New year, new thread, fresh start and a brand spanking new injection of a hot new batch of posifrickenity! This is the year where our wombs will be comfy and our babies plentiful! TTC after MC.

People and their oddities intrigue me!! What on earth would make someone even think about putting toothpaste on their bum hole!!

OMG english that thread has given me a stitch from laughing! I cannot believe people went off and TRIED it! Hahahaha!
My toothpaste is not going anywhere south of my chin ('cept when I drool it while yelling at DH to make sure the cats are shut away for the night)

Bum paste! Clit Bang! Haha! Oh I am going to have weird dreams tonight!

Bum toothpaste! Unbelievable. Thanks English!

I've decided this time I'll not tell people until I know whether it's another ep, then I'll tell close people either way. I'm quite open about it. I'll tell my bf immediately, but other people-I don't want them worrying, tbh. It'll be worrying enough for us.

Thanks for that EnglishGirl too funny!

I've decided that this time round it'll just be dh and I that know until I have first scan, which for me here in amsterdam is 10 weeks.
It was too heartbreaking having to say about the mc. It's possibly easier for me being in a different country to them.
Although when it happens i know i'll prob want to tell everyone!

That's ok deus it's a personal thing but I would tell my best friends about my miscarriage so I tell them in early preg too, I wouldn't lie and say I'm not pregnant as I would want them to be there for me too if I miscarried (if that makes sense). These are good friends I'm talking about too, and it was the pretending they were in the same situation as me that made me feel patronised to be honest! But I also understand why she did it, just wish she hadn't!

Snigger. Only read first page but clag chat and toothpaste make me laugh...! Tee hee, penis beaker made me cry with laughter so I'm going to read some more of this one later too...

I do agree that others telling you just to relax etc is awful as well as all the Facebook stuff.

Hope I don't get shot down in flames for this, but if a friend asked me if I was pregnant I would try to deflect it or deny it if I was still under 12 weeks. Even though it would feel deceitful. I know it's hard to feel as though someone has lied to you but I wouldn't want to tell anyone until after 12 weeks and would just hope no-one would ask. In fact when I was pregnant I missed a couple of social events in case people asked because I didn't want to have to lie

Ladies,
I Think we all need a little cheering up! And this has definitely done that for me! Crying with laughter as apposed to sadness!!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/1968244-Are-you-ALWAYS-sex-ready?pg=13&order=

On another note... a friend of mine who knows im ttc... she was also but alas she's pregnant, proceeded to tell me the horrific 'just relax' today. And .... 'have you tried laying with your legs in the air?' !! Of course I fucking have!! I spend all my spare time on mumsnet so know all the apparent tricks of the trade!! Also wanted to scream...'ive been fucking pregnant too'! But didnt. She doesn't know about mc. She meant it all in the nicest possible way... but still

Right. I've had a word with myself and am making a conscious decision to chill the heck out. Might be a good thing not to get pg my first proper cycle after mc but if it happens, it happens. And if it doesn't that's ok too. Me worrying about it isn't going to make it happen any faster.

Might be a good time to resurrect my gratitude diary - just noting down three things I am grateful for each day. Helps me to keep a bit of perspective.

I thought it was over it missh until this child was born!! Just shows I'm clearly not! I just felt she lied to me, that's what hurt more than her actually being pregnant and not me!

Oh I know... penguin. Yes it is hard but people need to understand we would give a arm (was going to say both arms but you would need at least one really to hold a baby) to be in their shoes. Fuck off I actually say to my phone!!

Sorry to hear I'm not the only one in the glum club today! Bloody hormones, why do they do this to us!?

Anyone POAS tomorrow? I think we've had one BFP a week since the new year haven't we? (Ok, it's only two weeks but still!) Let's keep it going!

FedUp - That's exactly what happened to me! We were 'in it together' while she was actually upduffed with no problems within 3 months, then didn't tell me until the day before her first scan while for the previous 3 months we'd seen each other a lot, and I'd even straight out asked her at one point. Felt really fucked off! Over it now though

Fedup there's only one thing I find harder than the rubbing it in your face stuff and that's when people post incessant complaints about having a baby/children. I totally get there are days that it's hard and everyone has a bit of a moan now and then but it's really hard to bite my tongue when it's ALL THE TIME. One in particular, wife of H's friend has 2 children, perfectly timed of course, and you'd think she was the first person ever to have a second child and that she was forced into having a second baby the amount she moans about it!

Two months! I'm not surprised you wanted to punch her fedup. Yes, my DH doesn't get why I can't just turn it off either. He think I'm not trying hard enough or something. Yesterday I remembered the days when I wasn't thinking about it all the time - I wonder what I thought about then?! So much free time...but I know I worried about other things. Not such crap things of course, but I'm trying to teach myself not to worry more generally now. Going to the guided self-help NHS CBT sessions to try and change, and determined to get in to the habit of doing mindfulness sessions every day. I want to focus on work again, and on my marriage. All this TTC is taking the fun out of life.

Ugh. And the FB update is 'we now have 3 gorgeous girls and are thrilled to bits' talk about rub it in faces of people like me.....

Sal you are hereby ordered to POAS on Monday!

I'm having a hard day today also, so I'm breaking my dry Jan tonight as its my birthday tomorrow. The logic works for me anyway...

That's also as annoying as 'just relax' penguin and have to admit my husband said the same to me and just wanted to punch him.
Another birth today, sounds terrible but as I read the text I actually sighed, rather than be happy and woooop. That's terrible isn't it?! I think it might be more because this is this persons third and she pretended to be on the ttc hell journey with me but it actually only took her 2 months ttc with this one instead of 1 month with her other two. Plus I was cross as when she came over once, she was actually pregnant but pretended she wasn't and I felt so stupid talking to her about my ttc woes and opening up to her which she claimed to identify with / be in same situ when she was secretly updiffed!! Pah! Ok, now I have ranted that one out it kinda explains the 'whatever, sigh' response that birth got.

There must be something in the air as I'm miserable today as well parsley, miss and fedup. I find myself longing for the days when I happened to notice when I ovd without scrutinising every symptom and I tested because 'oh hey look it's about 2 weeks since I ovd, maybe that's why my boobs hurt and AF hasn't appeared'. To top it off I said to h 'I wish could go back to not thinking about it' and he replied 'you can' Um yeah. Thanks for those pearls of wisdom. Ugh posifrickentivity shall resume tomorrow.

Also. POAS on Mon for def Sal!! Fingers crossed!

hello ladies,

sorry i have been quiet...been away and have nothing really to say lol!

lots been going on and welcome to the newbies, hard place to be but you are well supported here.

im 8dpo and very much with you Sal on the no poas...i find it crushing and prefer AF which is weird but true for me - don't have any tests in the house so should be fine! got a +opk again this month so am quite sure af date on 14dpo. no symptoms what so ever for anything so who knows,

hope you get some good news sal and parsley also for those with the mood swings mine have taken three months to return to normal post mmc,

xx

fedup - I'm also feeling hormonal, touch of rage and irritability! But no ovulation, AF not due for over a week! (if it's coming)

Miss Hobart, you're missing out!!

Eww! Never have and never will eat baked beans!