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TTC no 3? Anyone just started / about to start / about to start thinking about it?

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bonzo77 · 06/11/2013 14:59

I am absolutely not going to go nuts about it this time like I did for no 2. Because my kids have each other and won't be alone looking after their ancient parents in years to come. But a 3rd would be a bonus. And part of me doesn't care either way, and another part cannot wait for a lovely little snuggly new born. And part of me is enjoying getting my nights back, and my body, and is worried about the money, the lack of bedrooms, the need for a bigger car, having another miscarriage, or high risk pregnancy, a 3rd CS, a baby in intensive care. But then 5 months of no contraception and nothings happening..... The baby is 11 months, and we said we'd start putting more effort in once he is 1....

Anyone in the same boat? Want to hang out and worry / pretend not to worry?

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Cakecrumbsinmybra · 13/02/2014 12:14

Day 29 here, I fully expect AF to come in the next couple of days (question - if you come on overnight, which always happens to me, do you count the day before or the new day as CD1? Also, do you just ignore any spotting beforehand and take CD1 to be when you have full on flow? (sorry))

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bonzo77 · 12/02/2014 12:56

me again.....

max and busy sorry about AF... wine, sushi and Camembert all round then!

offagain i'd definitely go for it. I guess you want to avoid being on holiday in from when you cannot fly (I think 28 weeks most air lines) to when the baby is 6 weeks (so assuming you go a maximum of 2 weeks late, till 8 weeks after your due date). Life is short, the holiday is only 2 weeks, and actually little babies are much more portable than bigger ones.

tranqulity I guess the same to you really about timing. How long haul? USA, asia, Australia? Does needing to lose weight impact that heavily? A good friend of mine managed her weight really well during pregnancy and ended it the same weight as when she started, and was 2 stone lighter 6 weeks after the baby was born. She was quite big initially but was diagnosed with GD and took it very seriously (as she should).

cake i'm with you on the drinking. i'm not pregnant till I'm pregnant. With my oldest I didn't know I was pregnant till about 6 weeks or something, and I was certainly drinking in that time (honeymoon, newly wed celebrations)...

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bonzo77 · 12/02/2014 12:43

It's been so long since I've posted here that the thread dropped off my "threads I am on" page!

2ww here. Chart showed I definitely ovulated. We DTD every other day from end of AF to 4 days DPO. Obviously I'm not getting my hopes up, but well, you know.....

Booked a summer holiday for 2nd week in July. If I were to get pregnant I'd be 6 months by then. eek! At least my boobs would look fab in a bikini!

Right, going back to read the bits I've missed....

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Tranquilitybaby · 12/02/2014 11:23

Morning everyone. Really want to start next month. Two things holding me back though, want to lose some weight and gave a long haul holiday booked in the summer.

inadreamworld · 12/02/2014 08:51

Haven't had much time and energy to work on getting preg for the last few months. DH is now not so stressed at work and we are in our own place again - we were staying with MIL for a while while our flat was done up (she is a form of contraception in itself!!) and my periods have got regular again a year after having DD2 so hopefully sometime in 2015 (or even 2014??!) we will be having no 3!!

DD1 starts nursery (free 15 hours next September) and starts school the following Sept so won't have three at home for very long.

inadreamworld · 12/02/2014 08:41

Grin @ Orange

OrangeFizz99 · 11/02/2014 20:38

I'm a Scorpio. As in is my brother and my mum. My poor father!

inadreamworld · 11/02/2014 18:57

basia what was your third labour like? My 2nd was really easy am hoping the third will follow suit. Still not preg, my Mum says I shouldn't get preg this month because the baby will be a Scorpio and they are all ridiculously intense. My Mum is slightly odd.

maxpower · 10/02/2014 20:15

Sorry busy. Let's look forward to a bfp next month.

busyDays · 10/02/2014 13:58

So af arrived today, right on time. I'm feeling pretty disappointed but I guess it just wasn't meant to be this month.

basia2 · 09/02/2014 19:43

About to start trying for #4 (fingers crossed for a daughter this time).
Good luck to you all, ladies. ??

maxpower · 09/02/2014 19:41

Tbh the rational part of me knew it wouldn't work first time given how long it's try the last 2 pgs so I'm ok with it.

Cakecrumbsinmybra · 09/02/2014 19:24

Bad luck max.

I am bad as I don't avoid a drink during the 2WW. Perhaps my chances of conceiving would be better if I did. (I don't mean binge drinking, just 1 or 2 glasses of an evening, a couple of times a week). I guess part of me worries that I wont be able to drink for another 9 months if I am pg, so better to be ignorant and enjoy my last few!

No pg symptoms though, so I may as well enjoy my wine guilt free.

busyDays · 09/02/2014 18:25

Sorry to hear that max. Hope you enjoy the vodka. Smile
I have a bottle of wine waiting in the fridge so I have something to look forward to if af arrives.

maxpower · 09/02/2014 16:08

Well af arrived today - as I said my cycle can vary by a few days. Well at least I can enjoy a guilt free vodka tonight!

busyDays · 09/02/2014 08:40

max - you are so much stronger than me. I'm going to try to hold out testing for one or two more days but even that will be really difficult.

maxpower · 08/02/2014 21:17

cake and busy my cycles can be a few days out but I'm working on the principle af is due Monday. Because my cycle can be variable I'll probably wait til next weekend to test if nothing happens. I'm getting butterflies just thinking about it!

busyDays · 08/02/2014 21:03

Tranquility - That's great news. I think you should just go for it. I've been to America on holiday twice while pregnant and it was all fine!

OffAgain - I wouldn't want to wait that long before trying. Young babies travel surprisingly well and I'm sure you would still have a fab trip. You might end up resenting the holiday if you let it get in the way of things.

I'm having a super anxious 2ww. We are not officially ttc yet because dh wants to wait a bit longer, but we sort of accidentally dtd without protection the day before I ovulated. I know the chances of getting pregnant from one cycle are slim but I can't help feeling hopeful. The trouble is, if I don't get pregnant it is not like I can just move on and try again next month, as I would have to convince dh to start ttc first! AF is due on Monday and time is dragging soooooo slowly. I tested this morning and got a bfn so it probably won't be my lucky month, but I just can't get it out of my head. Someone slap me please!!! I really feel like I'm losing my mind here!

OffAgain · 08/02/2014 16:35

Thanks OrangeFizz99 and Tranquilitybaby! I know I shouldn't worry about what brother says but I just know they will be upset that it won't quite be the holiday they had planned if I'm lucky to either be pregnant or have very small baby! I feel so nervous now that we have finally made a decision- things are so easy now, holidays are easy with min baggage etc. lie ins at the weekend...but then I think that's all overrated and I have years to enjoy lie ins!
Tranquilitybaby nice to hear someone with similar age gap who is taking the plunge again!!

OrangeFizz99 · 08/02/2014 15:26

Also wouldn't worry about db and sil at all!

Will stop posting now!

OrangeFizz99 · 08/02/2014 15:25

You wouldn't have to stop for six months though I don't think? Maybe 3 tops?

OrangeFizz99 · 08/02/2014 15:24

offagain - id say go for it, the issue wouldnt be having a three month old baby but being in the bit of pg when you cant fly. Are the dates flexible in any way should that be the case? Or you could start trying now and then skip a few months if it doesn't happen straight away?

Tranquilitybaby · 08/02/2014 15:19

Oh and OffAgain get to it, a 3 month old is Florida will be easy!! Good luck

My issue is do I want to be possibly 20 weeks plus gp when we go really.

Tranquilitybaby · 08/02/2014 15:18

OffAgain - we are very similar too, I have children 11 and 8 but are off to the USA this summer so I'm currently trying to decide whether to says sod and TTC now of wait until nearer holiday!

Oh btw he said yes, DH is really keen to get started now! Can't believe the change in him! X

Hope everyone else is really well x

OffAgain · 08/02/2014 12:23

Hello! New to all of this and feeling very excited as we have decided (almost definitely) that we would like TTC no 3. We have DD 11 and DS 8 and have been thinking about this for a long time!
BUT....We have booked a holiday to Florida for Apr 2015 with my brother and his wife who don't have kids and are mega excited about taking us and the kids to Disneyworld (they are paying for some of the trip) so....I wanted to ask you all do I
a) get to it with the very rare chance that I will fall preg straight away and have a 3 month old by the time we go (is that crazy???)
b) wait for 8 months before trying and hopefully go there pregnant (worried about my ageing eggs as it is!)

Either way I know they will be cheesed off as it will change the dynamic of the holiday completely and I will be so worried about telling them. But I also know that I can't make a major decision based on a 2 week holiday.

I'm 38 this year and if we don't get pregnant within a coupe of months I hate the thought of then having to stop ttc for 6 months so that I am still able to fly/not about to have a baby! I don't want to deny my kids this holiday as they are great kids and we may not be able to afford to do it again. What would you do??