About to start / Just started TTC no.2 (part 3)

Haha, thanks hungry!

I've got my fingers firmly crossed for you Lucy, and 79% are pretty good odds! You're right about symptom spotting, first you do it for ttc and then during pregnancy, it's mad!

I'm back to work on Monday and have already started thinking about when the earliest date for starting maternity leave would be...

The problem is, when I go back it's my qualifying weeks for pay, so I'll miss out on increasing my mat pay if I take parental leave. It's a bit of a pain really!

I'm sure I can cope with 6 weeks. Fingers crossed.

I'm hoping to piss them off soon so they decide to pay me off. If they haven't responded by Monday regarding the meeting I'm going to raise a grievance. That'll annoy!

79% is good odds. Fingers crossed. :-)

And I agree, you're right about thinking too much about what our bodies are doing. I need to stop doing it!

It's daft, isn't it? I'm back to feeling yucky now. Not sick, just urgh.

I had a speck or two of blood about where you are now last time, Metalhead. I put it down to, ummmm, TMI, a vigorous poo!! It didn't happen again anyway.

It feels wrong by saying hopefully it is thrush, so hopefully it's nothing to worry about. Sounds better, doesn't it?!

There's a very useful website here for those looking to find out probability of getting pregnant per cycle:

www.countdowntopregnancy.com/tools/age_fertility_calculator.php

I had a heart-stopping moment early when I had a few tiny specks of pink after going for a wee and wiping, but I think it might be because I have thrush. I'm hoping that's it, anyway... I've got an appointment with my GP on Wed so hoping I won't have any more spotting until then, if I do I guess I'll have to ring the midwife centre and see if they can help.

Hungry I know how you feel worrying about symptoms decreasing, I haven't even got many yet and still I'm thinking "I'm sure my boobs hurt more yesterday"! If it's any consolation, my friend who's 5 months pregnant now was really worried as she only had a few weeks of sickness and then suddenly nothing, but all was absolutely fine.

I had smoked salmon on Christmas Day! You don't have to avoid it. :-) I'm not a fan of soft cheese either, so that didn't bother me.

I'll have to get part time work, mrs, but I'm hoping for it to be at weekends mostly so we don't need to pay for child care.

And yes, near ish to Manchester. The train is about 80 minutes...it's apparently the oldest trains in the country in daily service on the Southport - Manchester line!

The sickness hasn't really shown its face since lunch yesterday. Starting to worry because my symptoms aren't as bad. :-( I'm also aching on the right a bit, so might ring the EPU on Monday for advice.

Toothpaste, are you finding the sex out at your next scan? Is your sister going to find out? How's she feeling now?

Interesting what you had to do with work, mrs, in relation to your part time request. Mine is to work from home 2 days a week. But they were negative from the word go, so I know what their answer will be.

Sorry posted too soon!
Hello and welcome to Flight! I hope you get your BFP soon.
Hi Monster - yes my sister is not very nice but she has done all of this herself. Cramping may be a good sign? Can that be a sign of ovulation? I'm not sure but Hungry is our expert.
Hi Lucy - your cool kids club sounds good. I did miss smoked salmon on Xmas day and Brie with crackers and prawns.
What's everyone up to this weekend? Looks wet and dull here at the minute. Still full of cold and awful sore throat for me but plodding on.

Hi all,
Toothpaste - Are you 16 weeks already? I'm 17 weeks and one day. I know exactly what you mean, when you can't feel the baby move yet and not many other symptoms it's easy to forget you're pregnant and so reassuring to see/hear the heartbeat. I think I'm going to have to have a word with myself as I'm becoming scan addicted or obsessed. It was amazing to see our baby moving and the heartbeat last Monday but now I'm itching to go for my 20 week scan and it feels so long to wait until the 28th jan! It's too expensive to keep going for scan after scan though really.
Toothpaste are you thinking another boy too? Ours will be two and a half year gap so also nice. Just think, I'll have a 16 and 18 year old boys! I think we'll be stopping at two DC.
Hungry - how's the sickness?Are you planning to stay at home after your next baby? If so we can be stay at home mummy buddies and must get together with our babies. I wonder how far we are from each other. Are you near Manchester?

Thanks Lucy! Yes I am really hoping for some extra fertility now. Got to get something good out of this me thinks Now I am visiting DD's god parents on their farm, it's good for the soul.
Toothpaste, I am feeling much better for sure. Not feeling so sorry for myself today which is a clear improvement.

Sorry about the bfn kt. It may be too early. When is period due?
Swede how are u feeling?
Mrs - your sister really is out of line. Hold your head high and be the bigger person. Another ds is exciting. I'm convinced I'm having the same. As ours will be 21 months apart in some ways two boys would be better so they can play. Though I might have to go for no three...ahh!!
My 16 week midwife appt in 10 days. Desperate to hear the heart beat. I get so anxious pre the feel it move stage. Telling work next week which I am not looking forward to!!
Welcome newbies! Goodluck! Who will be our first 2014 bfp?!

Well, am definately not stressing, trying to have plenty of sex at roughly relevant times of month. Not used opk before - last time cycle was straight in to regular 29 days so easy to roughly predict ovulation. This time seems a bit odd - shortish cycle and less predictable start to periods so should probably give it a go - what do I need/do/recommendations please?!

The probability increases every month as most couples with normal fertility will be pregnant after a year. As to the figures, I don't know! :-)

mrs, sorry to hear about your sister. It sounds like such an awful situation to be in. Exciting to hear about your gender scan though.

I'm very bloated this evening, but not sure if it is just a delayed effect from all the rich food at Christmas. Had some cramping but not wanting to get too over-excited after last month. Seems like an eternity before I can test!

Fingers crossed for you too Kt.

Glad to hear that things are settling down for you Swede. Hope you are able to start TTC again soon.

Hi all, hope you don't mind a new joiner. We're TTC DC2 and would be good to chat as haven't told anyone IRL. DS is nearly 4 so a bigger gap than some - worked for us money and space wise.

Found it really easy to get pg with DS as only took 3 months and didn't have any expectations. On month 5 this time and feeling less positive for some reason so would be good to pick your brains on what Ishould do to get the best possible chance. Sounds like a few of you have been successful so far!

I'm thinking girl too...only another 30 or so weeks til we find out! :-)

And yes, definitely text!

And I missed the part of the message about your BFN too, Kt. If you did OV on Boxing Day it's too early yet. Keeping fingers crossed.

Thanks Kt and Lucy for your kind and sensible words, it is very sad and most of all sad because my DS probably won't get to see his cousins now. Who knows what will happen but certainly what she's done at my little boy's second birthday is something I feel is just over the line. I do think she is jealous.
Kt - I'm sorry I missed that about your BFN and I'm very sorry but you and Lucy WILL both get your BFP 's soon and well before us pregnant ones are ready to pop. Don't you worry because it has to happen for all of us, it's just that with nature we can never tell how long these things will take. I have everything crossed for you both and hope you are both next!
Lucy - yes you were right all along about another boy! Did your DD have a lovely Xmas then and obviously loved her presents? We did still have a really good party, she wasn't missed but most important of all is that my DS had a good time. I have two very close cousins, one has two boys and the other has two boys and a girl and they all came lid my cousins and their husbands, my auntie and uncle, my mum and dad and my DH's mum and dad.
Hungry - can I just say that I am with Lucy and think you are defo having another DD! And your scan is the 27th and mine is 28th. We will text.

Hey Lucy, I am also in the 'not up the duff' club Feeling better and better. Body seems to be on the mend so fx we can start dtd soon!

Sorry to hear about what happened mrs she sounds evil! can’t believe your own family member would treat you like that! glad the party went well other than that though! She is obviously jealous.
Happy new year to you too better! wow 10 weeks already, everyones pregnancies seem to be wizzing by! You would of all had them by the time I get pregnant at this rate!

Hi Hungry - I had a similar problem with my work after having DS. I wanted to go back part time after my 12 months maternity leave but they said full time or nothing and had various silly meetings at work and then had to appeal. The answer was still no so I asked for a six month career break. After that time they rang me and said I could go back part time. I think sometimes you have to really push for what you want with employers. I hope you don't have to go back for 6 weeks, how silly!
Donna - yes my big sister is a complete cow and no I don't have any choice. My mum wasn't happy about what she did but is keeping out of it all. I hope your DH finds something more permanent soon. Good that he has a few jobs to be getting on with.

mrs your sis sounds like a complete cow! you know that old saying you can pick ypu friends! dont let her upset you anymore xx
dh has beem to the jobcentre today and left feeling violated he hates it and its starting to really get tp to him. on the plus sode hes has 3 fences to repair/replace with all these storms so fingers crossed he can start on his own soon.
my head cold seems to have fizzled out to nothing thankfully but I did take some paracetamol yesterday hope everyone else is ok xx

Happy new year all. Hope you are well.

I told myself I wouldn't think about trying to conceive too much, but I'm so excited. First cycle since I had my coil out. I'm around half way between periods so enjoying lots and lots of sex. Thankfully DD (15 months) is sleeping quite well at the moment! We get her to bed, and then have made it a habit of having a shag before dinner.. . I feel very loved up. I don't like the idea of working out when I ovulate or anything I think it would stress me out. So DP has promised me sex every day :)

Would be awesome if I conceived first cycle. It took 4 months last time, but that was coming off the pill. If I don't then we have a spa day booked for February to look forward to instead!

Mrs, I'm waiting for the outcome of the meeting from work at the moment. They seemed to think they have 28 days when it's meant to be 14, so we shall see what happens there.

It's going to be a no, I know that, so then I'll have to appeal and have another meeting. How exciting.

But I suppose for 6 weeks I'll cope.

Better, my belly is massive. Not helped by my destroyed abs which hadn't healed before getting pregnant again!

And I'm kind of coping with the sickness. And yes, it's hard with DD. I feel better if I'm actually sick, to be honest. If I'm not sick I feel utterly hideous all day.

When's your scan, Better? Mine is 27th Jan. I'll be 11+4 then, in theory.

Mrs, I'm so sorry about your sister. It sounds like you've no choice in what you do. :-( But you're not the one who looks bad. Has your mum said anything?