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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Sensible age to start trying?

55 replies

justausername · 12/12/2013 09:05

Hi ladies, I'm after some advice. I'm 32, and my husband and I are thinking of TTC at the start of 2015 (i.e. I would be 34.5 when giving birth, IF I conceive quickly). We'd like to have two kids so I'll be pushing late 30's by the time our family is complete (again, this is with all going smoothly).

I'm just quite worried that we're going to leave it too late. My mum had her menopause when she was in her late 30's, although my sister who is older than me has not had early menopause. I'm not sure we're ready now, but if it's a case of trying for kids now, before we're fully ready, or possibly not having them at all because we left it too late, I'd rather try now, after all there's nine months to prepare! Then I think that we'd be TTC in one year, which really isn't long in the grand scheme of things.

I'd just be really keen to hear all your thoughts as this has been on my mind a lot lately! Thanks for reading.

OP posts:
Autumnleaves198 · 12/12/2013 09:23

Go for it now!! I'm 23 and have already been trying for 5 months. I thought it would happen super quick but seemingly not, and from reading the boards here it's clear that so many folk take longer than expected. So I'd say get going now and if it does happen quickly then that can only be a good thing and on the other hand if it is going to take longer (hopefully NOT of course) then you won't have wasted a year. Smile

Nigglenaggle · 12/12/2013 09:20

By the way, you will NEVER be ready :D no-one is :p Having children will turn your life upside down, ruin your social life and your sanity, in ways you can't even dream of. But you will never regret it.

Nigglenaggle · 12/12/2013 09:17

We started at 32. At the time I caved to pressure from my husband and would happily have waited. We had been incredibly smug about the fun our friends who had their children earlier had missed out on. Our conclusion at the end of the first year was that we should have done it about 5yrs earlier. In short, don't leave it any longer!

Trooperslane · 12/12/2013 09:11

Second that. Get cracking. Grin

sebsmummy1 · 12/12/2013 09:10

Honestly? I would not be waiting.

If you were 22 I would say you had all the time in the world. At 32 I would say you are in a great position and if you are in a position to have a child now, go for it. I hear so many stories of couples waiting thinking they will conceive easily when the time comes, then kicking themselves they didn't try earlier when they struggle to conceive.