If TTC # 2 has turned you into a nut job this thread is for you! (Part 4)

OOh yey Sebs!! Do you want to share photos??
Fed up that is very impressive! What are you studying for? I'm thinking of going back to college in september if I'm not upduffed by then.

Woo hoo! A line is a line sebs!

One of my NCT came round for a cuppa this morn (I don't work Mondays) and she has a four month olds as well as her Daughter who is my sons age. She's having a very hard time with sleeping (actually the older one waking up every hour) but was sweet not to bang on about it to me about "how hard it is with two" as She knows what I've been through and would give up for months to have another baby in my arms. Wish could say the same for everyone else who seem to rub it in my face so much - more how great their older kid loves the younger one etc.

I feel quite relaxed about ttc at the mo, probs cos I've so much going on and I'm not in the 2 ww! Thinking of all of you stuck on the horrible -time stands still - period of waiting.

Got another exam in a month then done for that module then on to the next.... Fun times. Thanks for the congrats tho I'm quite chuffed with myself doing my job, being a mum and learning all that stuff!

Now.... To gym or not to gym... That is the question.

Ahhh I hate the questions too Punky. Sometimes you just feel like screaming the truth out to people don't you. To make them shut up and to make yourself feel better for getting it all out! There was a newborn at playgroup today. 4 days old. I didn't want to even look in their vague direction. Sorry about the situation with your best friend, and I hope your cycles sort themselves out soon it's not fair to add to the stress and chaos when our bodies start playing tricks on us.

Ah that's interesting to hear fedup. My cycles are an average of 26 days and when I started getting into all this serious ttc business I was worried mine were too short too. I think my LP is about 12 days too Sebs. The past 3 months though I have been a bit all over the place so hopefully they will go back to normal now.
I had to pop out to get some more opks earlier, picked up the cheapest ones from Home Bargains I could, and got an amazing positive this afternoon on one, so that made me smile, and we will be dtd as much as possible over the next few days! I think AF is due in 13/14 days so still got the 2ww to get through.
Good luck for the morning Sebs.
Are you all done with exams now fedup?
I think I will have a red cape Cake, stick with tradition! How about you?

I'm normally about cd 12 too but has ranged from day 8 to 15! If you are ovulating cd 12 then that's only two days ahead of the "average" 28 day cycle that they base everything on!

Hey all,

I've been keeping up with everything but no time to post this weekend.

Sebs, fingers crossed for you!

Fedup Well done on your Exams :-)

I use the internet cheapie OPKs, and though I also can't go 4 hours without a drink (maybe 2 hours) they have worked ok for me so far. I did realise after always getting negatives that I wasn't leaving them long enough to 'develop'.. and they really do need the 10 mins advised to know whether they are negative or positive. I was lucky though in that I was wfh for the last 6 months.. so it was easy to do at 2pm (which is meant to be the optimum time). Not sure that will work in a busy office.. I haven't quite worked out how I am going to do this yet... I can't really hang around in the office loos for 10 mins..

I also wanted a 2 year gap between DCs.. Now it will be at least 3 years, though same as you Lucy I can't imagine being heavily pregnant or with a newborn and dealing with DS..

Totally get the teary bit with other babies in public.. I have to avoid looking at pregnant strangers in case they can see in my eyes how messed up I am about it all.. angry, hurt... I saw my best friend yesterday who is heavily pregnant.. (we live far from each other so don't see each other often), and spent most of the time talking babies.. which was hard. It is her first so she was asking for lots of advice.. I also told her about my frustration at the moment about ttc, and she said to 'relax'... I love her to bits but christ I had to stop myself screaming. She got pregnant the first cycle of ttc... I've been trying since June and have now lost a fallopian tube.. my cycles are totally messed up since the ectopic.. It's not quite the same!! Today I also bumped into an old colleague who asked how many children I had now.. It hurt so much to say still just the one.. :-(

Thanks for the advice re: supplements. I have decided again to give it another cycle and see where I am. I have read that a lot of women follow the same weird cycle pattern after ectopics.. normal initially, then really long cycles until after a few months it goes back to normal again... so am hoping it will sort itself back out.

We are definitely due a BFP on this thread soon.. Sebs, here's hoping you are the first.xxx

Sorry didn't make sense - anything under 20 days is when it's perhaps not quite right....

sebs I have short cycle - 24 days av. And I have got pregnant 3 times. My sister also has 25 day cycle and has been pregnant 4 times (and has 3 kids) so short is good (plus trying comes around more) it's only when 20 days and under is norm when something abnormal

Loving the cape idea Lucy, like some sort of BFP super hero
Keeping everything crossed sebs.....

Fx sebs
Some lines are only viable by the trained eye but hopefully tomorrow's one or dha after will be dark enough for your husband to see. Excited for you xx

I know I'm a bit impressed too! Very unlike me/us. It seems the more you do it though the more you enjoy it and want to do it more!
Well I really feel like I want to throw my all at it this cycle so will keep dtd as much as we feel we can be bothered. No stress allowed though!!! I'm the same Cake, I'm such a negative nancy. Come on though, let's get our capes of positive thinking on!!
Sebs do you mean you have POAS today?? A faint line you say?? Enjoy your bubble today and I so hope the next few days bring you what you want, everything crossed.

Doing my special implantation dance for you sebs !

Wow Lucy impressive stats on DTD! We haven't managed two days in a row yet! Not sure it's possible to DTD too much, just as often as you can unless any fertility issues is what I seem to read. I think we'll to DTD a couple more times to hopefully cover all bass as you say! Just not feeling v hopeful but must stop thinking like that!
Lovely to hear from fellow crazies, as you say so nice to feel you aren't alone in this madness.

Haha Cake I am the same with confusion between ewcm and leftovers!!! It's so nice to hear that you aren't alone in your craziness!!
Fedup it's the same for me, we will have a gap of 3 years plus if I don't get pg this cycle. I wanted no more than 2.5 years between, I want lots of children too so this is just adding to the frustration! Serves me right for being so cocky about our fertility first time round Now that it is past my magic age gap window I am thinking like you Sebs, it is all down to personality really, and the way DD is at the mo I could not imagine being heavily pregnant or having a newborn!
Well after deciding I couldn't be bothered with the opk today I did one after not weeing and only drinking a brew for 2.5 hours, and I got the strongest line I have had for the past few days. It wasn't as strong as the control line but it will do for me!
If I were you cake I would dtd tonight if you can? and a few more times next week, just to cover every base. It is hard to squeeze it in though, excuse the pun, whilst working and everything else too. What do you all think about dtd too much?? I'm on cd13 today, but we have dtd mon,wed,thurs,fri and today so far. DH was off work most of the week so that is the only reason we have managed so much this cycle! But now I'm wondering if maybe we peaked too soon. It seems the more I read on the threads on mumsnet that with anything you're damned if you do and damned if you don't!!!
Sebs hope you are surviving your 2WW ok?

Agree sebs that age gaps will be what they will be, pros and cons either way and frankly I'll just be glad if #2 ever appears! And wow to you knowing what to look for with your cervix, I'm feeling like a total novice.

Lucy I'm on day 16 and had the strong line on opk on day 14, we DTD on day 15 and think we will try again tomorrow. I'm a bit mistrustful of these cheap opks though, so who knows. Will definitly get the digi type next cycle. Also I've had a 25 day cycle then most recently a 34 day one so really not sure about whether to keep DTD all next week just in case? Wwyd ladies? We're taking the every 2 - 3 day approach but it's pretty tough to stick to this with busy lives isn't it. As for EWCM, I'm struggling to know if it is that, or just, ahem, leftovers from DH. Sorry tmi!

I think statistically we are due a bfp on this thread now! Really hoping for good news from someone very soon. Sending lots of positive thoughts to you all x