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About to start / Just started TTC no.2 (part 3)

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Lucyjojo · 14/12/2013 00:35

Part 3 for a chatty lot!
3 is the magic number, good things come in 3s, so here is hoping we get plenty more BFPs.....

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Lucyjojo · 11/01/2014 22:54

Oh haha I got it totally wrong then! 2-3 units a day definately makes 1-2 a week not much. I'll have to get drinking more then!!

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Metalhead · 11/01/2014 22:42

Ha, cross post Hungry!

Metalhead · 11/01/2014 22:41

Evening all! I really wanted some red wine tonight, but obviously can't have any as I'm still so early on. I probably will have the occasional glass later on though, I think with DD I had maybe 5 drinks in total at special occasions like birthdays or NYE. And Lucy the normal recommended limit is 2-3 per day for women, so 1-2 a week really isn't much.

With regards to the opks, I never managed to not drink for 4 hours before either, but found usually 2 hours was enough to get a good result, unless I'd drunk lots of coffee beforehand.

Good luck to you and Swede and anyone else dtd with intent this weekend, and Monster fx for a Bfp on Wednesday!

HungryHorace · 11/01/2014 22:41

Lucy, it's 14 units for women and 21 for men with no more than 2-3 a day.

Oh, you asked about sugar earlier. I've no idea is my answer! :-)

And your issue with the OPKs is mine too. It's why I end up buying the smiley ones as there's no misunderstanding those.

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Lucyjojo · 11/01/2014 22:12

Oh my god I seem incapable of just writing a small message!

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Lucyjojo · 11/01/2014 22:11

Oooh good luck Monster, I love a bit of POAS.
Hungry yes you are right, maybe I should discount the first 3 months, but then I think if some people get pg by accident on contraception and only shagging once or a one night stand or something, does a bit of KY really make such a difference!!!? But for arguments sake lets say yes it does Grin
Donna, that is so sweet of your DH! I hope you have a lovely time, will it be just the two of you going? I think a little baileys won't hurt.
I'm surprised they say 1-2 units a week is ok though, it sounds like alot, don't they recommend only 2-3 units for non-pregnant women a week!? I didn't drink with DD as I thought it would be a bit of a fun challenge to see if I could last 9 months without a drink! Also I figured if I had one glass I would want the rest of the bottle, so it was probably better to just steer clear!
Mrs I am on 7 months this cycle, well 7 months of thinking I was trying, it does feel like an age doesn't it. Donna how on earth did you go on for 2 years?
I did do an opk today Hungry, there was a faint line if you squint but I'm guessing that means nothing. I am struggling a bit with them though to be honest, it's impossible for me to go four hours without drinking/weeing. I always end up having a drink and then remembering I'm not supposed to, so the ones I did today were with pretty diluted wee. It's so annoying that you can't just use FMU! I am picking up more signals from my body that I'm ovulating though so hopefully I can just rely on that. And online calculators suggest this weekend and early next week which matches the signs I'm getting from my body...so hopefully I will catch it!!
How are you feeling Kt?
Swede glad you have had a nice time with friends. Bit of a pisser about their news though. I know a few couples who I keep expecting any day to announce their news. And took DD into work today, one of my colleagues said she looked like she needed a playmate...!? Angry Good luck with your next cycle, I really hope it's a good one for you. Hopefully we will soon be celebrating together!!
Oh Donna, I haven't received the pee sticks yet, hopefully it's just the snail mail and they will be here next week. ATruth I forgot to say yes please to you too! I will PM you my address.

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HungryHorace · 11/01/2014 20:37

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. :-) Which cycle are you on now? I can't remember anything!

Monstersaurus · 11/01/2014 20:31

Hungry, yep that is when AF is due. I'm trying to not test early, as I would rather not know than not know if I should believe the BFN or not. Hopefully it will be a shiny BFP this time though.

HungryHorace · 11/01/2014 20:25

Oh, and it's all 3 of us. :-)

Wednesday, Monster? Is that when you're due AF? So you could try tomorrow then?! Depending on how patient you are, obviously!

HungryHorace · 11/01/2014 20:21

You can eat smoked salmon, she was wrong about that one.

It's like peanuts can be eaten now too.

30 or so years ago, pregnant women were actively encouraged to drink Guinness!

I do eat some 'banned' stuff, but under caution and in moderation as I've assessed the risk and deemed it to be low.

I think I had about 10 units in the entire pregnancy last time. It's nice to be able to have a little drink if you fancy one for a special occasion, I think. But I respect the decision of those who choose not to.

ATruth, we are coming up on Saturday and staying overnight at the Premier Inn as we had qualified for a free room. :-)

Monstersaurus · 11/01/2014 20:17

Hungry, POAS-day isn't until Wednesday unless I crumble before then and test early. So far today I've convinced myself that I'm bloated and DH has suggested that I haven't been as 'hormonal' as usual for this stage in the month. Hmm

I didn't drink during the first trimester, then had the very occasional glass of wine during the second and a little more during the third. Never more than a small glass every couple of weeks or so though. Each to their own. Enjoy your spa trip Donna.

Hope you all enjoy the rest of your weekends.

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 11/01/2014 20:01

That would be lovely hungry - you having a break with dh? Are you staying up here or just visiting?

mrsm22 · 11/01/2014 19:43

Evening all, I'm sure everything is fine in moderation and I wasn't being funny about having a drink or saying anything is wrong with it. It's each to their own when pregnant, I was just saying that I personally won't have a drink when pregnant. Donna - it's obviously totally up to you and it is like you say a very special occasion. One of my best friends who is expecting her first any day, she had champagne on New Year's Eve. It's funny though because all the things you're allowed and not meant to do change over the years so you've got to wonder. Like liver for example, we're not meant to touch it now but when my mums generation were pregnant she said they were encouraged to eat it. Smoked salmon is another. I ate it in my first pregnancy but my midwife told me last time I saw her, just before Xmas not to touch it. I'm just a massive worrier so I try to be extra careful about things. I'm not a big drinker anyway so not drinking now doesn't really matter to me.
Clara - good luck to you!

donnas1984 · 11/01/2014 17:57

mrs I didnt touch a drop with dd and normally would bother just thought since its a special occasion I might. will see ehat happens xx
toothpaste sorry to hear about your friend Thanks .

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clara26 · 11/01/2014 17:18

Thanks mrsm, yeah first one. Never ever wanted kids and then suddenly when I turned thirty it was like my womb suddenly woke up and started screaming. Shock

Best of luck to everyone here!

HungryHorace · 11/01/2014 17:14

Or kind of does! :-)

Plenty of women drink in moderation without harm.

HungryHorace · 11/01/2014 17:13

www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/2270.aspx?CategoryID=54#close

HungryHorace · 11/01/2014 17:12

The NHS says you can drink, mrs. If it said you couldn't, I wouldn't! :-)

mrsm22 · 11/01/2014 17:02

I'm probably the only person on here that would say not to have a drink but I do everything by the book or by the rules when I'm pregnant. I'm sure it's safe to have the occasional small drink though.

HungryHorace · 11/01/2014 16:29

Sounds like a good week ahead, Swede! :-)

And wow, that's WAY too hot for me.

I'm glad you were OK with your friends' news. :-)

Hi Clara!

Donna, the odd drink won't hurt. You'll be fine. My midwife said 1-2 units a week after the first trimester is fine.

SwedeAway · 11/01/2014 16:04

And I totally agree with Toothpaste, a drink now and then is perfectly fine.

SwedeAway · 11/01/2014 16:03

Hi all! So having a nice weekend. Had some old friends from the UK visiting which was lovely. Of course they announced that they are expecting their first and although I thought it might make me jealous or sad (being selfish i guess), it did not. Tomorrow we are starting to dtd as per gyno's specific schedule. DH is totally on board so lots of dtd for the coming week, not that I mindWink DD is back at nursery from Mon after a month holiday break. Looking forward to getting back into our routines. It's so bloody hot at the moment! I am usually the last to complain about the heat but 37 degrees is a bit muchHmm Anyway, hope everyone is ok! Oh and welcome to any newbies.

mrsm22 · 11/01/2014 16:01

Hi Toothpaste - Sorry to hear about your friend. Yes it's so reassuring when you hear the heartbeat and these awful things just make you desperate to go for a scan or to the midwife to hear the heartbeat etc. when is your mw appointment, it's coming up isn't it?
Hi Clara - welcome to our thread. This thread started at the beginning of sept and already we've had quite a number BFP's so hopefully if you stick around you'll soon have your own BFP. Is this your first child that you're TTC ?

clara26 · 11/01/2014 15:23

Hello! Mind if I tag along? Last AF 21st dec. AF due today but no sign. BFN when POAS. Been half trying for 2 years but not been very 'active' really trying properly now, lots of DTD and timing my cycles. Maybe I'm not a 28 day kinda girl!