About to start / Just started TTC no.2 (part 4)

And it's also not my decision. My boss will tell me what's what, so it's what they prefer too!

Good luck tomorrow, Metalhead. Xx

Mrs, I'm going back because my paid maternity leave ends. It also coincides with my qualifying weeks to determine my 90% pay.

I only get SMP so don't have to go back but can't afford not to.

I prefer option 3 as I'd get to see DD every day. With option 2 I'd have to leave by 6.20am and wouldn't get back til 6.30pm, on 3 days of the week. It'd kill me. I wouldn't do more than 9 weeks.

If I get option 3, I can leave at 7.30-7.40 and be home by 6 every day. I'd also work about 14 weeks and it'd take me up to 32-33 weeks, then I'd have baby almost as soon as annual leave was finished.

I have to have the secondment as part of the training contract, so it makes sense to do it now.

So that's why option 3 works for me. :-)

Well done on the bed idea for DS. Hopefully it'll help.

And YY to tiredness. I keep sleeping on the sofa then staying awake in bed for ages though. Like now. Sigh.

Morerum - how are you?

Hi Hungry and Hazy and Metal!
Metal - wishing you that best of luck tomorrow for your scan. I'll definitely be popping on to see how you get on. Pleas try not to worry too much,
Hungry and Hazy - I am good thanks, baby is kicking away as I type this out. I'm 23 weeks on Friday! I have just 3 weeks left at work, or 8 and a half days and I am counting down!
Hungry. - your place of work sounds like mine. We have lots of secondments too. I'm a bit confused by your option 3 though. If you have to go back, when will that be and would it still only be for a short time? Are you just having to go back so that you get paid mat leave? I'd be tempted with option one as at least you'd be at home some of the time with your DD and you wouldn't be going in as much.
Hazy - I can sympathise with the chronic tiredness! I have been really tired. It's definitely got better lately but did last longer than the 12 weeks and it is awful feeling that tired. I usually fall asleep with my DS every night.
Oh update with the sleeping situation - you might all remember me talking about trying to get my DS into his own bed after I finish work. We've decided to go for bunk beds that detach into two singles as we thought this might be more fun and appealing for DS and he can eventually share when baby is big enough. We've been looking around and Bensons for beds have a lovely white bunk bed called Alpine if anyone wants to have a look on the website , it's in the sale and looks nice so hoping to maybe order that this coming weekend.

Metal, will be thinking and praying for you at 3 tomorrow. Good luck!

Just a quick hello from me, sorry I haven't been able to read back over everyone's updates.

Tomorrow is D-day for me, got my scan at 3pm to see whether my bean has continued to grow or not... had successfully distracted myself from brooding about it all evening by watching some tense TV, but now I'm in bed and getting very nervous!

Ooh Claudee, does flashing smiley mean something extra? (never did OPKs...) Good timing though, for DTD. Fingers crossed the swimmers catch the egg.

I am roughly 7 weeks, maybe eight. We know conception date but have irregular cycles so won't know for sure til the scan, which is on 14 March. Ages away! felt rough all morning, in desperation at lunch I bought some travel sicknes wrist bands and they, plus lucozade and digestives, seemed to help. DH thinks I am chronically tired now compared to last time - DS still unreliable at sleeping through - so though I don't feel as accutely tired I'm very sicky and headachey. If that makes sense.

Hungry, they probably got scared after the last lot were so shite and decided to pull out big, well-briefed guns. Hope you get option 3.

Hi Mrs, hope you are well!

Hi mrs. Hope you're ok :-)

The three alternatives are:

1. Work from home twice a week;
2. Condense my hours and work 4 long days (don't like that one!); and
3. Go on secondment when I get back to work, instead of working where I normally would, as it's much closer to home.

My preferred option is 3. But I have to wait 2 weeks for the decision.

My boss and head HR honcho were better than the shower I saw last time!

Not long til you finish now, mrs...how many working days left?

Hi everyone, sorry I've been absent for a while! How is everyone? I've got a bit of reading up/ catching up to do so I will do that and then post.
Hungry - How did your meeting go with work ? What suggestions were out forward if guy don't mind me asking? For what it's worth I think all HC/HR departments are pretty rubbish. I know ours aren't great. I hope you get a good result . How long will you have to wait to hear?

claudee, still no sign. It's quite the mystery! had a bit of cramping on and off for a few days now but that's all. Bizarre. I suppose it is only 3 months since I had the Mirena removed, so maybe my cycle is still settling down... though I thought it already had

The gut feeling comment was wrt your job offer swede :)

Great news about the surge swede. Your gyno sounds amazing! With these things I nearly always have a gut feeling, have my mind made up but I have to go through a whole process of rationalizing first.

Guinness any sign of AF? How are you feeling?

Hazy how far along are you again? The headache itself might be a symptom? I seem to remember getting lots of headaches in early preg.
Anyway, thanks for the words of encouragement, I think you're right that our bodies are just different after pregnancy (to state the obvious).
DTD last night and got a flashing smiley this morning -- woohoo! Might just have to do another one this eve to see what the craic is.

Hope everyone is keeping well, it's bitter and snowing on and off where I am...

Great news about the surge swede. Your gyno sounds amazing!

Guinness any sign of AF? How are you feeling?

Hazy how far along are you again? The headache itself might be a symptom? I seem to remember getting lots of headaches in early preg.
Anyway, thanks for the words of encouragement, I think you're right that our bodies are just different after pregnancy (to state the obvious).
DTD last night and got a flashing smiley this morning -- woohoo! Might just have to do another one this eve to see what the craic is.

Hope everyone is keeping well, it's bitter and snowing on and off where I am...

Swede can you try to imagine the worst case scenario if you take it, and worse case if you don't, and then you might be able to see which option has the biggest risk?
Conversely, imagine the best case scenario either way, and assess which one has the best potential for you.

hugs for you Swede, that sounds like it was very scary. Glad things are ok after all, praying that scan will be a-ok and reassuring.

Do you have a gut feeling about the job, or is it a case of having to look at pros and cons unemotionally?

I assume you've done your pros and cons list for the job, Swede?

But I would say that maybe if you're not really keen to do it then maybe it's not the right job at the right time?

What does your DH think?

Oh Swede what a nasty shock, but your gyno sounds lovely and responsive, that's great.
Plus it's great you can think in days,not weeks, till the next positive reassurance.

Still feeling rough here, which is good I suppose...

Good website:

m.huggies.com.au/pregnancy/early-stages/symptoms/hcg-levels/chart/

Bloody hell Swede. Are you OK after the shock of that?

Private healthcare had its ups and downs!

But trebling is good :-) Roll on the scan.

hazy, thanks - still no sign of AF. Just bought a bumper pack of cheapie tests on eBay under the assumption I'll be needing them again next cycle! This one is freakishly long (for me) so can only assume AF is just around the corner. Sorry to hear you're still feeling rough - hope you feel better for a good night's sleep.

So I didn't get a lunchbreak, trying to catch up quickly before bed...

Congrats on BFP Zara, hope it's sticky

Sorry about the BFN, Guiness, any sign of AF? Totally understand what you mean about wanting AF to get going so you can move on. When I was younger and had the odd pregnancy scare I often found POAS made AF arrive the next day so maybe poa cheapie s everyday just in case?

Glad the meeting was productive hungry, fingers crossed they can find a resolution that suits you.

Yay for gingerbread, and fx you catch it. Will you DTD a bit more just in case?

swede I am also a bit worried about lack of symptoms. Definitely tired and bit nauseous in mornings but not as bad as last time whereas I think I should be worse as I have a toddler now as well as the pg tiredness. Keep wanting to POAS to check its still there but I know it's pointless.

claude It might not mean anything that you don't have ov pains anymore, simply that your body has changed post-baby. My periods are much less painful post baby, can only assume that womb etc is more practiced at contractions now.

Sorry for missing others, have pounding headache so off to get ready for bed.

hungry, that sounds positive. Glad there seems to be a bit of movement at last.