About to start / Just started TTC no.2 (part 4)

mrs I think that I will finish early, was hoping to wait till dh was working again which should be within the next month. if I can make it to 28 weeks then I wouldn't need to go iff on the sick. im taking my holiday pay alongside my last 7 weeks of work to try to bump up my smp. xx

Hi All,

Metal - I am truly sorry for your loss, and am almost lost for words to comfort you. You sound tremendously strong and brave. What a heartbreaking thing to happen, I was ot expecting that. There is still a glimmer of hope for when you go to the hopsital this morning (you might be there now). Please let us all know and I am thinking of you. xxxx

Morerum - I'm sorry you're feeling a bit down. Is it the work situation? I think the others are right, could you not go on leave soon? We are due about the same time and I am finishing on 28th Feb but saved up a month's holiday so mat leave doesn't start til April which is only two months before i'm due. Do you have any holiday you coulde use beforehand and leave soon?

Hi Kt - How are you doing? Can't believe you are ten weeks. I saw the midwife and it was about two weeks until i got my 12 week scan appointment through, BUT you can ring the hospital and ask to be put through to admin and ask if there is a date yet for your 12 week scan and they will tell you if one has been allocated yet. I did this when pregnant with my DS and they managed to tell me the date over the phone but it hadn't been posted out yet. You should be getting it soon if you're already ten weeks. You must be excited!

Better - How are you?

Hungry - Are you still waiting to hear from work?

We did exactly the same swede with having a mc before and also having bleeding throughout this time. No apps, no baby list nothing. Extreme Self preservation but sadly necessary.

Even at almost 17 weeks with this unresolved bleeding were still not going ott. Im sure baby is viable still but not convinced all is well with it terms of conditions its more susceptible to due to me being high risk etc.

Hope your appt is ok this morning metal thinking of you.

very exciting re new job swede and as for showing! apparently it's impossible to show before your 11th/12th week as that's when your uterus moves up above your pubic bone. Anything before that is just bloating, disappointing I know!! Good that your scan isn't too far away.

How's everyone today?

Oh metal

I'm so sorry to hear that. I really hope you've got goody people round you. Take care x x x

metal im so sorry big hugs i hope youve got someone to take care of you xx
ive got 9 weeks left and work 2&1/2 days a week will just need to see how it goes.

oh Metal, I'm so sorry. no words really. hugs, and

Oh metal I'm so sorry, I hope you have time to rest tonight and over the next few weeks as you process and recover (hug). Will be thinking of you tomorrow.

Better it is awful they are just ignoring you if they said to begin with you are high risk, I hope you have some success in getting more support.

Morerum, how much longer do you have at work again? 8 days? Or was that mrs. I'd definitely consider getting signed off, and using hte days to rest since your dc will presumably be somewhere else? But yes I guess the SP before you go onto Mat pay wouldn't be great. Maybe you could reduce your shifts/hours?

So sorry to hear your news metal ((((hugs))))

morerum if you're finding work too much I'd ask them to sign you off. Must be awful in all that pain :(

Oh metal that's awful news, I hope youre as ok as you can be. The time to prep yourself will have helped but still doesn't detract from whats happened. Thinking of you and your family x

I know hungry and ignoring it for so long, its been 5 weeks now. They just keep saying as long as its not fresh red blood and not accompanied by pain or illness then they aren't worried but noone has actually done any tests? Not a water sample, blood tests, internal swabs, nothing!
I'm trying to push it to the back of my mind but still concerned it may be a sign somethings wrong, especially as I should have been consultant led as I'm apparently such high risk and I havent been.

Yeah, I still think its a boy, im sure of it. Still no conclusion re the gender. I did offer a deal that I chose my favourite name if its a girl (as my husband doesn't really like the name) and we can find out. But he didnt go for it! Spoil sport!

Ah, Metal, I'm so so sorry. Take care and look after yourself. xx

Better, you definitely need looking at. If you were 20 weeks you'd have to go in for monitoring with a bleed, so igniting you now is odd. :-/

Do you still think boy? What did you decide to do re finding out the sex?

Morerum, maybe you should go and get signed off. It might be better all round. Though do you get sick pay?

Hi all, it's not good news here I'm afraid. There was no heartbeat and CRL was smaller than last time, so it looks like a missed mc. Got an appt at the hospital tomorrow morning to confirm and discuss options.

I'm obviously gutted, but I think because I've had two weeks to prepare for the worst it's not come as such a big shock, and I'm kind of feeling ok (at the moment at least).

Thanks for all your support ladies, it means a lot! xx

better ive got a belt support to wear when im not working and the next step is crutches .
im 23&3 days so still got a long road ahead of me. i was secretly hoping theyd sign me off but I think it needs to be a gp that does that.
How are feeling whens your scan? Xx

Hope metal has got on well

hungry same here! still no symptoms really. I don't even have the bump I had last time, in fact I think I've lost weight somehow! That said, quite often now I get a bit of a cramp pain then you can see a baby shaped bulge stick out and wriggle about for abit before going back in! Still bleeding every morning. Gonna really pressure the midwife about it on Friday, I think it's disgraceful that no one has looked into it.

Gosh kt 10 weeks already, why not give them a ring about the scan appt? Wow, showing already, maybe you're further sling than the mw thinks!

Hi morerum how did physio go? How far along are you now?? I hate down feeling days. I had one of those yesterday but that was down to my horrid mil rather than hormones!

hello everyone hope all my bump buddies are doing well and more of you lot will be joining us soon!
im feeling really down today dont know why think I need a hug. or a kick up the ass.
metal I hope everything goes well at your scan - im sure it will. waiting for my physio apt I have turned up 30 mins early! doh!

Hi better I'm good thanks I am about 10 weeks, that's hat MW is saying for the moment anyway! How far are you now? Oh it's frustrating how its done differently hungry! I'm already starting to show a bit so can't really hide it for too much longer! Fingers crossed you get option 3!!

Kt, our midwife and scan appts come together, which doesn't help, does it?!

Better, I still have a touch of nausea, mainly when I'm hungry, but it's not so bad. Just mainly feeling not pregnant! How about you?

Kt, they have 14 days from the date of the meeting to come back to me. Really hope it's 3...though the person who's meant to be going on secondment on 10th may not be impressed! :-)

What time is your scan, Metalhead?

Hi kt how are you? I had my booking in at 5 weeks got my scan date at about 9 weeks, so 4 weeks in between. How far along are you now?

Morning all, good luck for today metal! Let us know how you get on. Hey mrs was gonna post a msg last night to say hadnt heard from you for a while, good luck with the bed situation, hope it helps! Can't believe you've not got long left at work!
Glad your meeting went well hungry I hope you get the option you want! Sorry if you've already said, but when do you find out?

Just wondered, it probably won't be the same in different areas, but how long you waited for your scan dates to come through for 12 weeks since seeing the MW? I'm getting impatient!! Would just like a date to look forward to and can countdown too!!

Morning everyone.

Sounds like your meeting went well hungry, has your nausea passed now? I hope you get option 3!

Oh metal thinking of you today! Wishing you much luck.

Your scan is the day after mine hazy!

What did you decide to do re the job swede?