my current organisation. I stick it out because I agree with others that its better to look for work when you're already in work. That said, if a job is really unbearable life's too short to stay indefinitely. Lucy I hope you find something nearer to home that makes you happy, it's hard when your role is changed.

Wow, a busy week for scans then! Hopefully it will be good news all round!

And that would make sense re: the booking in, maybe that's what it is.

Metal, it might be like here where you book in at a clinic, then have your appointments at your local surgery (or wherever).

Mrs has her 20 week scan that day and my 12 week is the day before. :-)

My sickness was worse today. Absolutely exhausted too.

Hi and welcome Zara!

I've just come home and found my appointment letter for my first scan waiting for me - 28 Jan! Eeek! I also got a booking appt at the nearest hospital on 3 Feb, which is a bit odd, as I thought I'd be having my antenatal care with the local midwives in my town. So not sure whats going on now, whether this is just so they have me on their system at the hospital where I will be giving birth, or whether I'll actually have to traipse over there for every appt. I'll have to ask my friend who lives down the road whether it was the same for her.

Feeling pretty awful again today, so I think the sickness has kicked in properly now!

Lucy we were lucky and I fell pregnant cycle 2 with DS. So given my cycle 1 this time mirrored my weird first one last time, maybe that's a sign! We were relieved and surprised it happened so quickly last time as there is a history of male infertility issues in DH's family.

For anyone interested I will be doing cheapie OPKs with FMU when the CBFM picks up high/peak, to double check what CBFM is saying. Ie pee in a cup and use the same FMU for both.

On the work front - so hard to know if you're doing it right. I am very lucky in that I work 3 days a week in a reasonably interesting job at an NGO. Like Swede I used to be a solicitor, current role much more family friendly. It is sometimes a head case as the sector is chaotic and my job is often about putting out 100 fires at once rather than be intellectually challenging (like when I was a lawyer!). I hadn't planned to come back to the job after mat leave with DS1, and in fact interviewed (but didn't get) for two other, more senior, full-time jobs. But it's actually turned out alright because there were staff changes while I was away and I love my new team. My job is only on contract for another year or so, so god knows what will happen if/when I get pregnant and go on mat leave with #2!!!!

Definitely feeling broody this week as DS has started walking properly.... He's not a baby anymore!!

Both, but not English as a Second Language (though have done bits and pieces in past).

Sorry to hear things are confusing your end swede.

Is it english literature or language you teach? That sounds like a job I would love to do! I would love to be able to travel the world teaching english as a foreign language. My one glimmer of hope if it ends up I never have any more kids is that this is something I will be able to do with just one DC!

Yep, I teach in an international school, so completely in english. Attached to a'normal' school and I used to teach bilingual kids there, so that was all in english too.

LOVE my job atm! (Even though I hate marking)

Good job with the Engels!! You've got me thinking I should stock up on brie while I still can.... Do you teach in English language?

Oo cross posts with people! I'm glad I'm not the only one who has this constant dilemna! It's the balance that every mother struggles with I imagine. Claude they are wise words, I know the grown up thing to do would be to just get on with it and appreciate that I have an income, and so many people would kill to have that right now. I think everyday at home with my DD would drive me mad too! I think the perfect balance would be working two days a week doing something I love with people I get on with! Ah we can dream can't we.....

Morning all. Thanks for your replies, sorry about the mememe post, I was just fed up last night of not being pg and working is just a constant reminder of that.
I can't really afford to not work to be honest. I just feel trapped, having to be away from my DD for 2 days doing something I do not enjoy just feels like a waste of time and a waste of my life!! I will keep looking what else is out there, and keep trying to find a happy resolution. I am now considering becoming a childminder, it will mean I can be at home with my DD and maybe it will put me off the idea of having any more DCs!! Do any of you have any experience of childminders/minding?
What do you do for work Swede? Do you know I hadn't even thought that you were Swedish!! I assumed your name was to do with the vegetable!! Haha, hope that gives you a giggle anyway!! I suppose you must accept that your cycles aren't going to be normal for a while, but hopefully you will catch that post mc fertile period, I know it doesn't happen for everyone, but it does happen for some people. Try not to worry too much about the opks, maybe just stop using them for this month? It will give you one less thing to stress/worry about! What date would you be expecting AF to arrive?
Flight do you use them at the same time everyday? I too struggle with opks, never really got a very strong positive on the ic ones, but when I do get a bit of a line it usually ties in with my fertile period and increased cm. I think I would go with the strongest line you got as an ov indicator, that's what I normally go with, but then I'm not pg yet!!! I bought some from home bargains the other day, which are a bit pricier but I did get a very strong positive on one the other day, they're not smiley ones but they are different to the ic ones. Hope you manage to get your timings right this month anyway!
Hi Zara, welcome. How long did it take you to conceive DS?