TTC no 3? Anyone just started / about to start / about to start thinking about it?

It's so annoying bonzo, when AF is late - has happened to me twice now over the summer, as I think I said - two 34 day cycles!! Ridiculous and really got my hopes up.

AF came for me too bonzo, on Friday - at least I am not being irregular now!! noodles, it is so frustrating isn't it! At least you have age on your side, I am 38! I find that the more hormonal I am, the more I want a third - the less hormonal, like right now, I start to think "we are happy as we are, do I really want to go through it all again". But come 10 days time and I'll be desperate again!

Sorry to hear that bonzo . How long have you been ttc? Previously I had a really relaxed attitude to conception but this time it's all I can think about. As it took us years before I suspect it'll be the same this time round as well though. I should be ovulating this weekend so of course I've had to catch ds' s cold. Nothing sexier than a runny nose ;-)

Oh no bonzo. That's utterly rubbish.

Have you been to gp?

Hi Bonzo77 - wow we really are quite alike lol! Ages the same etc. hope it's good news for you! X

Hi Molotovcocktail

Thank you for your reply, you just seemed to completely 'get it' I feel I sound so ungrateful for the children I already have.

I am also an only child, an what you said did really echo how I feel. At times I no I'm completely irrational and stressing does not help things, but other times the longing takes over.

I feel its not something most ppl understand because we already have 2 kids, who are boy/girl they assume were 'done'

But in truth my children are my world an can not help how I feel, my hubby is 1 of 9 (most live abroad) so he is happy if we have another an happy if we don't as he knows the pitfalls of a big family, although I don't wanna go that big -Lol

Like you said its only 5 months, maybe I need to chill a bit.
Thank you again xxx

I'd like to join too please. I am getting really broody for number 3, actually I have been for some time already. I have ds age 6 and dd who is very nearly 4. I planned to have all of my children 2 years apart but life (well mainly finances) have got in the way and somehow the time has just flown by. Dd is starting school this September and I am really struggling with the thought of no longer having a little one in the house. Dh definitely wants to have a third but he is adamant about waiting another year or two. I see the age gap getting bigger and bigger and want a baby as soon as possible. Over Christmas we dtd quite a few times without contraception after some booze, and I was so hopeful but sadly AF arrived this week=(

And fwiw, we were diagnosed with 'unexplained secondary infertility' and I was given clomid as it par for the course as treatment.

We were just about on cycle 23 of ttc when we went on a short holiday. I was just starting to come to terms with the idea of it just being the 3 of us - and was starting to feel comfortable with that (I'm an only child and my daughter being 'the only child of an only child' had played heavily on my mind). But I sort of forgot as much as I could about another baby because it just felt like it was never going to materialise, and that chasing it was ruining the goodness I already had.

I think I had reached a turning point.

Anyway, I must have become pg on that holiday Dd2 will turn 2yo in the spring. There is a part of me that would quite like another baby but I could never put us through what we went through to bring dd2 here. It changed me; it was so difficult. It was just too stressful. But I do genuinely understand those feelings of wanting, wishing, wanting ...

Hope it works out for you soon

Hi Noodles, I was in a similar position to you when ttc dd2. It's a horrible feeling because on top of those overwhelming maternal feelings, I also experienced tremendous feelings of guilt: why wasn't dd1 'enough' for me? (dd2 took two years and 6 cycles of clomid to show her shiney face).

I don't suppose it matters whatsoever if it's your 2nd, 3rd, etc, child that you're wishing for. The crucial part of that sentence is that it is another child who you want to bring into the world. There is that feeling of incompleteness; of someone being missing.

Yet you might feel guilty about having those feelings because you're already blessed with 2 dcs.

IME, ttc for 5 months is no time at all. Most pregnancies occur within a year of ttc, so you've a good while to go yet before you should be concerned anyway

Good luck.

Hi all, I've been reading this thread for awhile now & have resisted the urge to post.......untill now.

Really hope you don't mind me gatecrashing your thread, but pls can I be added. I'm 32 and have 2 kids, 1 of each (4 & 6) We have been TTC no 3 since Aug 13, TTC this time has sent me nuts, I hate to say it but I feel desperate.

I fell really quickly previously, so just can't understand why not now ?? OK I'm a little older an a little fatter than I was b4 but not by much.

To make matters worse EVERYONE around us seems to be announcing there good news, an I happy for them, I honestly am but I want one too !

Done school run yesterday an 2 ppl said there expecting, and a family friend called today to say she is pregnant (although not very happy about it) an I tried but could not hide my feelings.

I feel blessed to have the children I have been given regardless if we have anymore or not, an wish all my pregnant friends the best but I feel like I'm running out of time (my mum and aunts all had menopause around 39)

I can't tell anyone how I'm feeling as no one knows we are trying, and hubby thinks we are trying on a 'If it happens, it happens' kind of thing.

Pls be honest am I over reacting ?? Or except maybe it's not gonna happen xxx

Good luck bonzo!

Hi tranquillity I think we all go through our own pros and cons when thinking about ttc #3. I'm lucky as dh is keen for a third.

Good luck bonzo

We dtd way before ovulation and both times we had boys, although it worked for my friend. Now I'm like bonzo, I'll just take anything. (And secretly I'm hoping for another boy...)

Good luck bonzo! Fingers crossed for mon/tues!

Hello, I've been lurking but just wanted to post. Considering (well more me than DH to be honest) TTC no. 3. I've been broody for about 4 years now on and off. I just can't shake it. I'm 36 now though and my dd is 12, DS 9.

I've gone through all the cons / too big an age gap now, I feel that I'm getting too old, it'll be like starting again, I suffer from health anxiety, but even after all that I'm still broody!

DH just keeps saying he doesn't know, it's probably be wonderful but he's scared and he doesn't want to be an older dad (he's nearly 40).

Anyone else gone through similar before starting TTC? X

mrspuddle I didn't know it was called the shettles theory but a woman came up to me the other day, saw I had 2 DDs and went in to a lengthy explanation of how I could get a boy (something about sex on Ovulation day). I don't care whether have a boy or another girl and sounds like a lot of stress to me, not into charting and OPKs!!

mrspuddleduck - same for me but t'other way round. Boys name very ready to go post two dds but a third dd name will be tricky!!

I read the shettles book but dh (science phd) poo poohed it.

The theory - which is totally unproven, but will give it a shot - is that girls are most likely to be conceived if you have sex 5 days before ovulation and boys are more likely to arise from sex on or closer to ovulation day. Both my boys were O-day babies, so I'm just going to see experiment for fun! Truthfully, I just want a baby, don't really mind the sex - I just have a great girls name leftover from two boy pregnancies and I want to use it!

Hi all can I join you? I have a DD (7) and DS (3). DH and I have just started ttc #3. I'm 37 so time is against us a bit. Previously it's taken us well over a year ttc each time but DH has been uncharacteristically enthusiastic about getting the job done this time ;-) I'm interested to see how long that will last :-) We'll have to be pretty regimented about dtd as he works shifts including nights and weekends and I work full-time m-f so we basically have to take every opportunity we have!

Ha ha cake not me oh god

Meanwhile over on the graduates thread the symptoms (and the reality) are kicking in.....

MrsPuddleDuck what's the theory?

Hello everyone - have been reading this thread since Christmas, as we are hoping to start TTC for third baby in April, for a 2015 baby

Congratulations to all the BFPs so far :)

I have two DSs, aged 3 & 1, and want to have one more baby quite close in age - I'm 28 and fell pregnant with both boys on first month or trying, but this time I might try and DTD quite a way before ovulation, just to experiment with the Shettles theory (even though I logically know it's all make believe!)

I had my Nexplanon implant removed today and will be OPKing and charting between now and April, hoping that this is enough time for my cycle to settle down a little bit

It's great to have a thread for baby number 3 - I know my friends and family will think I'm mad

Thanks for the support everyone btw

Yes, I am going to get it checked out as I need to go to GP for something else anyway so I might as well get the ball rolling. Ha ha, yes I also don't want people to think I am trying for a girl, because we're so not! snowpink that is really hard. Yes, I am determined that we dtd every other day this next month, but lord the effort!!!!

haveyou, thank you, but AF is definitely on it's way. Oh well, who wants to be heavily pregnant in July/August anyway?