About to start / Just started TTC no.2 (part 4)

That's such shocking behaviour rum! Absolute appalling and I expect she will be regretting it big time. I can't even imagine a conversation where she could say those words!! Was it very much said in heated argument? She does sound like a witch!
Metal I'm so sorry u are feeling confused. I reckon it will just be the sonographer getting it wrong. With my sis they had her down as a two weeks ahead of me and now it's down to five days! I agree re booking a private in two weeks.
Mrs - did they tell u it was a boy to is that a feeling? How exciting! I can't wait for mine.
Really feeling the little wriggles now which I like. Makes u feel properly pregnant rather than just chubby!
I'm over work at moment too. Think I'm starting to get tempted to not go back this time. But in reality not sure it would work...

Well even more reason to leave early I think! You want to be enjoying this time and could do without the stress. Just realised I keep calling you Donna sand forgetting!

thanks mrs my dh is saying to leave earlier and so did my physio today as they cant fit me with the support belt as I stand up sit down to much so im stuck wirh a tubigrip! I seem to have one leg longer than the other as one side of my pelvis has slipped
glad you had a good scan I hope metal has a better one at her 12 weeks. xx

Hi ladies, sorry I've not been around for a while. I've mostly been sleeping! Hope everyone is well x

I'm so sorry Donna, how awful. On a serious note, could you take early mat leave (with me)? I know you said you needed the money, as we all do but if it's that bad and they're treating shittily?
Oh forgot to say, no low placenta! After I stressed myself out. My placenta is just posterior so feeling lots of movement which is nice as with my DS I had an anterior one like Hungry.
Can I ask a random question, does or do any of you colour your hair while pregnant? I always did with DS.

thanks everyone. as I left today the wicked witch was hanging about the car park to apologise for upsetting me. th damage is done and ive worked out its about £400 that I thought I would have been entitled to so im nor going to get upset of something that wouldn't even cover my mortgage for a month! she knows shes in the wrong. I personally don't give a flying f@!k avout the money it was the viciousness in the way she said im not worth it. Very very hurtful but in the end shes the one in the wrong and everyone knows it.
perhaps ill take early mat leave you know since in shite at what I do anyway!
metal I hope that you're not too worried about your scan and im sorry it wasnt as enjoyable as you hoped. im sure everything will be fine try not to stress out xxx
mrs how was your scan? xxx

Good evening ladies,
Sorry I've only just managed to come on.
Metal - please don't panic or worry about your scan. In sorry it didn't go how you were hoping it would and that's so disappointing, but I honestly don't think it's anything to worry about. My midwife felt my stomach at 16 weeks and worried me by saying I felt and was measuring two weeks bigger and further on, and yet that was impossible with the dates. At my scans they have said normal size baby and not big and exact for dates. If I were you and you now I'm the worlds biggest worrier I would book a private one in a few weeks if you want to be reassured. Most scans are £80 ish under 20 weeks.
My scan went really well. I loved every minute. We are definitely having a baby boy, he was really moving about and was in the cutest position with his legs up to his tummy. Head shape looked very similar to my DS so two boys for me! Thank you everyone for wishing me luck for the scan and thinking of me.
Donna - I'm disgusted with your work! What a disgrace. I agree with Hungry and think u should get some legal advice.
How is everyone else?

Ah, Metalhead. Seems it was a double edged sword for you.

I think the size differences are so minimal at that stage it's easier to get the dating wrong.

Fx your midwife is also reassuring.

I'm worried that my baby's a whole week ahead! As mad as that may seem. :-/

Swede, that's really exciting. Is it the type of thing you'd be happy doing pregnant / with a baby?

I think your employer was taken by surprise that you queried it so decided to be a twat. But please make sure you take legal advice as I'm not sure how comparable the employment laws are for you.

Better I've been googling since I've been back and there seems to be disagreement about how accurate early scans are at dating. Some sources say it can be out by up to 6 days, which would be a bit more feasible, so I'm a bit less panicky now. I've got my first midwife appointment on Monday so I will have a word with her and see what she says.

metal how frustrating!! How accurate is the dating this early? Could it be possible that theyre wrong and you're actually 7+2? At least you saw a heartbeat so theres definitely a baby. I would go for a private in a few weeks too, you'll go crazy if you wait for the 12 weeks. I would say try to be positive and just believe everything is good until you have tangible proof its not but I know its easier said than done!

donna I cant believe thats what our employer said, theyre totally legally wrong to have not informed you thus given you a chance to 'improve' surely? I thought you got on ok with them? How could they be so underhand and nasty with you, especially when you're pregnant! What are you going to do? At least youre not going back there after the baby comes!

Hi ladies, I've just come back from my scan and I have to say it hasn't really put my mind at ease at all, in fact I'm more worried now than I was before!

We did see a heartbeat, but the sonographer put me at just 6+2, which is frankly impossible as baby would have had to have been conceived 1.5 weeks after we had sex and 2 days before I got my BFP. So now of course I'm thinking there must be something wrong with it and it's not growing properly.

The sonographer was trying to be reassuring but was very non-committal, just saying there are sometimes warning signs that babies aren't growing well but she didn't see any of them. Still, I'm feeling really down at the moment, was expecting to be all excited and a bit more reassured about it all and instead I'm worse off than before. I think I will have to pay for another private scan in maybe 2-3 weeks, don't think I can wait until 10 March for my 12-week one... (If I ever get that far).

mrsm I hope you had a better scan!

That's just incredible be behaviour from your employer morerum! You should definitely seek some advice.

Oh poor you! I agree get some proper advice.
And your DH is right, they are a shower of shites.

What?!

OK, you need to get to the CAB or an employment lawyer.

I'm sorry they're being so crap. :-( hugs

well ladies I dont work hard enough to get my bonus and im unless at what I do do.

Swede - I'm halfway through 2ww ATM too - longest two weeks ever! When will you POAS? My AF is due wed 5th, so I'm waiting till then.

good luck Mrs and Metal! And all the best Donna - am praying and willing you to be strong and not too emotional. easier said than done, I know...

Good luck mrs & metal

And also donna at work!

Will post properly later!

good luck for thr scans today everyone .
ive had a good chat with some of my colleagues who have been very supportive and given me some great advice on how to deal with this situation. on the plus side I have a hospital appointment today so will be leaving early xx

It's so hard, isn't it Swede? Takes over any idle moment your brain has! :-/

Are you waiting the full 2 weeks before POAS?

Good luck today, Mrs and Metalhead! I'm sure everything will be fine. :-)

Hope the headache is better tomorrow mrs so you can enjoy scan fully.

morerume can you focus on the benefits the extra money will bring to your DS and DH? I am not very confrontational either but I find I can be more assertive on behalf of others, especially my DS. So I would be focusing on what the money will bring for him, plus the example I want to set him of how to stick up for himself.

Another thought to avoid the emotions - have everything you want to say planned out, plus their possible responses and how you might respond. As far as possible just stick to a few simple phrases. Try not to get drawn in to other arguments. And yes, look into your legal rights. As its a small company even the mention of courts may be enough to get them to settle since they won't want a long process any more than you do.

Hi Hungry - I think me and Lucy have both said another girl for you! Anyway it's such good news you've had today and I bet you're still ringing with excitement from seeing your baby, I know how long you've waited for this day or how long it's felt. I'm really tired today and have an awful headache tonight so I'm going to try get to sleep. I'll update after my scan tomorrow... Eek! Good night everyone x

Mrs, yes I do feel better, thank you. :-)

I still think boy, but I can't be relied on as a judge of sex as I got DD wrong!

I hope you find a solution to your DS' bed issues soon. It must be exhausting.

Morerum, do you know the amount they should be paying you? You could sue them for it. Is there anything in writing to say they were going to pay it?

Evening all,
Congratulations Hungry! Wonderful news and lovely picture. I'm so pleased for you. Is your mins at rest now? Do you reckon girl or boy? I'm thinking you'll have another girl. Hope mine goes as well tomo and Metal has her scan too.
Hi Lucy and Toothpaste - thank you for your words re work and getting my DS in his own bed. It's really exhausting having him in bed with us because he bear hugs me all night (of course that's lovely) but you can't get comfy or sleep properly. I think he would sleep better in his own room too. I have tried many times, don't think I have never tried to put him in his own room. I tried a few weeks ago too and he went to sleep in his room but work up after about an hour and ran through to our room shouting for mama. Anyway the plan is get a new bed that he chooses and give full attention to trying to master it at end of feb! I know you're all right, it will be hard but hopefully achievable!
Hi Hazy - I think you can relax more at home. How are you doing?
Lucy - don't feel lazy or bad for putting your DD in front of Peppa Pig. My DS loves Ceebeebies all of a sudden and I'm feeling really tired at the moment and if I'm feeling exhausted I let him watch that. He likes Postman Pat and Bob the Builder now.
More rum - I'm sorry about your work dilemma. Are you defo not going back there?