About to start / Just started TTC no.2 (part 3)

Oh, we decided on 14th August today as I told the midwife about my WTF cycle. She said the scan will sort it out anyway!

Better, we get 16, 24, 28, 31, 34, 36, 38 and 40 (not that I'll need the last one!).

An ELCS is 39 weeks which is the new Royal College guidelines as ELCS babies need steroids before that date and they prefer to avoid them.

DD was quiet and played today. The midwife commented on how good she was! She'd shouted at me the whole way there, so it was an act! :-)

I feel the same about this pregnancy and think I'll get bad news at the scan. DH thinks I'm mad, but I'd prefer him to be prepared if it is bad news. I'm probably just mental! :-/

Windy, I hate thinking about the birth really, but if need to move on from it. And it could've been far worse. We're both fine and well, so I need to stop letting it upset me. We get to go home the day after the section too if all is well, which is great.

I hope you get a better birth this time too. :-)

Oh Hungry last time sounds blummin awful, I'm glad you get an ELCS this time. I wish I was, but I'll have to settle with hoping this time will be better. Tbf, my last time doesn't sound as bad in comparison!

Glad you had a nice mw too, it makes such a difference.

Mrs, stop beating yourself up about being off work, that's an order! Rest, relax, stop feeling bad xx

Pleased you appt went well hungry and very helpful for you to have heard about your first birth! understandably upsetting but at least you know. And great news about you getting an elcs if that's what you want. Will it be booked in at 38weeks? Wow, I can't believe you get the same number of appts! I think I only get a few this time 16 weeks, 24 weeks, 32weeks, then 38 weeks. But it's probably for the best as dd HATES going to them. I barely heard a word the midwife said last time over her incessant screaming! My scan is the 21st, so not long before you. When's you due date again?

mrs you probably are over worrying but I can't say anything as I used to be exactly the same! I think its one thing to push yourself to go in normally if you're unwell but when your pregnant you have to be a lot more careful, you've done the right thing staying off. I'm quite good mrs, to be honest, it's been a dream pregnancy so far, only fatigue as a symptom (and weeing a lot!) but even that's easing off now. But if almost rather be really sick like last time, which sounds ridiculous as it's be so hard with dd to look after, but at the back of my mind I just can't shake the feeling that there's something wrong! I would still be more surprised to hear good news at the scan than bad. I don't know why, I just can't settle and let myself believe it's really happening yet. But I'm just trying to push those thoughts away and not get too worked up either way until the scan. What will be will be! I think once the scans over, if everything is ok, I'll feel much much better.

How's everyone else today? This week has flown over! Almost the weekend!

Appointment done. Midwife was lovely. :-)

She told me a bit more about DD's birth and I had a little cry. She was mortified she'd set me off! But I'd wanted to know, anyway. Poor DD was well and truly wedged and took a lot of effort for them to get her out of me. :-(

An ELCS will be fine. No problems with it at all, thankfully. Told her I'd no desire to do the same thing again with this baby!

Oh, I get as many appointments with the midwife this time too. I know some places they see you less after your first, but not here, which is nice.

We're sorting our bedroom and building a wardrobe today. The joy! Needs must though.

Hungry - good luck for 1pm, I hope you see someone nice. Your scan is 27th and mine is the 28th!
Thanks Better - I think I am on the mend but not fully out of the woods. This virus has made me very tired too. I do feel bad being off as you wonder if people say things at work but because I work weds, thurs and fri it looks like I've been off a week but really it's two days I've been off so far. If I had just had a cold I would have gone to work but I started to feel really bad Monday night and worse tues and doctor confirmed it was a viral infection it has taken it out of me. I always feel bad if I'm off work. Am I over-worrying?
How are you feeling Better?

It's at 1, mrs. It won't be 'my' midwife I see though as I'm just going to a clinic at a children's centre, not to the clinic at my surgery. I'm sure I'll have met her before though as I met loads with DD thanks to not getting a regular midwife at my surgery until about 24 or so weeks!

I've been sick again today which is reassuring. :-) If grim.

Mrs, I think you're right to stay at home. You can get far more susceptible to bugs so you need to look after yourself.

Better, when is your scan? I think it must be close to mine on 27th after you rearranged it.

Just a quick one until tonight

Hope all goes well today hungry

Pleased you got positive news at you appt swede

Good that youre feeling better mrs thibk you're right to stay off until your 100% though.

Oh donna how awful. Theres not really much I can say to help I suppose. Horrible for your sister of course but awful for you too, though I'm sure you feel guilty even thinking about yourself at the moment. Hope youre ok x

Hi everyone, I hope everyone is ok. I think I may be starting to feel a tiny but better but still not 100 percent at all so I'm off work again today and I think I will probably go back next week to make sure in fully better. I'm sure they will love me at work but I don't want to go back when I'm nearly out is the woods and make anything flare up or pick up anything else. I work in such a big office that there is always so much going around. I'm meant to be going on mat leave at end if feb, so as long as I can go back next week and try get through til then with no more sick days I should be fine.
Donna - I hope you and your sister and family are all ok. I can imagine it must be hard for you but I'm sure she is still very happy for you and it won't change a thing. All you can do is be supportive and there for her. Life can be very unfair sometimes.
Hungry - when is your booking in appointment today? Good luck and hope it goes well and you get a nice midwife.
Swede - very pleased for you.
Kt - glad you've done a digi test, I had to do one too. How are you feeling?

I totally agree with everyone here. I have not really wanted to talk about it ( apart from with DH). However sometimes it just gets a bit much and I need a shoulder to cry on. I appreciate that the people who knew about my pg/mc seems to understand that I need to be left alone at the same time as sometimes needing an outlet for my feelings. Having felt very sorry for myself, at the same time I can't stand others feeling sorry for me. It's a roller coaster of emotions but at least now I feel much better and can see a light at the end of the tunnel. Sorry for long rambling post.

Ellis, that's really good advice, I would agree from experience all you can do is be there when she asks you to be and take her lead.

If it helps, with my sister I only talk about my pg when she does and don't put any big announcement on FB. I'd hate to upset her.

It's an awful and totally unfair thing to happen to anyone xxx

Metalhead - my DS will be 2 in feb. Thanks for the welcome everyone

Donna - I had a similar situation with my closest friend in that she had a late miscarriage at 6 months whilst I was 7 months pregnant. We are still very close now though it was hard at times. I just used to say to her that if she wanted me around I would be there or if she didn't want to see me or my baby that was fine too as I would be there when she was ready. Life is really unfair sometimes

Yes donna sometimes life is just poo. So unfair. I hope you're all ok x

thanks everyone for your kind words. shes to get surgery tomorrow. it died about 3 weeks ago and it hasn't came away naturally. im worried about uow she will deal with my pregnancy we are very close and id hate it to cause I rift. im thr big sister and i should be lookong out for her i feel heppless ill just see how it goes and not be obviously flaunting my pregnancy in her face.
kt brilliant news about your digital test!
welcome newbies
sorry I've missed so many of you out. my brains fried xx

sometimes life is just poo! xx

Hi to newbies :-)

Swede, that's excellent news about being able to TTC with immediate effect. Bloody good luck this cycle. xx

Kt, brilliant that you got 2-3 on your digi. Is your booking in with the GP or midwife? Mine is finally happening tomorrow.

Oh god Lucy - I hadn't considered the 18th/21st birthday clash. I'd better start saving now! How are you feeling? I've got a FRER and a couple of ovulation tests if you'd be interested in them? PM me your address if you are.

Windy - I'm liking the positive thinking. And in fact, any thought of cake...

I'm 8 weeks mrs - In some ways it is going really quickly and in others painfully slowly. My proper scan is in exactly four weeks and I don't think I'll properly relax until after that.

Toothpaste - how have you got away with not telling work yet? I told my headteacher on Monday as I just couldn't keep up the pretence! I'm impressed with your restraint!

Donna - I am so sorry for your sister, and for you and the rest of your family. She's had a tough ride hasn't she? I hope things are still okay between you and her. I imagine she'll be over the moon for you but find it tough to see your growing bump

Swede - that sounds great. I mean, the situation isn't great, but the news is as good as it could be. I'm sure I read that you are super fertile immediately after a miscarriage. Doctors used to recommend waiting three months, but now suggest getting straight back on it (so to speak!) I really hope it works out for you soon x

Welcome Ellisis and starchild

Welcome Ellis and good luck for Friday! How old is your DC1?

Good news that you can try again straight away Swede, hopefully the next BFP won't be far off.

Kt I haven't done a digi but am pretty sure I'm 5 weeks today or tomorrow based on the date of my +opk and the fact that we only dtd that day!

Can I join you ? Waiting to test on Friday and not knowing killing me! Have been ttc #2 for a while so would love to get a BFP this weekend! (Wouldn't we all?!)

Swede I'm glad this isn't dragging out for you, though I obviously remain sorry for your loss. Fx this month is your month.

Kt, congrats on the digi test, brilliant news xx

Firstly donna sorry to hear about your sister :( hope she's okay. swede glad things are going well for you now fingers crossed you get a BFP again quickly. Have you done a digi metal when you due? I have done one just now and says pregnant 2-3 weeks!! :) have just rang drs mrs have my booking in apt on 5th Feb.

Donna, so sad to hear about your sister It's so unfair isn't it.

So I had some positive news today, sort of. Went to see my gynocologist for the first time. It was supposed to be my first appointment, obviously no longer relevant but I thought it would be a good idea to go anyway, just to check that all was ok. So he did a scan and confirmed it was all gone and looking good and healthy. He also checked my ovaries and confirmed that my left one is starting to produce eggs He measured the eggs to be and confirmed that I am 8 days into my cycle. He said it was super good sign and that I should start ttc asap. I asked him which days are best to dtd and he recommends ( on a 28 day cycle) day 12, 14, 16 and 18. Nothing before or after those days as it makes the swimmers lazy.

I feel much more positive, especially since I know my eggs are in the making already!

I've just had to tell 2 colleagues to stop whispering about me. They are sat opposite me plotting how to deal with my maternity leave to their best advantage whilst I'm sat RIGHT HERE!!!

They've gone all sheepish now, but how rude really?

On a positive note, some of you may recall that my employer had changed its policy on carrying forward holiday during mat leave. Well without any prompting from me my boss has requested an exception to be made in my case, as he wants to do "everything possible to get me back to work as soon as I can" and he knows I wanted to use the holiday carried forward to ease myself back in part time. Bless him, what a star!

Donna, I'm so sorry for your sister's loss. xx

Metalhead, I'm really paranoid this time. I'm doing my own head in with my worrying. It doesn't help that my symptoms are quite mild this time.

Booking in with midwife tomorrow, finally!

Donna I'm so sorry for your sister's loss. My sister experienced the same and it's horrible to see someone go through that. I hope that she is able to put this behind her in time. In the meantime lots of hugs to all your family xxxx

donna I'm so sorry for your sister, what a horrible thing to happen. Hope she's coping ok.

And hoping all the poorly pregnant ladies get better soon! It's not fun being ill at the best of times, but when you can't even take anything for it that makes it even worse.

Kt congrats again on your BFP! I also did another IC test this morning as I'm so paranoid about something going wrong, and it was the strongest line yet so I'm a bit reassured.

Just came back from my GP, and he's referring me for an early dating scan because my last period was back in October, so hopefully I will get to see my little bean in 2 or 3 weeks' time! I would have paid for a private scan around then anyway, as I'll be about 8 weeks pregnant by then, so I'm quite pleased that I've managed to save some money .

Does/did anyone else feel even more worried about things going wrong second time round? I don't know if it's because I had such a messed up cycle and it took much longer to conceive than with DD, but I could swear I'm even more paranoid now than I was last time round! I think I need to look doing some meditation or something to chill out a bit more...