About to start / Just started TTC no.2 (part 3)

Hi and Happy New Year to you all.

Congratulations on your BFP Metal, that's wonderful news.

Mrs, congratulations on having another boy, very exciting, I love your impatience! Sorry about your sister, it sounds like a horrible situation but you seem to be dealing with it in the best way you can and being the bigger person.

I thought I'd pop in to let you all know I had my 20 week scan today and all looks to be normal and progressing well. I can't believe I'm 20 weeks already. We didn't find out whether we're having a boy or girl. Happy with either and enjoy the element of surprise!

I hope everyone is well and working on those BFPs. I've got a good feeling about January.

Morning all, how is everyone today? I'm back at work and already secretly counting the weeks until my potential ML starts (though at the moment 29 weeks still seems very long, so maybe I should stop this!). My boobs are much more painful today and I'm definitely feeling queasy, so that must be a good sign.

Lucy I would work out your fertile periods using your shortest and longest cycle and then dtd as much as possible between those dates. And my DD is the same, as soon as she sees her old baby toys she wants to play with them! But we've decided we need to be a bit more ruthless and just put stuff out of sight, so DH and I will pop into town in our lunch break to buy some more storage boxes and put some things up in the loft tonight.

Any news from work Hungry?

Every day is a killer. And thankfully unnecessary! :-)

The one month we tried it, it was a nightmare and we both struggled to do it that much. Gone is the multiple times of day era!

I can join the stay at home mummy buddy club! I left work when I was 7months pregnant last time and not going back until all baby phases are over!

Hopefully good news from work tomorrow hungry

lucy I found everyday too much too, we tried eod the first cycle but that even felt abit forced. The cycle I fell pregnant we dtd 3 days before ov & 4 days after (or at least roughly when I thought of was due) which was the least by far of the other cycles and that was the month we fell. Although mrs tactic must give you a better chance!! Heroic though!!

Hi and welcome purple!

Glad you don't have to move house Hungry, that wouldn't have been much fun with 2 babies. And I hope your work people get back to you tomorrow.

We also need to have a good sort out especially now after Christmas - the house is looking more and more like a toy shop! (Mainly thanks to Mil and Pil who seem to have a penchant for buying massive presents for DD...)

lucy I definitely get where you're coming from with the whole sex thing getting a bit much at times! We haven't dtd since that fateful night over two weeks ago, and I'm in no rush to get back into the swing of things... but as you can see from me, once can be enough, so try not to get too hung up about dtd every day or every other day. If you're using OPKs just make sure you do it regularly around peak time and a few days after.

I'm 34 so not urgent but not loads of time either.

Don't get me started on the outside store ut seems to magically fill with junk ni matter how often we clear it.

Today has been p melt down day for ds - he must know what we are planning!

Good luck with work hungry

Hi Hungry - that's great that you can stay in your house. And good on you for having the sort out. We need to make a bit more room too.

Bit early for nesting...maybe it's delayed from DD as I didn't do it then!

And weren't you thinking of doing SMEP? That's EOD from CD8, then the 3 days from smiley, leave it a day, then the next day DTD a final time.

That's what we were trying to do. Went a bit wrong, but still worked! :-)

Work are meant to come back to me tomorrow. Bet they don't though.

I've told DH we have to be ruthless. And moving rooms round will give us more room too by using the space more wisely.

We are lucky that we gave an outhouse which is not damp that we can use for storage.

My DD is 6 months old, purple. I got pregnant when she was 4.5 months old. How old are you? We've gone again quickly because of my age - 37 - not DH's.

Hi ds is 4 months - oh is mid 40's so we decided not to wait long.

Hungry - do you fancy giving mr some tips our house is. chocka

Hi Purple!

And no, mrs, my job is definitely full time only, end of. Which is why I've asked to work from home two days a week.

I'll definitely be a nuisance, don't worry about that. :-) They'll be sick of me very soon. :-)

Sounds like a productive day for you. I've just ordered a new wardrobe for our room and we are going to move it around to make more space. We are going to have a good clear out too as the house is rammed at the moment and hard to keep tidy. Drives me to distraction.

Our house has been bought by a buy to let investor, so we don't have to move. We do have to make it more able to take baby 2 though. So that's our aim now. If it's twins - I really hope not!! - then we will have to move!

Hello ladies, how is everyone? Had a busy morning cleaning the house, took our Xmas tree down and DH took it to the tip with a load of cardboard boxes from Xmas. Just giving DS a bottle and hoping to take him to the park soon, then going to come home and make a Sunday dinner. How's the weekend going for everyone?
Hungry and Metal - Please don't be worrying about anything. I know I'm bad but I think I'm slowly getting better and learning to relax a bit more. I don't think a tiny but of pink spotting will be anything to worry about Metal unless you are rhesus negative blood type like me so I would have to go to hospital for anti D injection.
Hungry - apart from my growing bump, I have no other pregnancy symptoms. Oh and tiredness and need to wee more often but that's it . Re work, I'd try become a bit of a nuisance and they may well pay you off. I think my place of work eventually gave me part time to shut me up as I was talking about a woman's rights to return to work etc. my problem is that I don't think I will manage working 3 full days with two children and I don't think my mum will want to look after two for me. My mum and dad love DS and have h two days a week for me and my DH has him one day a week while I'm working but I think my mum and dad are looking forward to the break at end of feb. It will be hard saying bye to two wages but DH is planning to do more hours and we will just do our best, plus child tax credits maybe more and child benefit. Don't think we get much at the moment with two wages. Would your work not agree to part time Hungry, maybe 3 days like me but working two from home if you pushed for it?
Lucy - I'm so sorry you feel it's difficult to relax about TTC and I wish you had got the dates you wanted. I really mean it when I say that I never expected to fall pregnant as quickly as I did and I expected to wait months for periods to return first like it did when I was TTC with my DS. It will happen for you soon, I know it, and then we will be stay at home mummy buddies! Fingers and toes crossed for you. Are you DTD every day? I don't know if this helps but we DTD a lot in the mornings but tried to DTD every day and not every other day. I know time is an issue and more difficult with one baby/ toddler but we just had quick sex for those reasons.
Welcome to Purple! It is different every time when TTC so don't assumed it will take ages this time. I was. 7 months first time and two weeks this second time. How old is your DC?

Can I join you? Just decided to ttc for number 2 - number 1 took over a year so I could be here a while.

It's weird, I'm impatient in every other aspect of my life, but I love the surprise of finding out at the end!

The way I see it is like finding out what you're getting for Christmas beforehand. I'd be momentarily excited to know, then gutted that I'd ruined the surprise for myself!

I can understand the desire to know though. :-)

Oh I'll definitely be finding out, I'm far too impatient to wait 9 months!

That's what I'm basing it on, Metal!

With DD we DTD the 3 days before the smiley and the day of. This time it was 3 days before, 1 day before and the day after, so it wouldn't surprise me if you're all right about it being a girl as we've really gone with the same pattern.

Time will tell. :-)

Will you find out the sex, or wait til the end, Metal?

Well, if the thing about male sperm being quicker swimmers is correct you might well be right Hungry, seeing as we only managed to dtd once on the day of ovulation! I think according to dates last time DD was conceived quite a few days after our last shag.

Sorry you're feeling crap today, but at least it's a good sign.

I'm going to call boy for you, Metal, I think. :-)

I'm feeling crap today. Yay! And I'm so thirsty overnight. I'm sure it wasn't this bad last time. Maybe I need to drink more during the day?

I think I'm only 4.5 weeks Better, but I haven't had any more spotting since yesterday, thanks for asking!

Oh and Lucy, I meant to say if you're not doing it already you might want to try putting a pillow under your bum for half an hour after dtd this cycle. I know there's no scientific proof it helps, but I did it when I conceived DD and also did it the one time we managed to dtd after my last +opk, do for me it definitely seems to do the trick!

How many weeks are you now metal? Has the spotting continued? I only ask as I had some around 6 weeks and it went as soon as it started with no futher issues.

Wil reply to everything else tomorrow! !

My nephew's birthday is 10th...good date! :-)

Or maybe you can share a birthday!

Based on my +opk, my due date should be 10/11 September - just a few days after my 35th birthday!

What's your due date, Metalhead, based on OV? I'm basing conception as the day after my positive OPK as I didn't have a proper period and therefore LMP to use!